I had a home birth and starting pushing while lying on my side. I continuously pooped a tiny bit throughout the entire 40 mins of pushing - and it was all on video. I figured I would poop and knew I wouldn't care. I kept saying to my midwife, "oh, I'm sorry" everytime she wiped my bum. I wasn't really sorry though. I knew she saw it all the time - I was just trying to be polite (ha ha). I knew that I was pushing effectively and that the poop was a good sign. The first words out of my mouth when my son was plopped onto my chest were: "that was so much easier than I ever imagined" - kind of makes me wonder what I was expecting. So - don't sweat the poop.

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He, he. I had meconium in waters, so was pouring baby poo in a large stream. And it was truly disgusting - green and in laaarge quantities, even if diluted. My poo would have been pretty well camouflaged if I didn't end up having a caesarian.

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I am currently 6 months pregnant with my first baby. I was terrified of pooping in front of the ppl in the room and hubby too. These stories are simply hilarious. I am cracking up out loud too. I feel so much better. I still hope that my body releases itself way b4 that time. Great Stories!!!!!

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I admit it. It happened to me, but it wasn't until my husband mentioned it that I even knew about it. Labor and delivery staff see this all the time, and I'm sure are very professional about it in nearly all cases, as they were in mine.

And to Rach, I can't believe your comments, especially that babies aren't worth the humiliation. I'm sure glad to hear that you've decided not to have kids if that's the case. :b

Having a BM during labor is nothing to be humiliated about. In fact, my midwife told me that if it happens, at least she knows the mom is pushing correctly!

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I did it three times in my docs hands! It's not a big deal. My second birth was worse because I acctually threw up on my mother in law and then pooped on my nurse! Then when the doctor said one more big push I pushed my hardest and pooped in his hands again! But, no one metions it. It's not that bad. The inportant thing is your baby is healthy! And I'm a doctor!
-Katie

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Just an FYI for everyone, every one of the the anti-baby comments were posted by the same person using different screen names, which is easy enough to check if you click on their name. How pathetic do you have to be to make a post and then pose as someone else to agree with yourself. TROLL!

And back to the subject, I was scared of pooing during delivery but once I was in labor that all went out the window. You really don't care what people see as long as they get that baby out of you. And of course, once you see your new baby nothing matters anyway. :)

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Michelle babies aren't worth that kind of humiliation, how on earth can u argue that they are? For all your trouble- up to 4 stone gained in weight, painful birth, the pooing and losing all of your dignity in front of everyone and what do u get? A little parasite that's only talents are crying, pooing and hanging off your breasts every two hours! I'd rather have a dog anyday! At least puppies are cute, babie's are ugly bald, red things!

And the only thing worse than babies are the parents who think the sun shines out of their "precious angels" dirty backside. Michelle let me tell you something, most fertile couples can reproduce and do so at an alarming rate! You aren't that special. And neither's your child. So if u think u deserve a medal for pooing like a dirty animal in front of people in order to bring another child into an already over populated world think again.
You just signed up for the most thankless job that exists- motherhood!

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well honestly im only going on 20 and im not overly concerned about having a BM in my doctors hands,cause they have seen it more then once,and for my hubby seeing this i could care less an same with him, hes there for your support and to meet the baby u an him made!! (but i asked him not to share it with me if i did pee or poop an happend not to notice). an for that other womens comments i am 28 weeks pregnant even after reading ur crap, im still looking forward to having a baby Girl, sure its constant demand, but its just so worth it, knowing there is gonna be apart of u left in this world after u go, an watching them grow up is amazing, all my 3 sisters have kids the oldest sister has 5 kids an she barelly misses a beat!! she had them all natural.

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Rach, please go and get a life - if you really don't like children, go and write on an animal website - and you are such a hypocrite...if your mother didnt go through childbirth, you wouldnt be here, right? And Im sure that you are grateful to her that you are, right? Some of your points about having a dog are valid, but some are just pure rubbish. Dogs demand attention, are expensive, some arent attractive and can be more hassle than they are worth. Im glad you dont like children, as I dont think you have it in you to be a good mother anyway. No mothers = no human race. Beat that argument.

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no im not a hypocrite, i didn't ask my mum to have me and if she'd never had me I wouldn't have known the difference. And no mothers=no human race? true, but you're not going to be here in 100 years time to see the human race then, so if it did die out it won't affect you. Correct me if I'm wrong but there are enough people out there who WANT to have children to make up for the ones that don't. Finally you don't know me so you don't have the first clue what I'd be like as a mother.If I wanted children I'd make sure I was a good mother. I don't want children so my mothering skills aren't even an issue.

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Rach -

If you are not a parent, don't plan to become a parent and hate children so much and think they are such a waste of time, THEN...what exactly are you doing here on a PARENTING website? Oh yeah...TROLLING. Go somewhere else if you can't say anything to actually contribute to the conversation. Any oh yeah...go tell YOUR mother "thank you" for "humiliating" herself so much by giving birth.

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I would tell my mother if she were still alive, she died due to complications giving birth to my sister! and as for ur other comments, I can go where I want on the website and post on any forum I want to I don't need your permission or approval.

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oh and FYI (not that it's any of your business) my mother had a caesarian when she had me 20 years ago, so she wouldn't have humiliated herself by pooing everywhere.And the reason I'm on this website is just to remind myself why I don't want children, when I lose sight of the reasons why. I came on here and saw all the horror stories of labour and it reminds why I don't want to do it. Actually I would consider adopting a child. I am brilliant with my younger brother and sister who are 10 and 7 and always have been good with them. They adore me and I adore them. I just really don't like babies, pregnancy or giving birth and I am entitled to that opinion. Just like you are entitled to yours.If you don't like what I post you can choose not to read it.

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awk rach im sorry for what happened to your mom. That explains why you don't want to go thru labour!!
I myself don't have kids but I do like kids a lot. I must admit though that some of your stories, while obv meant to reassure us are actually a wee bit offputting.
I've met loads of women who have had children and suddenley having known them for all of 5 minutes they are telling me the most intimate details of their labours!! It's stuff that I really didn't want to know about!! Some people REALLY overshare these things a bit. My sister had her first baba before christmas 2005 there but she spent her whole pregnancy terrified of the labour. Why? Because women in her work bombarded her with all sorts of horror stories from their labours and stories about women whose labours went badly wrong. I totally disagree with frightening a pregnant woman like that I think you should keep your 2 cents to urself if you're going to do that.

My sister got rushed to hospital at 6 months pregnant because someone told her a horror story about pre-eclampsia. My sister then felt unwell and was convinced she had pre-eclampsia and total panic ensued!!fortunately she was completely fine and her labour was fine too. She is the proud mother of a 7 month old baby girl (Emily) but i think it's sad that she didn't enjoy her pregnancy. She's also adamant that she has no desire to go through it all again which I also find sad and previously she had wanted 2 or 3 kids. I think you mummies out there should be careful what you say because your experiences can often discourage other women from having kids!!

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Rach, yes you can write anywhere you like about anything you like but why waste your time on a subject that you abhor so much? I think your time would be better spent getting some counselling for your grieving. You obviously have not come to terms with it and you are still quite bitter about losing your mother due to a child being born. I wonder if you have issues with your sister? I pity you for that, as you take out your anger on those around you hoping it will make you feel better. I hope you can find some peace.

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hey mags,
thanks for being nice,
no i don't have issues with my sister, it's not her fault about my mum. True I don't like kids but I'm not completely irrational about it.

It was actually the hospital's fault, they screwed up my mum's proceedure, causing her to lose a lot of blood.We would have sued for negligence but the doctors at the hospital all closed ranks and covered each other's asses so there was nothing we could do. Besides no amount of money would change the situation anyway, but we would have liked to have seen someone made to account for their carelessness.

I have spent the last number of years therefore being like a mum to my brother and sister which made me realise that I don't want kids of my own. I'd prefer to concentrate on my career, being able to have a big fancy house and nice holidays. Call me selfish if u want, cos that's what I am.

I would also like to point out to all the pregnant mothers who read this, that I think what happpened to my mum is extremely rare so I wouldn't worry about it happening to u or anything. Someone mentioned on an earlier post that frightening pregnant women is wrong, and even though I dislike kids, I would agree with that argument.

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I'm 35, I've never had kids and at my age now I doubt I ever will. I admire women who have kids but I also feel desperately sorry for them because they must never get any peace! It's 24/7!!!

Everytime I'm out shopping there's always some brat child giving it's mother a hard time and my heart goes out to the poor woman!!! Granted you also see a lot of cute children who are very loving with their parents but the majority of kids I see out and about seem to be selfish brats whose vocabulary doesn't seem to extend beyond " I want...".
My friend's worse than I am though, she says everytime shes out and she hears a baby crying she feels like running up and shouting "Shut that f***ing thing up!" to the mother.

Just an observation but it seems to me that you can't go anywhere now without seeing tons of babies and pregnant women. If you really do poo during birth then that's an awful lotta poop out there!!

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I have 2 kids (both C-section) - didn't poop - wasn't awake - well I was sort of awake during the C-sections - another story for another time. Rach take time out. Child bearing is hard - Child upbringing is nearly impossible as you've found out - you had a trial motherhood (unfortunately due to awful circumstances) most of us go into it with no warnings! We need praise.

Karen never say never! I was 36 when I had mine - believe me a mother can easily tune out babies crying/howling - your friend hasn't mastered that technique yet.
For every bratty moment you see - there will be a hundred more smiles and tender moments you won't see. My girls drive me mad - but nothing can prepare you for the hug,a kiss and a 'I love you' from your child - it's like a kick in the chest! Totally floors you! I'd say they're worth a poop or two!

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