Darryle Pollack: Parenting: It's All About Perspective
Calls for cease-fire on "Mommy Wars"
Filed under: Just For Moms, Work Life
I admit it: before I was a stay-at-home Mom, I believed stay-at-home Moms had it easy. Oprah all the livelong day! Special multi-layered casseroles sprinkled with cheese, a pink-cheeked baby smiling serenely from his high chair!When I left the corporate jungle for my maternity leave last August, I quickly ingested a bunch of crow, complete with birds, beak, feather, and feet. And I whispered silent heartfelt apologies for my previous ignorance to stay-at-home Moms around the world (Multi-layered casseroles! What was I thinking?)
I worked as a sales executive in various no-holds-barred corporate environments for nearly ten years. I have been a stay-at-home Mom to one sweet infant for 8 months. And I can honestly say that the latter job is harder for me. But I wholeheartedly believe that each Mom must make the choice that is right for her and her family.
And I don't understand the whole business of office Moms criticizing home Moms and vice versa. The reality is: both parties are working Moms, and both work hard for a living. But the media keeps reporting on the War of the Moms.
Now, in time for Mother's Day, at least two websites are lashing out at the so-called "war" and encouraging Moms to band together to fight for equal rights.
Both sites have petitions to sign encouraging the media to "focus on real problems in need of real solutions" instead of on the divisive "Mommy Wars."
That sounds like a good idea to me.
(Thanks to Officially a Mom for the photo!)
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5-09-2006 @ 2:36PM
karrie Welborn said...Always with the photo op, OFAM. lol ;)
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5-09-2006 @ 3:10PM
thordora said...My current work arrangement is 3 days home, 4 days at work, soon turning into work from home. It allows me to sort of see how the other half lives. I like having part of the week in both "worlds" and I can honestly say that I'm VERY glad to be going to work tomorrow. I've always believed that the "mommy wars" are born of ignorance.
It's also easier to focus on arguments without substance because there will never be an end to the argument. Fun for all.
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5-09-2006 @ 4:51PM
ann adams said...Thanks for the links. The only reason I can think of for the "mommy" wars is to sell advertising in the media. I think most of it is manufactured.
Even if some of it is real, we have enough legitimate concerns to keep us busy. Why waste time and energy fighting each other?
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5-10-2006 @ 9:15AM
Susan Newman said...The "real" war is not between working and nonworking moms, but rather between each of us and how we can be less frazzled, less overscheduled, and less overwhelmed by all mothers have to do. An article ran last week in USA Today: http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2006-04-23-cant-say-no_x.htm
that highlights the true problem most mothers have--they can't say NO.
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