Anything I can do he can do better

If he's anything like mine, he can handle the giant stuff, but not the little stuff. Although, mine would have called sobbing and told me to come home.

You're lucky to have him!

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How can you ever get mad at that adorable face!
Well, mines adorable too and manages to get into trouble ;-)
Hey you know something, you should ask your husband why he doesn't crack, and do just what he does.
My husband has taught me to keep my cool in many, many situations.

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I often think that my husband would be a much better mother. He is much more patient and fun than I am.
Also, cleaning up vomit in the middle of the night doesn't make him throw up.

But then I remind myself of the things that I am better at. Which I can't think of an example of right now, but I know there has to be something.

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I can breastfeed better than him.

Phew, I knew there had to be something.

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We have this theory at my office. In some couples, one of the people is "the lucky one." The lucky one is the one whose partner is more thoughtful, more romantic, a great cook, a wonderful gift giver, etc. The lucky one her/himself is the one who loves that partner fiercely, but just can't seem to come up with a good gift idea, is kind of a slob, whatever. Sometimes, the lucky one is left feeling a little inadequate, because we just don't have the panache of our partners.

However, take heart, for the partner of the lucky one none of this really seems to matter - they do it because they love you, not because they have to or are supposed to. It's just the way they are.

In my relationship, I'm the lucky one.
Looks like maybe you're "the lucky one." Congratulations on your excellent choice of a mate!!!

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Hey, I've said this before, but it bears repeating: It's easier for him to keep his cool because it's not his full-time every day job to juggle the house and the kids and the schedules. It's a change from his everyday routine, whereas for you, it's constant and sometimes it seems like it's never-ending. It's easier to keep a positive attitude about something when there's an end in sight (like "She'll be home in two more days, then everything's back to normal. I just need to keep it together until then").

But, yeah, I'd be a little annoyed at the perfection, too.

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Dontcha kind of hate it when they get all perfect on you?

Also, way to go, Logan.

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I'm very impressed. Two weeks ago my husband was on a ski trip and the flu hit our house. The 3 year old threw up all over the carpet -- at least 8 times. I showed him to the toilet and he refused to throw up there because it was "gross". I finally handed him a bowl and he never once made it into the bowl. The 1 year old at least had the decency to throw up on the wood floors. I preferred the trash can. Anyway, in the midst of the barforama, I called my husband crying. He was on the slopes and he patiently listened to me as I complained about his absence.

Your husband is clearly a much better spouse than I am. Lucky you.

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Yes, vomit at 2am is awful to deal with even when you've got some help. But, sometimes the only thing you can do is deal with it.
I may have a skewed view of this topic because we just came off two solid weeks of illness in our house, including vomit and diahrrea, so I guess various bodily excretions aren't quite so horrible for me right now.

Just one of the odd ways motherhood has changed me...

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I totally agree about the idea of being a "lucky one". My husband does ALL the laundry. All the time. Wiht out asking or prompting or anything. He's better at cleaning. And sometimes I feel bad about it. Then I remember that he will play videogames for four hours and watch movies all day and nothing will get done.
I'm sure Melissa that you have amny, many fine skills and talents. And you know what, if your husband is as calm (and robotic) as you say he is, then he probably needs you to make his life more exciting and interesting!

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Without the "while your partner's away" part, you've just pretty much described the life of a single mom.

But I hear ya. Yay Logan for being so damn perfect. But does he always have to be so damn perfect?

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