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Filed under: Divorce & Custody
When a marriage goes bad and a couple decides to call it quits, usually the most important issue to be resolved is the custody of the children. But what if one of the 'children' is a beloved pet?
Although surveys have shown that the majority of pet owners refer to themselves as their pet's "mom" or "dad", the courts consider our furry friends to be mere property, to be distributed along with the wedding china and stereo system.
According to a 2006 poll of 1,500 members of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, nearly a quarter of divorce lawyers surveyed across the U.S. said they had noticed an increase in pet-custody cases in the past five years. In 90% of these cases, the pet in question was a dog (poor cats - they get no respect). "More and more couples are opting to have a judge ultimately decide which party will truly be the dog's best friend," said Cheryl Lynn Hepfer, president of the AAML.
In most cases, custody of a pet is awarded to the parent who also gains custody of the children. And while this may leave the non-custodial parent out in the cold without the kids or the pets, I think it makes sense. Divorce is hard enough on a child without losing your best friend, too.
Have you experienced this tug of love with a cherished pet? How did you work it out?
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
2-22-2007 @ 2:40PM
Erin said...Heh - we have this written into our cohabitation (prenup) agreement... I get the dogs, he gets the cats.
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2-23-2007 @ 5:57PM
Dave said...We adopted a dog from a no-kill shelter last fall. He was put into the shelter as a result of a divorce... neither "parent" wanted him.
We do. :-)
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5-21-2007 @ 4:23PM
Maria Wilkin said...I have a 7 year old Black Lab. My Ex and I argued over who would get the dog. We argued so bad that we put who gets custody of him in our divorce papers. Since we split up he rented a house and never paid a pet deposit. I was thinking he would take the dog when he took the kids. He hasn't seen him since he moved out. Fortunately, I would never do that to him. I tell him all the time I would never leave him. He has adjusted well.
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