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A mom's brush with terror on Father's Day
Yesterday, I spent the afternoon (and, as it turned out, evening) at my parent's home near the Oregon coast. The little "town" they live in, Elsie, is just close enough so that they share a zip code with the oceanside towns, and just far enough so that the land they live on is extremely cheap. They're one of the only "real" houses on their ill-kept lane peppered with mobile homes and old cars.
One neighbor in particular is acknowledged by the locals to be a meth addict and occasional dealer. And he has a dog.
My parents have known the dog, a German Shepherd mix, since he was a puppy. His name, ironically, is "MacGruff" and every appearance indicates his owner bought him as protection. He's usually tied up with a huge, almost cartoonish chain that still frequently comes loose, and MacGruff will run through the once-idyllic area, dragging his heavy chain behind him. My mom said she'd never worried about MacGruff, but often thought his chain might one day give someone a broken hip, or collarbone, or leg.
My entire extended family was there, save my sister-in-law Destiny and her daughter. Destiny was acting as doula for a neighbor, who was a week past her due date. We'd finished lunch -- trout, chicken, rootbeer floats -- and several of the dads being honored, on this day of theirs, had just begun walking toward the river to catch crawfish. When MacGruff went crazy.
Truman was standing a few feet away from me, playing happily in my mom's little hummingbird water fountain. I was talking to my sisters Abby; Jenny, visiting from Panama with her husband; and my babysitter. My parent's friend, Ron, was hanging out on the porch with us. When MacGruff ran up.
And it seemed wrong. Ron was giving off bad vibes. "Be careful with that dog," he said to Abby, who'd reached out her hand to him. Immediately MacGruff peed on the gate to mark his territory. Someone said, "No!" and "go home!" and MacGruff started growling. Everything I've heard about dangerous dogs was flashing before me. "Don't show fear" seemed impossible. Abby (my youngest sister and always the baby of the family) was clearly afraid and backing into the far corner of the deck. Ron was a bit panicky. I picked up Truman, yelling, "go home!"
MacGruff lunged for him, snapping his teeth and growling. And I started screaming at the top of my lungs. I don't remember what I said but even now as I type this my throat hurts with the terror and my eyes well up. I think I said, "the dog is trying to kill Truman!" because that's clearly what was on his mind. Truman was the baby, he was vulnerable and a well-placed snap could be fatal.
My sister Jenny is a missionary. She spends weeks every year hiking in the jungles of Panama, visiting villages and killing chickens and hiking through flooded rivers up to her neck. She jumped toward the dog, protecting the still-screaming me and Truman with her body. I have to admit that I could only think, "better her than my baby," and wished for anyone to take the brunt of MacGruff's viciousness, but Truman.
I don't know what happened next, but my husband and brother and dad ran back, hearing all our screams, and somehow the dog decided to leave. I got inside with Truman, who'd miraculously been untouched. Jenny was shaking and crying on the couch, "it hurts so bad!" I didn't even realize she'd been bitten. She had, several times. I was shaking all over and hugging Truman and sobbing quietly. I couldn't stop thinking of what could have happened. Everett could have been there on the porch, Truman could have been alone.
My husband, brother, and brother-in-law chased after the dog as my mom and dad tended to Jenny. The dog's owner came to the door after repeated pounding and yelling, clearly in a meth haze, and barely even responded to my brother's harangue. The dog was crazy, and bit two more people as they fought to get him inside.
I called 911, shaking, crying. At first I think they didn't take me seriously, but later, when the sheriff's deputy (who had a 1.5-year-old and 5-year-old, and was delaying his own Father's Day celebration to help us) took photos of my sister's wounds in the hospital 25 miles away, and then saw the dog -- he said he'd never seen a dog this crazy -- it was roundly agreed that the situation was dire. The dog was locked in the back of the cruiser, likely never to see the light of day again. The deputy showed us the digital photo he'd taken of the dog's bared teeth. That image still flashes through my brain from time to time, flash overexposing the teeth only inches from the camera, viscous drool hanging on the edge of his lips. Like something from a 60s horror flick.
Jenny's bone was bruised and both Ron and my brother had several puncture wounds. Truman seemed unfazed, playing still with my parents' two ridiculously friendly dogs, Emma and Jojo. Yet a few hours after the attack, Jojo growled at an approaching vehicle and Truman ran to me, whimpering. I hugged him tight.
"He'll be o.k.," said one of my sisters. "He'll forget."
"No he won't," I said, bleakly. "He'll always remember this. He'll always have that fear." I remember things from my babyhood. Something this terrifying stays with a person, always. And Truman's a wise soul. He's deep and this will cut to his heart.
I'll always remember, it, too, and though I'm typically such an even-keeled mom that I question my depth of caring, brushing off germs and the frequent scrapes and head-bonks with aplomb, I've been struck to the bone, this time. I won't shake that terror soon.
And I've learned to hate meth, and its ability to create such a monster, even more.
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6-19-2006 @ 3:05PM
Ethel said...Oh how horrible! I am sorry that you and your family had to go through that, and it isn't just meth - there are a lot of people who are too free with their dogs. I hope the dog is put down - when I was attacked by 4 pit bulls (who broke through their living room window to get to us) they almost killed my dog, my sister's dog, bite me and a neighbor. All I could think about at the time was how my little dog could as easily been walked by a small woman or little kids, and those dogs were trying to pull me down to get to my belly and neck!
Of course they were not put down despite only one being registered or vaccinated, the one that was already listed as a dangerous dog! It happened in Eugene, and I am not sure if it is becuase of how liberal Lane Co. is or what, but I hope that is not true for where your folks live.
I am so glad Truman is okay, I am glad you are okay, I hope your sister's wounds, your brother's and Ron's heal well and quickly without further infections (dog bites are bad). And I wonder if that lovely neighbor didn't also get his dog high also...
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6-19-2006 @ 3:11PM
momma2mingbu said...How scarey!
Thank goodness Truman wasn't hurt. I hope those who were bitten heal quickly.
Some people just should not be allowed to have animals.
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6-19-2006 @ 3:13PM
Ginny said...Wow, how scary. I wonder if that dog got into some of the drugs too? I am glad Truman is OK and I hope Jenny, Ron and your dad heal quickly. How brave of Aunt Jenny!
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6-19-2006 @ 3:14PM
Ginny said...BTW - I meant your brother...not your dad. DOH! :)
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6-19-2006 @ 3:38PM
HollyRhea said...My husband was bitten by a loose dog once, an hour before he was to stand as best man for a friend's wedding. He still startles when he hears chains rattling. It's been years, but that fear will always be with him.
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6-19-2006 @ 3:46PM
thordora said...Oh honey! I'd be FREAKING OUT. I hate that the way people treat their dogs ends like this.
He'll be fine. I have an unreasoning terror of bees for no reason, so I figure he'll love dogs.
Hate the meth. HATE HATE HATE the meth.
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6-19-2006 @ 3:57PM
Amanda said...I cannot even begin to imagine the terror you must have felt. I hope that your entire family heals, and quickly. We once had a cocker spaniel that had neurological problems, and that we eventually put down. She was not vicious, but she did bite my cousin (who was a young toddler) for coming close to her food. She pinned him down, and miraculously the only wound was behind his ear. He has hemophilia, like my son, but he was fine. It was horrifying, and terrible in every way. The reason for telling you this story, though, is that he has no fear of dogs or recollection of the event. Maybe there is hope that Truman won't either.
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6-19-2006 @ 4:07PM
Lotta said...Oh my god that is such a terrible experience. I don't think you or your family will ever forget that. God. I'm glad your "pack" surrounded you to protect you and the baby.
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6-19-2006 @ 4:11PM
vanessa said...How scary! And how horrible that someone would let their dog get to such a point--ALL responsible dog owners would have had that dog in to see a positive trainer a year ago.
What a sad story, for the kids and the dog.
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6-19-2006 @ 4:44PM
Tasha said...Wow, your story brought tears to my eyes. So happy that everything turned out okay, well at least only small wounds and nothing more. How scary, I sure hopr the dog owner gets in trouble and not a just be safer next time speech.
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6-19-2006 @ 5:13PM
ann adams said...I'm so glad you and the baby are okay. I hope the rest recover (at least physically) quickly.
I'm the laid back type too but that would have terrified me.
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6-19-2006 @ 5:41PM
Kobie said...I'm so glad Truman wasn't hurt and my heart goes out to you and your family. In particular Jenny - what an amazing sister!
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6-19-2006 @ 6:44PM
LS said...I am so happy that when all is said and done, everyone is ok. Bites are bad, but everyone is alive. This situation infuriates me... I'm a mom and a the owner of a big dog. This whole mess could have been avoided if those who "knew" the neighbor was a dealer had dealt with him. He should have been in jail for dealing meth. If nothing else, the treatment of the dog bordered on abuse - he should have been turned in for that, as well.
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6-19-2006 @ 7:27PM
Missy said...I worked at a boarding kennel for four years. In that time, I discovered that most dogs, even the aggressive or defensive ones, won't hurt people unless they're in a situation that is very scary for them or they're totally neglected and abused.
I've only been bitten three times in my life by dogs, all pretty nasty, and they were, oddly enough, all from cocker spaniels (totally inbred with neurological problems and/or high strung).
Also, as a HAZWOPER (hazardous materials and waste operations) trained environmental geologist, I've learned about all of the wonderfully crafty (read: paranoid) setups that the meth heads have for keeping their labs secure. There are almost always dangerous animals that have been neglected or abused involved (starved rattlesnake in a bag suspended over a door rigged to fall on an intruder's head comes to mind).
There are some really sick and depraved people out there. We, as people in our communities, need to keep an eye on this sort of crap and report it to the authorities, when necessary, to protect our kids.
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6-19-2006 @ 7:43PM
Phc said...God, this brought up so much stuff for me.
We gave our dog away when I was about 6 months pregnant because she kept snapping at people. We worked with a behaviorist who basicially said that she should not be in a home with children. It was the most awful thing I've ever had to do, but nowhere near as awful as it would have been if she had snapped at a child.
I am just so sorry that you had to go through this.
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6-19-2006 @ 10:23PM
L. said...I was bit by a German Shepherd when I was five. Eek, your post brought back some scary memories for me. I'm so glad your son was okay. So so so glad. I'm sorry your sister got bit, I think that's terrible.
German Shepherds are mean dogs, I absolutely hate them, and I think people who keep them for pets are complete idiots. Or, ya know, hopped up on meth.
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6-19-2006 @ 11:36PM
Jenny said...I am so glad Truman is OK! Your sister and your family are brave people. I hope they recover quickly. He may remember the incident, but he'll probably hear about it too, and I hope he hears it as "this is how my family loves each other enough step in front of a mad dog." That's a powerful love, and more powerful story than a story about a scary dog.
I lost my first cat to a German Shepherd, so I've never been a big fan either. However, my cousin keeps them as pets and adores them, so I know they are animals that are very affected by their environment.
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6-20-2006 @ 12:45AM
Kira said...God, how scary! Your sister is a real hero, isn't she?
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6-20-2006 @ 8:51AM
Jenn said...A co-worker of mine's granddaughter (two years old) was attacked and bitten on the face by a dog just a few months ago. She had to be rushed to the hospital and got stitches in both her cheek and her lip (her lip was bitten clean through).
The dog, who had previously shown no signs of aggression, EVER, was shot by its owner (the baby's grandfather, on the other side) about 15 minutes after being pulled off the little girl.
Not only did the bites heal remarkably well, but she has no fear of dogs whatsoever!
No dog, barring ones with neurologic problems, is naturally mean -- people make them that way. That said, caution is always a must around animals, even those you know well.
As a previous poster said, your sister is a real hero, and you did pretty well too -- even if it didn't in this situation, lots of loud noise will frequently scare off aggressive dogs!
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6-20-2006 @ 9:48AM
Aimee said...I believe what you say about remember things from babyhood. I am scared of dogs and when I was talking with my dad about it a few years ago he said that when I was nearly 2, I was chased by a dog and made it to my dad before the dog was able to bite me. All my life I've been sacred of dogs, I'm 29 now and I can tell the difference btwn a nice dog and mean one but that instant that a dog I've never met before comes towards me I panic.
Thank goodness that Truman was unhurt. I'm sorry for your sister, jenny, I hope that she gets well soon.
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