Birthday party etiquette: presents from guests who can't make it?

Filed under: Toddlers Preschoolers, Preschoolers, Big Kids, Holidays, Day Care & Education

opening birthday giftsEveryone loves getting birthday presents. But the generally-accepted etiquette is that, if you and your child can't make it to a birthday party, you have no obligation to get a present. Right?

Evidently, wrong. When a friend's son turned three, she invited six kids from his preschool. Only two of them could make it, but three of those who couldn't brought very nice ($25 ) gifts to the next day of school.

She wonders if the etiquette has changed - does the invitation itself now require a present? The only time I would give a present to a child whose party I couldn't attend would be if I was very close friends with the parent, or if I'd already purchased a gift specifically for the child, but couldn't attend at the last minute. What do you think?

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Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.
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