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Whirlwind grandma visit: spoiled rotten
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I love it when my mom comes to town. She spoils
us rotten. We don't see her very often, so when we do, we try to make the most of our time together. My mom is the
typical Auntie Mame. She loves to travel, shop, and eat. She lets my three-year-old try on her jewelry and put on her
make up. She taught my toddler to dance hula.My mom lives in a different world than we do, and not just because she lives in Hawaii. When we were younger, she was my Brownie troop leader and instead of doing the typical Brownie things like horseback riding and hiking, we put on dance shows or learned how to make pasta by hand. I remember once she took us all to the grocery store under the guise of learning about how a supermarket works, but really, I think she was doing our weekly shopping.
She is nuts, but in a good way. She can't wait until the girls are old enough to spend summers with her in Honolulu. (And, neither can I, to tell you the truth.) Sometimes I wonder all her spoiling will turn my girls into brats who whine at us to buy them all the same things, but as my mom tells it, that's what grandmas are for. (Good, let them whine to her!) She leaves today and because of her generosity, my girls have new spring clothes, and our fridge and pantry are chock-full. Dishes are washed. Clothes are folded. I try to keep it all in balance since it makes her happy to do it. How about you? Do you have parents who spoil your kids rotten? And how do you feel about it?
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
2-06-2006 @ 2:03PM
Tracey said...You're so lucky! I wish my mother were like this. It's actually a bit painful to hear stories like yours -- reminds me of what I don't have. Ideally, rather than learning to be spoiled, your girls will learn the value of generosity. Perhaps you can point out how good it feels when grandma does nice things for them & encourage them to act in kind towards her and others. After 1 of those magical visits, they can follow up by sending you mom their artwork, emailing frequent pix, etc. Teach them to be givers, not just takers.
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2-06-2006 @ 2:25PM
thordora said...My inlaws are the same. On one hand, it makes me uncomfortable, but my husband constantly reminds me that it's their way. They buy stuff. I appreciate it, but it bothers me some how.
My father on the other hand, gets to stay with us at least half the year, and helps us with them, babysits, and helps provide the "village" I want for my children. he buys them the odd thing, but realizes you can't "buy" love. BUT, the in laws are 18 hours away, so it's what they can do.
I try to love the spoiling, but I end up feeling bad.
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2-06-2006 @ 2:44PM
Tiffany said...I don't have parents that are tremendously involved on either side of the family, but I wish I did. I know all will be that type of grandparent. Consider yourself really lucky to have that kind of involvement. :)
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2-06-2006 @ 3:27PM
Jenn said...Hey, as early as infancy, kids recognize that different people do things differently. As long as Grandma isn't there every day, I don't think it's possible for her to spoil them. That's what grandparents are for!
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2-06-2006 @ 10:52PM
cherl said...Your mom sounds just like mine! There isn't anything she wouldn't do for her grandchildren. It bugs me at times because it can feel over-the-top, but I know my mom wouldn't be happy unless she could spoil them and that's just the way it's going to be. They are fortunate to have her as their grandma and I should count my blessings.
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2-07-2006 @ 11:20AM
HeatherJ said...Both grandmas spoil the girls and us whenever they come to visit. My mom is the clothes grandma and S'mom is the toy grandma. They both spoil in their own way. Whenever they visit are clothes get washed, kitchen gets cleaned and in the case of my mom, plants get pruned. It is great but at the same time I feel like we are taking advantage of them. My mom always tells me that she loves to do it. She wants to spend time with us and the kids (especially the kids)and so I try to not feel bad, but I still do a little.
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2-07-2006 @ 12:17PM
dakims said...It's so refreshing to read about people who actually appreciate their parents! Your mom sounds wonderful and fun, in fact she sounds a lot like my mother-in-law! When my husband was 3 months old, his parents sent him back to Korea to be raised by his grandparents for 3 years, so my in-laws missed his entire toddlerhood. But they are making up for it now with their grandsons! They live right around the corner from us, and my mother-in-law comes over every day to 1)watch Korean soap operas and 2)spoil the hell out of the kids. And me, for that matter. She'll feed them, buy them daily Lego supplies, play tag and hide and seek with them and when they want to play outside, she calls grandpa over to take over. My kids will always remember their Grandma as the fun grandma, while my own mom is the nurturing one. I feel very lucky to have my mom and my in-laws around!
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2-09-2006 @ 6:37AM
Alice said...This isn't really on topic, but I'm suddenly reminded of something my mother once said when I was finishing up a meltdown in a supermarket aged about five.
"One day, Alice - one day YOU will have children and they will act like this in public and I will stand back and watch LAAAUGH..."
I guess grandchildren really ARE the reward for being a parent, eh?
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