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An opposing view to gay people who choose to adopt
Filed under: Adoption
Although we have come a long way with regard to the acceptance of gay people into the mainstream of our society, there are still many people who are opposed to their way of life, especially when it comes to adoption.
Witness this column by Bryan Fischer, the Executive Director of the Idaho Values Alliance. According to their website, their mission is to "make Idaho the friendliest place in the world to raise a family." (No small task, I would guess.)
Anyway, Mr. Fischer is diametrically opposed to the idea of gay people adopting children, mainly for the reasons you might expect:
- Every child needs both a mom and dad
- Boys will learn how to be a man by observing their fathers
- Girls will learn how to be a woman by observing their mothers
There's a lot more to discern from Mr. Fischer's viewpoint, so it might be best if you folks read his column and make up your own minds. However, if it were up to me, putting litmus tests on adoptive parents' sexuality only limits the opportunities for children to find a loving home.
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2-04-2007 @ 9:37PM
Dana said...If the Idaho Values Alliance is so concerned that every child have a mom and a dad, are they also planning on banning divorce and forcing single mothers to marry or give up their children to adoption by married straight couples?
Most of the lesbian couples I know (my partner and I included) make a point to bring men into our lives (uncles, grandfathers, donors, etc.) as examples for our children. At least one study has shown that because of this, sons of lesbian couples tend to have _more_ male role models than those of straight couples. Growing up without a father does not mean growing up without male role models--likewise for female role models and children growing up without a mother.
I also find it funny that those who are most likely to say boys must learn how to be men from their fathers, and girls must learn how to be women from their mothers are also those most likely to use the stereotypes of lesbians as masculine and gay men as effeminate. Gender roles are complex and interwoven here in the 21st century, and can't be reduced to stereotypes for either straight or gay people.
According to the 2000 US Census, less than 25% of all families consist of a married, opposite-sex couple living with their own (biological or adopted) children. This means that children in 75% of families are growing up, and doing just fine, in "non-traditional" homes. (If they weren't, we'd have even more societal problems than we do.) Preventing same-sex couples from adopting will, as you say, only keep many children from finding loving families. To say that it serves some greater need to help children keep their gender roles sorted out is archaic and insulting to both gay parents and all but the most conservative straight ones.
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2-05-2007 @ 1:16AM
Uncle Roger said...Thanks, Dana. You said it far better than I ever could.
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2-05-2007 @ 8:20AM
Dawn said...I find the whole idea that anything OTHER than a mother and father would be considered a GOOD family. I do think that people who want to provide a good family to kids who don't have one should be allowed to, whether they're gay or straight, brown, white purple or blue. Instead of worrying about what those parents do in their bedrooms, why not start worrying about those parents who throw their kids in the bay, take a hammer to their heads, or one of the many, MANY other ways that they abuse those kids. These people need a new hobby.
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2-05-2007 @ 11:19AM
Ann Adams said...Amen, Dana.
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