Young parents: Do you feel some friends don't "get it?"

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I am the first person in my old group of friends to get married and have babies. While the people I've known since I was 16 are all busy with jobs and all the social activities that come with being in ones twenties, I'm busy breastfeeding, changing diapers and taking care of small children.

To say that we have different life situations and goals is an understatement. So, it shouldn't be much of a surprise that I have moved on to find friends that have similar places in life that I do. The majority of my friends now are mothers themselves, be they working or stay at home.

I find that my friendships with other moms are deeper because there is a lack of judgment among them. They know not to give that knowing look if I gripe that my toddler is acting up or say that my husband and I haven't had a decent conversation in months. They get it; they're there with me.

We've dug our trenches and are hunkering down there together, hoping not to get hit by any flying sippies.

Every once in awhile, a social event arises that means I must get together with these friends. It is not that I don't want a friendship with them, it is just that we're in different places now. I care about them, that's why I still attend these social functions, but things are just different.

We have a social function coming up next weekend and I'm already worried. We're having to bring my 9-month-old breastfed son along (which nobody knows about yet) to this function. But, I'm worried that this one person wants to share a room with us.

As I told my husband, I'm a grown-up now. I don't really like to "share rooms" with other people, especially if my husband and child are going to be there. But what would I say? I don't want to give in to something I don't want to do, but I feel worried about hurting someones feelings.



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Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.
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