Are men born or bred?

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A couple of weeks ago I got my hair cut. Not just trimmed, mind you, but really chopped of and heavily highlighted. I was going for a more Carrie Bradshaw look, but my chatty hairdresser had other things in my mind and the end result is something more akin to a hardcore soccer mom look. However, I am a soccer mom and the response from everybody has been so overwhelmingly positive that I can overlook that detail. Everybody, that is, except my two sons. They absolutely hate this change.

The day after I got the new do, I picked up my daughter, Cassidy and her brother Devon, my 37 month-old, from their father's house. Cass could not stop exclaiming her delight with my new short, blondish look. Devon, on the other hand, took one look, poked out his bottom lip and looked away. Once in the car, Cassidy asked me questions at a rapid fire speed about how long the process took, could she touch it, did I like it, etc. I finally got a chance to pose a question to Devon about whether or not he liked my new hair, "No! I no like you new, little hairs, Mai-Mai. I no like you white hairs." That was that. Devon didn't want to look at my hair, talk about it or touch it.

Later that night I picked up my oldest son, Loren who is almost 14, from a sleepover. He took one look at my head, stopped cold in his tracks and shuddered. "Why did you do that to your hair, Mom? What was wrong with your other hair? And why did you put all those white, streaky things in it?" I explained that I have a serious gray root issue, I needed a change, it felt fun and that I liked it. Loren looked out the window, sighed and then replied with a certain sort of heaviness, "Well, I guess it will grow back and everything will be okay then."

The differences in the reactions of my kids got me to wondering about males and females. Typically men prefer long, flowing locks on their female counterparts. My ex liked long hair and most of the males I know feel this way. Many of my female friends who have long hair will occasionally bemoan this fact and wish they could freely whack off their hair for a new breezy, sassy look without all heck breaking loose in their homes. And so with my two boys I have to wonder if their reactions were born into them, have they taken cues from their paternal figure or is it a societal thing?

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.