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When testosterone takes over the house
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A few years back a friend of mine was pregnant and knew it was a boy. This, to her, was sort of a relief. Although at the time she hadn't said anything to anyone about it, she had wanted a boy.
When I asked her why she wanted a boy over a girl she simply replied that she was just a boy mommy. Now that I have a boy of my own I know what she meant, sort of.
Before I got pregnant I never really thought much about whether I wanted a boy or a girl. Once I did get a bun in the oven, although I assumed it would be a boy since practically everyone on my husband's side of the family was a boy, I for some reason had pictured a girl. Not that I wanted a girl over a boy. And not that I really spent any time picturing.
To me it was no surprise when I found out I was having a boy. And it was no disappointment. Quite the opposite, I was absolutely overjoyed. Of course, had the baby been a girl I would have been equally thrilled. Seriously--I know people say they don't care about the sex but secretly a lot of them do. And they tell you so after the baby is born and they got what they wanted.
I just wanted a healthy baby, honest. It never occurred to me to play one side over the other. Then I found out I was having a boy. I warmed up to the thought of having another male presence in the house faster than the speed of light. It was firmly planted in the core of my soul: I was having a SON. And it felt great!
On a much slower scale, little things started changing within me. The more pregnant I became, the more boy-ish things I liked. Well, stereotypical things, I should say. Let's just say that I started taking a keen interest in things I couldn't have cared less about before that are often associated with boys.
And I became obsessed with those things in given time. For example, I nearly lost my mind waiting for the baseball season to start. Normally I regarded baseball players as overpaid wienies who were out on the disabled list for getting a hangnail. Now here I was pining away for them.
Next was football. The old me abhorred football and all things associated with it. Except for the New Orleans Saints. I always have and always will have a soft spot for Dem Saints, but now that I was with male child the desire to watch men tackle each other was simply cosmic.
I am now the one pushing for the Fantasy Football league. I am the one who peruses the NFL merchandise websites. Of course I'm looking for onesies but also a visor for myself. And this is coming from a woman who in the past refused to wear clothing that had labels because "I'm not a billboard!"
I'm the one who knows all about the Minnesota Twins. I know about Jorge Posada's (of the Yankees) batting percentage. I know things I shouldn't know like pointless stats and what people were doing in the off-season. I care about the minutiae. Wait, no I don't--I still don't care about that.
But I will leave golf on the television if it pops up. And I consider information I get from ESPN to be news. And I have opinions about certain sportscasters. And I know who's a free agent.
Essentially, I've turned into my husband. I'm the friend he always wanted, only he married him (her). It wasn't until I had the extra testosterone running through my system that the cycle was complete, though.
Now all I can think of is sports. Playing them, watching them. Thinking about which one my son may play and get a scholarship to college since living in NYC is putting us in the poor house.
Of course, my son may not be into any of this. He may prefer the exact opposite. Who knows. But for now, the testosterone is running strong in our house, and it has completely taken me over.
Luckily, I like it.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
8-27-2007 @ 7:51PM
april said...It really bugs me when women don't want to have girl babies. Some say that they don't like pink or princesses, or that they relate to guys better then women. They say that boys are more fun and easier to play with, and that parenting a teenage girl would be a fate worse than death. Anyway, it just makes me sad, do you really hate your own gender so much? Is being a girl that horrible?
I know this isn't what you were saying, but the feelings your friend expressed reminded me of a few mom's I know that really don't want any girls. Hopefully if they were blessed with a little girl they would change their mind pretty quick when they found out how wonderful they are.
Anyway, enough with my soap box rant. Interestingly enough, however, I used to HATE football, until I was pregnant with my little girl, now I can't wait for the college season to start. What do you know, she likes football too.
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8-28-2007 @ 1:58AM
Kris said...I am one of "those" women as the above poster mentioned that never wanted girls. It has nothing to do with hating my own gender. I had one sister, and well to be prefectly frank between myself and her I had enough girl "drama" as you would, to last me my entire life. I wanted boys to experience the other side of things. Believe me boys have their own things. I ended up with three and I LOVE IT. Would I cry if I ever got pregnant with a girl...nope but if I had ended up with 3 girls...absolutely.
K.
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8-28-2007 @ 7:05AM
Gry said...My partner really wanted it to be a girl when we found out I was pregnant. Thinking about it a little I realized I wanted a girl too!
I think we would have been just as happy with a boy, don't doubt it, if it had turned out that way, but we got a girl and I don't think we're more/less happy about the outcome, if you know what I mean?! It's your own child, after all.
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8-28-2007 @ 9:18AM
brandi said...The whole time I was pregnant with my first everyone kept asking me what I wanted.. as if it really matters seeing how your kinda playing Russian roulette. But I honestly didn't have a preference and same with my second, it honestly didn't matter to me now I have two boys, wether or not we have another well its yet to be determined but I can say it still wont matter. I have actually never understood the whole "wanting" of one sex or another 'cause truthfully you can't choose and you should really just be happy that everything goes okay and the baby is happy and healthy!
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