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Adoption is anti-family, says columnist
Filed under: Your Pregnancy, Adoption, Media
Thanks - I think - to Victor,
who made us aware of a woman whose controversial opinions have the adoption community in an uproar. Tricia Vaughn
Smith, who bills herself as "The Comic Mom", has nothing funny to say in her piece "No More Mommies?" After discussing
two women she knows who recently adopted a child, she asks: Why do Christians speak out about homosexuals adopting -
but consider it joyous when heterosexuals do it? For Smith, the enterprises of adoption and artificial insemination are
evil, no matter who does them. "Why does anyone, religious or not, think that forming artificial families is
acceptable?" But that's not all: she excoriates Christians who use Moses as an example of an adopted child, likens
homosexuality to cancer, says that people whom "God does not bless" with a child are "cheating" when they "take"
another person's kid, and asks her readers to consider "how often you've looked at an Asian child
with two people who are clearly not her parents and believed that they are family".
Good job, Tricia. You've just managed to piss off most of the civilized world. What are you going to do next? (Hint: I wouldn't show my face at Disneyland if I were you.)
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ReaderComments (Page 5 of 5)
12-18-2005 @ 6:38PM
Tangel said...FinallyHome:
I don't know what your family life was like, but most adpoteee I KNOW ARE JUST WONDERING ABOUT THEIR BIRTH PARENTS-To them, their "real parents" are the adoptive parents
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12-18-2005 @ 6:38PM
K.S said...In response to Tangel (post 82), *most* of the adopted people that I know (and I know many) want to know the identities of their original parents.
ALL people, without exception, deserve to have that information about themselves. It is their property, access to which is a civil right that all should be free to excercise.
If there are those who don't wish to learn where they have come from, that's their business. However, in my opinion, the incurious ones are usually that way because they are fearful of what they might find (opening up a Pandor's box). Or possibly they are afraid to rock the adoptive family's boat.
If adoption records were opened throughout the U.S, and there was no taboo against learning about one's origins, I am willing to bet the majority would do so.
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12-18-2005 @ 6:38PM
Mourning Dove said...It occurs to me that the mindset of adoption aplogists and promoters is the same as that of males who date rape or otherwise coerce sex from the vulnerable and naive--if you love me you will (have sex, lose your baby to a stranger), you know your "no" really means "yes" (so we're having sex/taking your baby no matter what you say), false "I love you's" (if you don't have sex/let us take your baby we won't love you anymore), etc. Then after the deed is done, the raped female and the mother are dumped and called names.
It's really quite ironic when adoptions begins with that kind of scenario and then the abuse continues with new players into the adoption system, the taking of the baby and throughout the life of the female. Seems a bit sick actually. This is why females need to be educated about this kind of predatory behavior in others from a young age--something most adoption fanatics probably don't believe in!
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12-18-2005 @ 6:38PM
Phil said...Wow Mourning Dove... what a creepy and insulting metaphor. Now people who promote the idea of adoption are akin to date-rapists. This isn't even worth commenting on, given my past posts referring to the extreme nature of people's positions, and the ultimate inneffectiveness of their argument. The sad part is, your good statement about women needing education about predatory people got lost in your disturbing analogy.
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12-18-2005 @ 6:38PM
Jay Allen said...Ok, it looks like this thread has jumped the shark. I'm disabling comments. Thanks to everyone for your contributions.
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