Parent vs Parent: In favor of circumcision

When I unexpectedly became pregnant at the age of twenty-two, I was caught off guard by so many aspects of child birth. The decisions I was faced with sometimes seemed so overwhelming and at times I was not quite sure what to do. Luckily the human gestation period lasts for nine months and a majority of those choices were easily made by the time my son, Loren, was born. One decision that I had not made by his birth was whether or not to circumcise. On the morning after his birth, the doctor came to evaluate him and asked me if I wanted him to schedule a circumcision appointment for that afternoon. I thought about it for an hour and tried to weigh the pros and cons of it, finally deciding that it was easiest just to go ahead and have it done.

Yes, I know it seems like a rather casual way for a mother to make such a choice for her child. But I recalled hearing a story from my uncle who was born during the 1950's in France. He returned to the United States when he was in his teens and suffered many verbal attacks in the locker room of his new American high school. My grandparents had him circumcised at the age of thirteen and my uncle adjusted to life in a new country. My uncle said the whole experience, the verbal abuse and the actual medical procedure, was so painful that he would strongly recommend circumcising a baby upon birth.

I gave birth to my second son, Devon, when I was thirty-four. In the twelve years since Loren was born I have grown a lifetime and learned more than my share about birth and child rearing. I opted to have Devon circumcised when he was about four weeks old. In the years between my sons' births I had become much more educated about circumcision. I understand that there is not a medical need to have my boys circumcised. Many of my friends have not had their boys circumcised. Loren has classmates who have not had the procedure performed. But for us, I decided that it was best to have it done at birth. I did not give my sons a choice about the matter, but I feel all right about it because the boys have both had it done, and it doesn't seem to have harmed either of them.

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.