Six things to consider when adopting internationally

Filed under: Adoption, Activities: Babies, Development/Milestones: Babies

I have to thank Foodad over at noodad for this tip. He give six very important tips for parents to consider when they have adopted a child internationally. Specifically, he uses the example of adopting from China.

I have some friends who are anticipating adopting a baby from China. By anticipating, I mean that they have had some delays, but they have been ready to fly to China to meet their daughter since last winter. They remain ready, though I think it's been a heartbreaking process of not knowing if or when they will ever successfully complete that vital last step.

The Mom has started taking Chinese classes and wearing a necklace with Chinese symbols around her neck. I didn't really think very much about this at first: I thought it was cool that she was trying to forge a connection with her daughter in advance. But I didn't really think about how important it might be to her daughter to embrace her biological heritage.

I am adopted, and I "look" like my family. So, I have adopted their heritage (English, Swedish) as my own. So, I haven't really had to think much about what my birth heritage might be. It simply isn't important. Nobody cares, nobody even asks. But if I were Chinese, people would ask. Or they would look. If nobody knows you are adopted, they don't question how you came to be a member of your family. They make assumptions. But if you don't look like your parents, then there are bound to be some questions-- from everyone.

How nice it would be to be as prepared as possible with the answers when the questions come from the most important, and most vulnerable people of all.

Have any of you adopted internationally, or been adopted from another country? Do your experiences support Foodad's recommendations?
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Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.
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