Parent vs Parent: no more piercings for us

When my daughter was about five she began asking to get her ears pierced. Although none of her peers at her Waldorf school had ear decorations, she loved to rummage through my collection of earrings and pretend that she had some in her own ears. For a few months I put Cassidy off by giving her those plastic gem stickers to affix to her ear lobes, this was fun for a bit but she wanted the real thing. I decided to relent; I had gotten my own ears pierced at that age after nearly a year of everyday hounding my mother with, "Is this the day? Are we gonna get my ears pierced? Huh?"

Over the summer when she was six, Cassidy's father and I took her to one of those mall shops and got the deed done. Cass was a bit apprehensive when we got there, but after viewing the possibilities she was determined. She chose the most expensive pair of studs, no surprise there, and proceeded to have her earlobes speared. Not too long after that the trouble began. Cassidy had long hair at the time and the fine, silky strands often became entangled around the post. She hated having the posts cleaned and often insisted on doing it herself. After a few weeks we got the routine down to a minimal amount of drama, but then at an afternoon birthday party a mother was helping Cass out of a painting smock when one of her earrings caught on the fabric edge. Cassidy's earlobe tore and the pain was too much. Cass came home from the party and declared that it was the end of ear baubles for her. We removed the studs, cleaned up her ears and that was that.

I know our experience was not typical of all ear piercings, but I have heard enough similar stories to form the opinion that for many girls ear piercings are best left until an older age. Since abandoning her ears, Cassidy has amassed an extensive collection of body glitter and tiaras. She has never again expressed an interest in earrings, but she does look pretty fabulous in her sparkly skin with a crown atop her head.

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.