Not quite able to leave the children alone yet

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The whole Blogging Baby team knows that Tuesday nights are karaoke nights for me and my husband. We have been going almost every week for five years now. Last night, we realized that our babysitter is out of town. We realized this about an hour before we needed her. Uh oh. Well, we had started leaving the kids by themselves while we go running, so we thought maybe last night was the night to leave them alone for the first time at night.

My children are all boys. Sam is going to be 13 in November; Christian will be 10 in two weeks. Tommy is nine in December. I had been babysitting for about a year by the time I was Sam's age. So, I asked Sam if he were comfortable with the situation. He was. I talked to his brothers about letting Sam put them to bed. That is when it started getting sticky. Tommy wanted to stay up. Christian wanted me to put him to bed. So, I did, and told him he could stay up and read. He started reading Frog and Toad, and read a scary story. I moved him to my room where Sam and Tommy were, left phone numbers, told Sam to call if he needed me to come home, kissed them all and headed out the door.

We got into the car, and started driving down the alley in back of our house when I whimpered and said, "I can't do it." I kissed my husband and got out of the car and walked home. When I got home, I walked up to the closed bedroom door. They had barricaded themselves against the night. I just turned the knob and swung the door open and stood there sheepishly. "Mommy!" They all rushed at me and clung to me. They were prepared to be brave, but when all was said and done, they were happy to see their mommy. My youngest poured himself some juice and came into the living room and played a CD for us. I let them stay up a little bit and put them to bed.

I don't know when we will all be ready for the next step. I am just grateful to recognize when we are not. Have you reached this Watershed? How did you know you were ready?

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.