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Rob and I have gone on approximately one date since we had Nolan. We mostly sat and stared at other patrons in the pub and marveled that the world had gone on, blase and unaware, as our world had been tipped on its axis and stuffed with diapers, applesauce, and sleep deprived sandpaper-eyeballs."What did we talk about before?" I asked finally. We'd made a rule that we wouldn't talk about Nolan, because date night was about us as a couple.
"I don't know," he looked genuinely perplexed,"I think we talked about Jordi." Jordi is our dog. Apparently we are very lame.
Tomorrow is our second date night since Nolan's birth. I have a new bra without flaps and saucy jeans without winter squash marks. We have an adept babysitter who loves Nolan. We have 25 cent wings and cold draft beer waiting for us at the neighbourhood pub.
But, honestly, I don't know what we're going to talk about. Everything we discuss now revolves around Nolan. I wonder, should we actively try to find alternative topics or just be resigned to the fact that we are permanently and somewhat lamely obsessed with our baby?
Poor Jordi. We don't talk much about him anymore.
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6-21-2006 @ 2:51PM
thordora said...We LOVE to talk about our kids, since we rarely get to really.
BUT, we have never not had something to talk about, so we never had much of a problem. The first few "dates" you're sorta shell shocked anyway. Don't rush it. You'll remember eachother as people soon enough.
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6-21-2006 @ 3:00PM
Betsy said...I think it's okay to talk about the baby. He is the most important thing in your lives, so to not talk about him is to kind of have an elephant in the room. You'll then naturally go on to talk about other things. Maybe even the dog!
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6-21-2006 @ 3:06PM
karrie said...You could talk about going back to work, the sad trainwreck that is Britney Spears, what the woman over in the corner was thinking when she put on those pants, the old lady who was declared dead by her doctor only to wake up and inquire about the World Cup,where you want to go on your next vacation, why your watering hole stopped serving Hoegaarden...oh, wait that's my neighborhood pub issue. :)
Have fun!
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6-21-2006 @ 5:15PM
Heather said...Instead of avoiding the baby topic outright, limit it to some baby topics that really make you happy (that smile, the laugh, whatever)... then venture into inside jokes the two of you share or what you thought things would be like before you had kids... listen to NPR (or watch the Daily Show) to get an opinion for yourself about a current event. Impress yourself with your range of knowledge.
Or stare lovingly into each other's eyes and drink.
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6-21-2006 @ 10:55PM
april said...I would encourage you to talk about how you feel about one another. remember the things you liked to do before your child was born. Maybe discuss a desired vacation spot and how to plan that. My husband and I never see eachother as he works at night and I work during the day and weekends are always busy with our kids but when we do get a weekend date we go to a good dinner and sometimes discuss work or our plans for the future. Discuss current events or pop culture. Dont feel bad for talking about your child its only natural but realize you as a couple have to foster your relationship aside from the children to keep that romantic spark!!!
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6-21-2006 @ 11:20PM
Katheryn said...I know how you feel. We've only been out a handful of times since Benjmain was born 2 years ago! We're starting to get used to it though, and can finally find things to talk about instead of listening to the silence!
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6-22-2006 @ 7:15AM
Alli said...My husband usually talks about sports. I try to listen, but I'm not that engaging. We talk about neat stuff on the internet. And I talk about work. We talk about the house remodel project.
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