Why do women cut their hair?
Filed under: Just For Moms, Life & Style
After some recent inspiration from a couple of the Blogging Baby staff members, I decided to cut a majority of my hair off and enjoy a bit of freedom from the weight of my locks. A drastic change in hairstyle can be quite devastating for a woman. One bad hair cut makes for many, many bad hair days. I know this all too well. About eight years ago I took a picture of a perky Meg Ryan to my then hairdresser and asked her to do the same thing for me. What began as a noble effort on her part ended up as me looking something like a poodle. It took nearly a year to grow it out and I have been the queen of long hair ever since then. Why do women cut their hair? Other than the obvious reason of having it hang in our faces, what possesses us to sheer our lovely locks in favor of a pixie or a short bob? I found an article that brutally cut to the chase and states the main reason we do it is to alienate the men in our lives, quite literally cutting them out of our lives. The author writes, "one of the key reasons why it's such a clear indication of displeasure when a woman cuts off all that beautiful hair. Women know how much men love their hair, and so when they cut it all off they are effectively cutting men off, from their beauty, from their attractiveness to them, from their love. It's a clear gesture of defiance, or dissatisfaction, or despair, a spiteful kind of emotional kick in the balls."
Although I do agree that this is one reason a woman might cut her hair, I believe there are many other reasons. For me a needed change was in order. The stress of my father dying, moving in with my mother and leaving my significant other has been weighing on me. The heaviness of my hair got to be too much. There are many things in my environment I cannot control right now. But the weight of my long, thick curly hair? That I can control. I decided I simply no longer wanted to deal with two feet of curls, and so off they went. The empowerment that I feel is exhilarating. I don't feel as though my femininity ended up in piles on the salon floor. In fact, quite the opposite. I feel younger, sassier and more attractive than I did before.
I know many other mothers who share this sentiment. For women who once had long, flowing hair, motherhood presents a new challenge. Time is one factor. Once a baby comes along, there is rarely the opportunity for a shower much less an hour for styling and primping. Another issue is those little hands entwining themselves into the roots of your scalp. It just takes one serious pull and a fistful of missing strands to make many moms decide to schedule an appointment at the salon.
What about our readers? Do you have any hair stories to share? And if so, any regrets? Or do you revel in your carefree short hair?












ReaderComments (Page 5 of 12)
9-27-2006 @ 9:21PM
Carol Archer said...Is EXTREME STUPIDITY a requirement of your job? Who said men are the prime motivation? Who is this so-called expert that knows what I am thinking and has appointed himself "spokesperson". Idiots.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:21PM
Rebecca said...I love my hair short! About 2 years ago I got a really cute Louise Brooks bob. Women loved it - men hated it (except the kind with dominatrix fantasies. Unfortunately for me, I have thick wavy hair which needed to be blown out and flat-ironed everyday. I have decided to stop fighting mother nature. I have shoulder-length layers that are wash and go, and my life is much less complicated.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:32PM
Kim Riley said...I think this article is a load of Crap. I come from a family of many strong and independent women. We are all college graduates and all successful in each of our fields of work. Most of us keep our hair short and a few have long hair. I am one with short hair, very short actually. I used to have hair down my back in high school. Then I felt the hair symbolised submissiveness. I am very aggressive and independent and the hair just made me feel like a weak little girly girl. I cut it all of into a 2 inch feathered pixie as soon as I went off to college. I always got many complements on my hair and on my personality. Some guys like strong beautiful women and shorter hair plays that up. I've had many great boyfreind and I have a really wonderful husband now. Most people tend to think that, my short hair makes me look more mature, serious, and powerful. My hair fits who I am. I think longer hair just makes some women look a bit childish, submissive and naive.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:24PM
Lindsey said...I personally don't let a man influence my decision to cut my hair short or grow my hair long. In my case, when I first met my husband, I had super short, blonde hair. Since then, it has been almost every color of the rainbow and back. I even went from the short bob to growing my hair out only to cut off 11 inches for "Locks of Love". My hair changes all the time. My husband is always here and is up for whatever change I feel necessary and loves me for me, not the hair attached.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:29PM
Karen said...Short hair looks good on women who have near perfect facial features. Some women cannot pull off a short hair cut and look better with longer locks framing their face.
Regarding women who don't have time to fuss with their hair...it's a personal choice to cut off an inch (of hair), or two, especially if the woman is a 'Mommy' and she does not have a lot of time for herself. However, if 'Mommy' cuts it all off, shaves it off, or dyes it purple, perhaps 'Mommy' is screaming 'SAVE ME!!!!'
I disagree with the comment regarding women who cut their hair off to spite their hubby or significant other. That's a bit drastic and mental, wouldn't you say?
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9-27-2006 @ 9:30PM
erin said...my husband likes my hair long. that of course is just him. many men are attracted to women with short hair. So as far as the stereotype goes, it's not true that women cut their hair to spite men. Or that thy won't attract men. WHAT A CROC!!
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9-27-2006 @ 9:30PM
Ruth In NC said...I also have very long hair and enjoy it. My husband has a fit when I tease him about cutting it but, it would not cause a divorce and no it is my choice. I would never cut it for anyone except myself. I also would never cut it to get rid of a man, adios is quicker and not hurting myself. Sometimes these so called experts are only experts in stupidity.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:30PM
Joyce Wheeler said...Well, I for one think that women over 30 that have long hair look like old whores. Overweight women (I'm one) like to keep hair long I think to cover the fact that they're fat - doesn't work.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:58PM
Kim Riley said...I'd rather proudly keep my short pixie and let men answer to me with,"Yes, Mam!"; Than be reduced to hiding behind a blanket of hair, crawling on all fours, and having to answer to men with,"Yes, Daddy."
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9-27-2006 @ 9:32PM
Jennifer Wright said...What a crock!! I keep my hair short because that is my choice. Cut men out of my life? I like men too much to do that!
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9-27-2006 @ 9:33PM
tom said...I just want to say that "A-1 STEAK SAUCE" is the best. I know this is about "hair" but I need to say this. My wife and her hair can go straight to hell. But my "A-1 SAUCE" never lets me down.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:52PM
Kim Riley said...I'd rather proudly keep my short pixie and let men answer to me with,"Yes, Mam!"; Than be reduced to hiding behind a blanket of hair, crawling on all fours, and having to answer to men with,"Yes, Daddy."
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9-27-2006 @ 11:05PM
Tiffany said...6 words: Long, wet hair pulls in armpits..... and it never stays in a pony tail.
I grew up surfing, swimming, and MOVING my body- active life styles are not kind to long locks. And my husband finds me feminine and beautiful whether my hair is long or short- strange, huh? ;)
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9-27-2006 @ 11:37PM
tony said...Every time my bi-polar, mental-case wife was mad at me she would get a terrible hacked off hair cut. She knew I liked her hair long. Well, what can you expect from a woman that did tons of acid, spent money she didn't have and had sex with her boss at an office party.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:47PM
Linnea said...Cutting themselves off from men?
Ironically, I shaved my head for over a year, and my male friends and the men I worked with loved it, and are always asking when I'm going to do it again and saying how much they liked it.
My hair is constantly changing, when things are stressful or I don't want to deal with all the problems in life, the one thing I can do is change my hair, and enjoy it.
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9-27-2006 @ 10:20PM
Regan said...I am currently separated from my husband, on our way to divorce. He loved my hair long, and I just recently cut it very short (an angled bob, nape of neck to chin length). Although it felt good to make my own decision about my hair for a change (I had a short bob when we got together), I also need it short in the winter months when I need to blow it dry, and I am a special needs teacher who is very hands-on with my students, changing diapers and doing feedings. Everyone loves my new 'do, and I do too, and what he thinks doesn't matter anymore. It feels liberating to have it short, but I'm certainly not trying to ward off ALL men!
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9-27-2006 @ 9:45PM
Cali Girl said...As soon as my man goes through Chemo and Radiation, and loses all his hair, and can relate to my ordeal, then he can be picky about my hair, But I have in no way "Cut him out". Which is completely ridiculous. Whoever said that has never lived without hair. When your hair falls out in handfulls, what can you do about it? And if Men want to be so shallow as to judge a girl on the length of her hair. they need to grow up.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:57PM
John said...Why do women spend so much money on makeup and clothes and get implants and then cut their hair short?
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9-27-2006 @ 9:48PM
Lili said...Yes and no... I've cut my hair many times for convenience and to save time and men had nothing to do with it. However, the last time I cut my long hair very short was in direct defiance to a man in my life. He made a comment about my think wavy hair being "ugly white girl hair" which he compared to the silky locks of his Asian mistress. I cut my hair the next morning.
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9-27-2006 @ 9:47PM
red said...I say, that cutting one's hair is a personal matter that cannnot be summed up in a general way. Some women cut their hair short, because they perspire from menopause and maybe the "sweats". These mature and beautiful women want to feel cool while they are passing from one natural phase to the next. Men do not have anything to do with it. When a woman constantly perspires she cannot keep her 'do right. Simple as that!
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