Is your teen dressing a little too sexy for Halloween?

My nine-year-old sister decided to be Miss Muffet this year for Halloween. I was surprised my mom let her, because on the model the girl looks like a slut. However, on my very falt-chested sister, it looks cute and childish. I have been dealing with sluttty girls for a very long time. Unfortunetly, all the boys want to go out with the slutty ones. So, I'm waiting until I'm older to date so that I can meet a guy who is worth dating. As you may see, my sister and I are very different.

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I know that these costumes are too sexy for teenagers, but if you go to the store and look at the costumes the kids are picking out they have an adult in the costume on the cover. The main problem is that the teenagers can wear the same size as the adults. The parents shouldnt feel like they are doing anything bad or being a bad parent they should just ask their child who is on the cover of the costume package and when they say an adult just ask them if they are an adult and when they say no you tell them that when they become one that they can wear that and by then they wont be dressing up for halloween any more.

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If a teen has a choice to buy they will almost always want to buy a costume, it's what they like to do! SHOPPING! But, if they get creative and "make do" with what is around the house, or make a costume with or without help, the "sexiness" goes out the window. My daughter who is now 15 has been a part of the crowd who always wants to buy a new costume, sometimes I let her, most of the time, I urge her to use her imagination.

Over the the tween and teen years, a few things she has been are:
* a 50's poodle skirt girl (I
made the costume)
* a vampire bride (covered
from head to toe)
* a strawberry tart (bought
costume that was very cute,
not sexy)

My daughter had a Halloween party last night, all freshmen were invited. Her costume this year? A 5 year old girl, complete with stuffed animal and little girl dress, tights and pigtails.

At her party, I saw girls dressed as: 2 Alice in Wonderlands, a black fairy (those 3 were the only "sexy" outfits), a pimp girl, and several other girls dressed as their guy friends, wearing their friend's high school "hoodies" or sports uniforms.

The girls in the skimpy outfits changed their clothes into sweats and hoodies within the first couple of hours of the party. They may have wanted to "look" older, but it seemed they wanted to fit in more, and be more comfortable too!

I loved that my daughter's first year of highschool is the year she wanted to dress up as a little girl... kinda telling, I think. :) Growing up can be scary.

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People, it's Halloween. Do any of you even know what Halloween is? It's a night of mischief (this is not the same thing as malevolence), a night when, traditionally, men dressed as women and vice-versa (among other things). Someone already mentioned the girls in her neighborhood going out as (male) football players, and that's a traditional way of dressing up (even if the football player thing is more modern). But if your son wanted to go out dressed as a "very sexy (female) witch," would you forbid that? I would think it was great. And really, although I agree that "slutwear" for the prepubescent is ludicrous (and unwise), what's wrong with a teen dressing like that for Halloween? Most teenaged girls in normal day-to-day attire already dress rather revealingly. Although it *could* get to be over the top, clamping down too firmly is only going to result in rebellion (in part due to peer pressure - but who wants to be seen as a puritan frump anyway?).

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Sexuality is a prominent factor in our lives and the lives of our children and we all need to recognize that and take the necessary action. As a female I know what it's like to want to feel sexy, but are our parents and role models teaching us to respect ourselves? Most girls lose their virginities at a very early age today and they don't stop with just one guy. We need to teach them that you do get more respect, not only in school but in the world, by keeping our clothes on. The more you show the more jealousy from others you will find and less respect from the male perspective. You can be popular with your clothes on cause I am, if anything you get more of what you want because your not just something to look at. These clothes and costumes are a choice, hopefully we as parents can instill in our children that it's not appropriate because we are the influence of their future.

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as a pre-teen, i believe these costumes are ridiculous 100%. some of the "popular" girls in my grade are going as "Miss Dorthy" and "handy candy". I saw these costumes for myself, and found them disgusting. no matter who wants to argue with this, these costumes are NOT APPROPRIATE! I am dissapointed in the costume store for suppling these costumes for "pre-teens and teens" and putting them under catagories such as "hot, hot, hot!" etc. i had a difficult time finding an appropriate halloween costume for myself, since i no longer fit in the childeren's sizes, and my friends are having the same problem. when i asked the girls why they are going to be the "sexy" costumes, they replied with "come on, its only halloween"
they're right. it IS only halloween. so why are costumes for teens being taken so far?

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I am 25 and when I was a young teenager jeans were low rise and baggy and tops either stopped at the waist or were crop tops, and that was every day dress, I wore crop tops under my overalls and insainly short dresses without tights to school, now my mom didn't know about that, I changed at school, that was the most rebelious thing I ever did, was wear clothes I wasn't supposed to at school. Now my senior year of high school we were theater dorks so we were going to dress up as prostitutes from Les Mes....but that changed and we decided to be 1940's pinups unstead, so we went to a thrift store got dresses that aren't anything special but for the time period would have maybe been concidered provocotive and did our hair and make up and had a guy dress in a 40's military outfit, it wasn't exactly something that looked bad, but the idea of what we were dressing up as didn't set to well with our older brothers.
I think oh wow look at these teenagers today, look at the Bratz dolls and the My Scene Barbies cause they look pretty hoochie none of my dolls looked like that, but I am sure that my generation shocked adults when we were teenagers

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Just a note about those Bratz dolls. When I first saw them come out, I knew right away they would be bad news and bad influenes on todays young girls. But, it's not just the way they are dressed. It's the subliminal message that is being sent to the girls through their facial expressions. ALL of their "classic" or "default" facial expression and body language has a HUGE attitude written all over it (hands on hips included). It just screams rebellious. I can't stand those dolls.

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I am a teenage girl, not a parent, but I agree - some costumes for girls are way too... you know. I've seen many costumes, some even under a girls size 12, that show an unreasonable amount of sin or fit so tightly that it looks difficult to breathe. This applies especially to the supergirl and bunny costumes. I don't know why society makes girls think that they have to be a sex idol for people to like them.

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too many sex offenders loose on the streets today, tell ur little girls the facts and teach them to protect themselfs. it may seem innocent until somethig bad happens!!

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This is a little beyond Halloween... There is a big difference between sexy and slutty and there is also an appropriate age. I work in a mall and I see some things that would make most people cringe. (the local word is prost-i-tots) all I think about is some dirty old man (or filthy younger one) up-skirting these girls and I just want to shake some sense into them. You can be sexy and covered. Girls need to learn that we don't need to dress like whores to get respect or attention.

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People are shooting up schools all over the county....
Gangs are infesting schools all over the country....
Kids are being abused and bullied all over the country...
Yet, this is the best that debate that anyone can find...
Hmmm..... ok....

How many among you have actually dicsussed sex and sexuality with your kids.... the ones that are old enough to know what sex and sexuality actually are?
It seems we are too pre-occupied with looks instead of substance.

It seems that this is little more than the age old debate about hating what our kids wear. That struggle will never end. Has anyone bothered to ask why they want to dress like that.... without making them feel cheap or less than human? Without talking down to them?

~CC~

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Forget halloween....Last week i took my 14 year old daughter to the mall to buy some sensible, warm, sweaters for the upcoming cold season......We (I) could not find anything!!!! Turtle necks are not her favorite so they were out and beyond that....It was low V necks and belly sweaters....where is the warmth in that. Everything we saw required some sort of lacy sexy cami under it. And everything revealed everything. It's very hard to shop for a teen and the summer season is even worse!!!

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It is up to parents to take control of the situation. Remember you are the "parents" and you set the rules and that is that. People need to stop trying to be their kids friends and start laying down some ground rules. Kids will scream and holler and tell you they hate you but that is just part of growing up. They will grow into strong confident adults who will one day appreciate your parenting skills and learn to incorporate them into their own child-rearing skills.

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I am so very glad to see parents taking a stand against this year's horrible costumes. I am eighteen and have never been the least bit interested in looking sexy. If a guy is going to notice me, it will be because of my character, not how much skin I'm showing. I began looking for costumes for Spirit Week at my college, which falls the week of Halloween, and was appalled at the ultra short skirts and skimpy tops most costumes consisted of. I'm very much a fairy tale princess type person and ended up having a lady make me a Princess Bride costume. Little girls and preteens should be kids while they can. And I totally agree with those of you who are against Bratz. My children, when I have them, will never have a Bratz doll.

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Thank God I have a boy!!! He is 10 and going as Zorro! Me and him always pick out an outfit for him! Last year the karate kid, before that a Fireman, a Lion, Hansel from Hansel and Gretal and lots of times either a farmer or soldier...never no violent and gross stuff. My step sons have always wanted to be dead football player or something gross. I cant really do anything about that cause their daddy thinks its cute but I refuse to let my son do that. There are plenty of other things to dress up as. I went as Cinderella and Snow White and a Ghost most years. Oh course at age 21 I did go as a sexy punk rocker...but I was 21 and I didnt bare a lot of skin, spiked my hair, pulled on leggings and a long sweater with high heals. You dont really have to bare skinn to be sexy! But if you watch TV and other adults...you see where little girls get the "sexy" ideas. People need to tell their kids that what they see on TV isnt real!

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I'm also a teen, and appalled at what's acceptable today. At my school's Halloween dance last year, a thirteen year old came dressed as Wonder Woman in little more than embellished underwear. She thankfully got thrown out and told to put on some clothes (in so many words).
And there was more - very inappropriate dancing - I don't even want to talk about it.
My friend, who always has an abundance of Halloween costume ideas, thought she'd be a cat. "I was one last year!" I said. "Yeah," she said, "I know. But I'd probably slut it up."
On the other, relieved hand, however, is my other friend. "I can't be anything that's not scary for Halloween. Anything else is dumb." She was Hell, the Norse goddess of the Underworld, last year. No French maid costumes for her.
Let's hope our race won't die out and give way to the "Transylvania temtresses."

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I am 18 and I went to a costume/birthday party last weekend. I had on just jeans and a tank top and cat ears with whiskers drawn on... and when I arrived at the party I was completly shocked.

I felt like I should of shown up in my swim suit or nothing at all to look like the other girls.

Halloween for some girls, is just an excuse to dress like sluts and for some reason they think nothing of it.

(I left the party ealry lol )

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Sluts are Us? Why pray tell would it bother you at all?
You have your own set of values, Others have their own. Everyone has the right of choice, Like it or not this is America. This is the choice set before everyone. If you chose not to purchase this item for what ever reason, thats you choice. Others see things driffent then you do. Perhaps a move to a country such as Russia may be in line for you. Your way of thinking fits right in with it..

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In my opinion, it is a good way to deal with a teen girl's self-conciousness. If a teen girl is usually a shy,conservative wearing girl, I say let her dress the way she likes on halloween. I mean, you see girls who shop at Abercrombie&Fitch and American Eagle who dress slutty all year long! I myself am a mature girl of 15, and my halloween costume is slutty, but expressive. I don't have much self-confidence, and you dare to take that from me? I think not.

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