Boyfriend sentenced to life, Mom to blame, says angry judge

Good for that judge. I know it's Politically Incorrect to say so, but good for him. We, as parents, are wholly responsible for the safety of our kids.

I feel for the mom for being abused by her "boyfriend". But she should have reported him for doing what he did to her, and she *certainly* shouldn't have left her kids with this piece of crap guy.

So, yeah, she deserves to be called on her actions.

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No, it is not politically incorrect to call the mom on her actions. In the state of Alaska, moms are just as guilty when they knowingly allow abuse to happen. DUH! If it were in the best interest of the children she should also be going to jail. She is just as guilty, and perhaps more so since I suspect (this happens too often) she used her kids as leverage to keep her boyfriend. Parents need to be in the business of protecting their kids, not using them or allowing them to be used. Unfortunately sometimes it takes the village to protect the kids from their parents too.

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Yeah I agree the judge was completely justified in bringing that up-how can you not protect your children at all cost?

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If they had evidence that she was aware and allowed this crime, then she should be prosecuted for the crime of child endangering. It would not be the first time that happened.

And why, pray tell, would this be politically incorrect?

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I don't think this is un-pc at all. But I can see why Kristin would think so - look at how people have skirted around the issue of the British parents whose little girl was kidnapped in Portugal. Only recently have I read ANYTHING remotely suggesting that the parents were in any way responsible, and it wasn't the article I read as much as the parent themselves saying yes, they regret it, but they don't feel they did anything wrong at the end of the day, because their going out to dinner at a resort restaurant was akin to eating in their garden at home while the children slept upstairs. In the end, they admit feeling guilty but say it could have happened while they slept next door - which is true, but still they would have been on the premises and possibly heard something. This judge was totally right to be angry at the mother AND mention it - I can't understand why charges weren't brought against her as well.

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I used the comment "politically incorrect" because so often I hear the opinion that no one is to blame except the perpetrator. Recently (the last two years) here in Iowa, we have heard about the horrid case of Jetsetta Gage (apologies if the name is misspelled), who was repeatedly molested and eventually killed by her mother's boyfriend and/or his brother. The mother did nothing about it. On the few occasions that I've heard people saying that perhaps the mother bore some responsibility, she was referred to as a "victim" and people said "it wasn't her fault", even though she knew the background and history of these two vermin she called "friend".

Given that scenario, I kind of expected the same to happen here. I am very happy to see that I was wrong.

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She should have been charged as well. There is a case here where the mother was charged for "letting" men have sex/ abuse her 12 yr old mentally challanged daughter.

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I don't remember the exact statistic but women who bring men (other than the fathers) risk a (something like) 50% increase in physical or sexual abuse to their children. The number is even higher when the man was a boyfriend and not a spouse.

I definately think that the women should be held responsible when they know and do nothing. Disgusting.

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I absolutely believe that that woman should be punished for allowing any abuse to happen in her house, to her children. Having been abused herself, she knew what he was capable of. Until women are held accountable for "looking the other way", it will continue. We, as a society, HAVE to err on the side of caution when it comes to protecting our kids.

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While we don't know the full story, it's obvious that the woman was a victim. Perhaps the boyfriend threatened to kill her if she reported on him. It takes a woman an average of EIGHT times to leave a batterer. It's not as easy as it looks. Just my two cents.

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As a court appointed special advocate (CASA) for foster children in California, I can tell you that she'd definitely have the children removed from her care due to her failure to protect them although I'm not sure they'd go as far as prosecuting her criminally. Your children's welfare must be protected at any cost (so says the law here) and the state will step in if you're not willing or able to do so. It's the most terrible power we, as a society have - taking a child away from their parents - and there are many times when there's reasonable doubt, but this case certainly wouldn't qualify for that protection in my humble opinion.

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Im sorry to say this: I think she knew what was going on and choose a mans love over her childrens love and safety.

She's not the victim here her children are, she may have been the victim to her own sexual assult but those kids are the victim to that mans molesting and shes as guilty for turning the blind eye.

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