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Disneyland: The most hellish place on earth
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I grew up in Southern California. In the '60s and '70s, I went to Disneyland dozens of times. At least once a year and usually more. It was part of my childhood. And yes, I have many fond memories, including being three years old and crying so hard I threw up on the Pirates of the Caribbean ride.
Today, I live about a half-hour's drive away (or two hours, depending on traffic) from the Magic Kingdom. I took my daughter on her first visit when she was four and her baby brother was still in the stroller.
It was a highly successful first visit, I thought, because A) we only hit a few rides and got out before the crowds hit and B) my dad paid for all of it. I left feeling quite pleased with myself.
The next three trips, however, were less successful, however. And I began to see Disneyland for what it was: A ruse to part parents from their money.
After my final trip, in which the then-seven-year-old proclaimed the day "the worst birthday party in the world," I can't say that I'm inclined to give
So take it from me. Avoid the Happiest Place on Earth.
I understand you have all been brainwashed into thinking a trip to Disneyland will be magical fun for the whole family. I have been, too. And indeed I remember when it was sort of a fun, wholesome place. I remember crowds, sure, but I also remember getting on rides, often times twice or thrice in one day! I remember the thrill in getting my name sewed onto some mouse ears, and eating those long twirly lollipops. I remember running all over Tom Sawyer's Island -- for hours! -- in unsupervised bliss. Disneyland was a kids' paradise. But somewhere between my High School Grad Nite and the time I had kids old enough to go to Disneyland, the scene had changed. Today Disneyland is a temple to the Bottom Line. Visitors come second. Profits come first.
Here are a few reasons why the Happiest Place on Earth, just ain't.
First: You have to drive through Anaheim, once a rural town filled with strawberry fields, now a flat, smoggy wasteland of strip-malls and garish motels catering to Disney tourists.
Second: The cost. It will cost a family of four around $200 just to enter the grounds. If you arrive anytime after the park opens, you will get to wait in a long, long line for the pleasure of paying your $200. Ever wait in line with a three-year-old? Nothing happy about that.
Third: The crowds. Disneyland has taken crowds and made them an art form that Francis Bacon would admire. Throngs. Teeming hoardes. Thrumming legions of unwashed, sweating, scowling tourists from the far corners of the planet, shuffling forward in the hopes of finding a ride that they won't have to stand in line for an hour to get onto. Crowds so big you can't move independently. Paralyzing crowds. You can't get on rides. You can't wander. You can't eat. You can't shop. Small children see these crowds and instantly shut themselves down. Soul-killing crowds.
Fourth: The cost again. There is lots to buy at Disneyland and everything is for sale, from the standard tourist tchotkies in the many shops to the premium you must pay in order to get a good photo with a Disney character.
Fifth: The value. What's your time and money worth? Is it worth hundreds of dollars to fight crowds for everything from getting on rides to getting a drink of water? Where's the value in standing in line for 40 minutes with two starving, over-heated kids to pay $6 for a 4-inch burrito that won't even sate a 7-year-old girl? (Go back and get a second one? Don't even think about it, pal). It's not hard to blow a total of $600 on a day-trip to Disneyland, and that's if you drive here. Triple that if you're planning on staying in Anaheim. Whew. $600. I bet if I looked hard enough on Expedia.com, I could find a package deal to Hawaii for me and my two kids.
If I sound like a killjoy, it's only because the experience I've had as a mom here has been so nauseatingly horrific. It's made all the more frustrating because millions of tourists show up in Southern California to visit Disneyland, which as a theme park seems to have tossed aside their enjoyment for the sake of profit.
I'd like to see the folks at Disneyland consider limiting the number of visitors in the park at any one time.
But that would crimp profits, wouldn't it? Bad shareholder value. Bad idea. Bad Julie for even thinking such a thing!
Well I'm not going back there with my kids anyway. Who cares what they do.
Now. Allow me to hip you to the many fantastic values for families in Southern California.
Like the Beach. The beach is free. Southern California has many. May I suggest Laguna? Seal Beach? Hermosa? Go online and pick one near where you're staying. Kids can play all day in the sand and the waves, gobble down the hamburger and fries you buy them at the beachside stand for $6, and can be carried home, sandy and asleep on your shoulder. For free. Your babies will love the beach. Your toddlers will play until they drop. Even your sullen teens will love the beach. You'll love the beach. And did I mention? It's free! And if you come off-season, there's a very good chance you'll come on that one weekend in February when it's beach weather. The $200 (at least) you save on NOT going to Disneyland will buy you a new bathing suit, a beach novel and a lot of new sand toys for the kids. Not to mention a very nice dinner at a
What's the conundrum again?
Or if you have to go to an amusement park, try LegoLand, just down the freeway in scenic
Here are some more kid-friendly destinations for families coming to vacation in Southern California:
The La Brea Tar Pits - A large open park with a hands-on museum and good food nearby. The statues of the mammoth drowning in tar have been thrilling six-year-olds for 30 years.
The Griffith Observatory - They finally reopened it! A sprawling art deco palace up on a hill overlooking L.A. This is where they filmed the famous scene of Rebel Without a Cause. Visit the LA Zoo and the pony rides in Griffith Park, too.
The San Diego Zoo - The Big One. Bring a lot of water and a hat. Your kids will be all over this option.
The Getty - what looks to you like a beautiful art museum set in the Santa Monica Hills is really a totally cool park to your kids. You might not get to see much of the vaunted collection while here with your children, but you'll have a great time anyway. The grounds and views and stunning. And the Getty is family friendly, featuring PB&J's in its cafeteria and grassy hills you can roll down with the management's blessing.
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11-24-2006 @ 9:33AM
Ginny said...I am SOOOOOOOOOO with you on this. I live in Florida. I was born in Jacksonvill and now live in the Tampa Bay area. My children are 5 and 6 and haven't been to Disney World. When we were growing up in the "60s and 70s", Disney WAS fun. Now, it's a friggin mad house. Who wants to wait in all those lines? I hear so many stories of people coming to Fl to experience Disney. They say it was a miserable time and a HUGE waste of money. I don't think I've heard anyone say they had a good time in years. Nope, we won't be going there until the kids BEG us to go. For now, we avoid letting them know there even exists such a place.
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11-24-2006 @ 11:10AM
Matthew said...Think that's bad? Try Magic Mountain on a holiday weekend. They don't seem to believe in picking up trash, and crowd control is pathetic. The security also appears to be afraid of half the gangland types, so they do nothing about foul language or inappropriate behavior in a setting that's supposed to be fun for children.
I've had a great time at Disneyland every time I've been there. I never go on a Fri-Sun, or on holidays. I have also learned that waiting until after school begins in Sept. that you can get rooms and access passes way cheaper online before you go. Disneyland also may be expensive, but I can't believe how much better they are at making the time there a real family experience. I have been treated politely by every employee, there's seldom any trash left on the ground to see, smoking in the park has been moved to very few select smoking areas, and there's plenty of stuff for all ages to do.
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11-24-2006 @ 2:04PM
dlbs said...Wow, my experiences at Disneyland with my two children have been radically different. We took our children to Disneyland the last week in August during the first summer of their 50th anniversary celebration (my son was 6 and my daughter was 3). We had braced ourselves for the worst and we were pleasantly surprised. With a very little bit of planning (and trust me, we are not highly organized, plan-oriented people), you can avoid the long lines at admission and the rides. We purchased our tickets on-line, so that eliminated the wait at the ticket booths, and we made sure we arrived at the park just before it opened. The longest line we waited in with our children was 35 minutes for the Buzz Lightyear ride. The advent of the FastPass really eliminates the need to wait in line (check into it). All of the employees and characters were wonderful. I felt the level of customer service was the of the highest caliber. They were all very friendly and helpful, not only to the adults, but more so to the children. I also have to say that, in my experience, the other guests at the park were also very friendly. I've always chalked it up to the fact that the whole experience really rubs off on people and they embrace the Happiest Place on Earth mentality. My kids are chomping at the bit to go back and I have to say that my husband and I are equally as anxious!
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11-24-2006 @ 4:29PM
Sandy said...Hey, Ginny, is Busch Gardens in Tampa any better? We've just moved to Florida, to stay for the next 3 years.
Thanks!
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11-24-2006 @ 6:41PM
creative-type dad said...Yikes! In the years we've been going, I've only had one bad experience and that was going on New Year's Eve about 8 years ago.
Other than that, stay away during the summer and any major holiday. I would much rather go to Disneyland than Legoland, Knott's, Magic Mountain any day. Yeah, it gets crowded, just like any other place. Have you been to the beach on a holiday weekend? Or the Getty, or the SD Zoo, or Sea World on a holiday weekend? It isn't much different-
The other suggestions you mentioned are good. But each is different in its own way.
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11-24-2006 @ 11:06PM
Sharon said...I am a former Disney World cast member. I worked there twice, from 1991 to 94, and again from 1998 to 2001.
I recommend Disney World much more than any of the other attractions in the Orlando area, like Universal Studios. The employees at US were horribly rude (we used to call them the Disney rejects!). Disney World cast members are generally enthusiastic, love kids, and actually work there because they like it (its certainly not for the pay, though the benefits were awesome!).
Yes, Disney is expensive, but if you think about it, for the $55 or whatever it is now daily ticket, you get to go on as many rides and see as many shows as you can squeeze in all day long. Tickets to a pro sports event cost more than that, and last only a few hours.
For a family with small children, my advice would be to go during the off-season (Sept thru mid-Nov, or Jan thru early May), and avoid the really crowded times. Also, go in early and get the free Fast Pass tickets for the rides that would probably have the longest lines (Buzz Lightyear, Space Mountain, etc). Leave in the afternoon and get a nap in, then go back. It'd be better to do fewer things, and be more rested and have more fun, than to try to pack the day and end up with exhausted, cranky kids.
I've recently moved to a city with a Six Flags, and hooo, boy, I really don't recommend that! Maybe I'm jaded by the incredibly detailed and themed Disney rides and shows, or by their fantastic parades, or by the clean park & friendly employees... but nothing else we've ever gone to seems to measure up!
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11-25-2006 @ 2:05AM
Weetzie said...You forgot Knott's Berry Farm. My parents took us there when we were kids, and we always liked it much better than Disneyland. There are rides, reasonably priced food, fun activities, and shows. I've moved back to Southern California, and was very excited to take my husband there. We agreed that it was pretty awesome. They have some nice roller coasters and rides for the grown-ups, and a varitey of kiddie and medium-fast rides for kids. There are museums, animal shows, and other learning opportunites right on the grounds. It's small enough to do in a day and ride your faves a couple of times, yet big enough to be entertaining. And it's CHEAP! $40 adults, $15 kids 3-11 - cheaper if you're a SoCal resident. I'd go to Knott's over Disneyland any day.
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11-25-2006 @ 7:33AM
Ginny said...Hey Sandy - YES! Busch Gardens is better than WDW in my opinion. We have season passes and go pretty often. We just get there right before it opens and can usually get on all the rides/in all the shows we want before it gets too crowded. When u move here, I really recommend the passes. You can go as often as you want...get the fun stuff out of the way in 3 or 4 hours and get home before it gets too busy. You can also get into Adventure Island with them too. Welcome to Tampa Bay.
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11-25-2006 @ 8:27PM
Wendy Mac said...I live in San Diego, and agree with the previous commenter about the crowds and prices at the SD Zoo, Sea World, and Legoland.
Add another one against Legoland- ticket prices for adults are now $57, which is more than Sea World. At SeaWorld, between Christmas and April, you could pay $53 and get a pass to come back any day you wanted all year. Now that's a family bargain!
Legoland also holds little appeal for children over the age of 12. It's a much smaller park the Disneyland, and I've waited an hour in lines there before. It can get just as crowded as Disneyland.
There's just more PEOPLE in the world, and they've got to go somewhere. I've seen the crowds increase over the years at both the San Diego Zoo and at Sea World.
We make an annual trip to Disneyland once a year. We plan it meticulously, we have our patterns worked out, and this year we went in October, and the longest line we waited in was Peter Pan. Everything else was 10 minutes or less, it was fabulous. It's all in the timing!
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11-25-2006 @ 6:56PM
Sheila said...Sharon is so right about the 6 Flags. We went to two in Texas and they were a sticky, graffiti, non customer service sort of place. My thoughts on the lady that hates Disney, is how sad. We are a family of 5 and have always enjoyed Disneyland and World. You make your life what it is. I'm sorry hers is so miserable and negative. But the worst part is she is showing her two kids how miserable and negative the world can be. When we think of Disney we don't think of the cost, long lines and all the sometimes rude tourists we meet, but the laughter, the jokes, the fun and of course a very once in a lifetime experience when a castmember makes your day. They is enjoyment at Disneyland but if one looks for the negatives, like that poor women, it would be better if she did go to Hawaii! I know her "complaint" list would be much longer!
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12-06-2006 @ 11:30PM
MCMilker said...Oh dear. I love Disneyland. I love to take my preschooler to the tide pools in Laguna, the California Science Center(free) and Legoland. I can't make up my mind. For local residents, the annual pass is the way to go at any theme park...then go during the off season and on Wednesday mornings. Three visits, 3-4 hours each and you've paid for the pass. Bring food from home and enjoy in the picnic areas spread throughout the park. Don't go on any rides with a line.
If on vacation - look on E-bay for tickets. As annual pass holders, we get stuck on a broken ride once every 4 or 5 visits and get a free ticket to return...which we promptly sell on E-bay. Legoland also does a similar thing - so look before you pay full price. Then spend the rest of your vacation enjoying the natural beauty of Southern California.
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12-15-2006 @ 9:52AM
Marilyn wilson Lund said...Julie,
We just went to Disneyland for the first time. My four year old and my husband had never been before and I had only been to Disney World. My experiences as a child are intact as happy, wonderful days and now my daughter's is as well, but we found the trick. We went the week after Thanksgiving. Both parks are historically "empty" these weeks. We did not wait more than five minutes to get on any ride. The only "crowded" event was the line to get your pictures taken with the Disney Princesses. We inadvertently got in this line because we thought we were waiting to see the Disney Princesses show.
There are parts of Disneyland which are really shop-worn and not even age appropriate for little ones. The Alice in Wonderland ride which is touted for toddlers is anything but. My daughter buried her head in my arm the whole time. Worst yet, it just wasn't a fun ride. The Jungle Cruise is also REALLY shop worn. I remember loving that as a child, but the animatronics have not been updated and it looks really fake now.
Overall, I would recommend going to Disneyland as long as you resist the ridiculously overpriced souvenirs, go in an off-week and don't go every year. Like everything, too much familiarity breeds contempt.
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12-16-2006 @ 5:44PM
Katheryn Moncivaiz said...I love Disneyland....the first trip with my four year old son was pure magic. We went in the off-season, early spring, when most kids are in school. The crowds were not bad at all. Yes, the food is expensive, and so are the souvenirs, but if you limit your spending to a few worthwhile items, you won't break the bank. We rented a room with a fridge and we ate lunches and a few breakfasts at the hotel, so that we really only bought a few fun snacks at the park. We went back again this past September for my son's 7th birthday, and again we had an awesome time. We went during the week, and we did not have to wait at all for most rides. As a matter of fact we rode Space Mountain and Thunder Mountain so many times, we wore ourselves out!
I think people who visit the park during the summer when it is hot and sticky and everyone else in the world is on vacation are setting themselves up for disappointment. Of course it is going to be crowded and uncomfortable then! If you go in one of the off peak times, it is still one of the happiest places on earth. Another thing I don't understand is why people bring babies and very small children - they aren't really old enough to retain the happy memories and can't stand all the walking so they get tired and cranky.
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