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Some women have been asking, "Is Lesbianism dead?" It is a question that has been raging in women's colleges across the nation as more women seek surgery to become tansgendered men. There is an unease brewing in the gay and lesbian communities as women who go through with the surgical and hormonal procedures are more and more seen as having little gender loyalty."There are many people who look at what these young women are doing, and say to themselves, 'Hey, by turning yourselves into men, don't you realize you're going over to the other side?' " says Barbara Price, a former festival producer. "We thought we were all supposed to be in this together."
Aside from the political issues of tansgenderism, it is often the relationship issues that prove to be very difficult for women who, through surgery, achieve full anatomical maleness. While the surgery may fulfill one partner's needs and dreams, it can leave the other partner feeling confused and betrayed. "I am a lesbian because I am attracted to women, and not to men, says on women who broke up with her longtime girlfriend after she became a man, "I decided I couldn't be in a romantic relationship with a man."
I had a friend in college who spent over two years going through the transition to go from being a male to a female. It was a grueling and long process, one which she had to be 100% committed to the entire journey. I think it is amazing that surgical possibilities can help people find their true selves. It is not an easy snap of the fingers to do so; the judgment, inner turmoil and expenses they must endure are formidable. If there are children involved, the transition is that much more difficult. But if both partners are comfortable with it, then it will help any involved children deal with it that much easier.
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8-22-2006 @ 1:30PM
Keri said...As far as I know, more men transform themselves into women than vice versa. Correct me if I'm wrong. Not all lesbians want to become male so I doubt there's anything for them worry about. Need evidence? Check out the hoards of lesbians who attend the annual Michigan Womyn's festival. No men allowed, not even if they were previously women.
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8-22-2006 @ 7:03PM
z. said...Same thought as Keri. A lesbian is different from a transexual woman. One likes women as partners, the other feels herself trapped in the wrong body, doesn't matter her sexual preferences.
I do not see the point in this article.
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8-23-2006 @ 2:04AM
Kei said...Being a FTM transgender myself, I feel you've got some facts wrong. It's not that we're "going to the other side"... We've been on the "other side" the entire time, but have been "misaligned," if you will. Instead of saying "Look at what these young women are doing to themselves," the correct thought should be, "Look at what these young men have had to live with their entire lives."
And lesbians and trangenders are not related... I believe that the people I date love me for who I am, not what I look like. I couldn't date a lesbian, because she would like me just for the sham with which I've had to live.
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8-23-2006 @ 8:06AM
Brenda said...Could you spell transgendered properly?
Transgendered is not homosexual and vice versa. It is a feeling that you were born the wrong gender, it usually starts at a very young age. I can not imagine what it is like to feel everyday that you are in the wrong skin. It has nothing to do with being homosexual, it has absolutely nothing to do with what gender you are sexually attracted to; it is not really a sexual disorder. Being male or female is much deeper and broader than that. The sexes may be equal but I do not think anyone would argue that they are the same in every way except which bit you get to use during sex.
Certainly a 6 year old who feels they are in the wrong body has no concept of what gender they will be sexually attracted to.
This article is ridiculous. I am sure it is like the whole mommy wars the media is playing up the minority of people who are spiteful and divisive.
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9-23-2006 @ 10:17AM
Nicole said...The way I feel, is no one should feel betrayed. I mean, we are all in this together, being a F2M or M2F transexual or being gay/lesbian. I do have to give the transgenders credit. They now can marry, go out in public without stares with their partners and can raise children without people saying, "You can't have same sex parents". To me if we all work together and not worry who is on what side, we would be a bigger army to defend these buttholes who think we should have no rights.
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