Does your husband go to strip clubs?

My husband goes to the strip club a couple of times a year. I don't have a problem with it at all. Plus, he tells me that the guy friends he goes with don't tell their wives because they're disapproving. They actually go during work. My husband is an attorney, and the guys he goes with are attorneys too.

Men who are repressed are more likely to lie, and perhaps, cheat. Lust is healthy, even if it's for another woman. The idea that marriage means you can't lust after some one else of the opposite sex til death do you part is repressed and bears little relation to reality. Better to be open about it than shame him.

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My husband and I go together. I have gone with girlfriends on the nights when men are performing. Hubby and I always come home to each other at the end of the day, and that's what matters.

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I would not "allow" my husband to go to a strip club unless it was an extremely rare circumstance (perhaps someone's bachelor party). Not because I think he would cheat on me, but because I just don't feel it is appropriate. I am not saying that my husband can no longer find other women attractive, but I think that purposely visiting a place where you are going to have another woman's assets shoved in your face and possibly on your lap is crossing the line. I don't see this as repressive, I see this as a choice we both made when we decided we wanted to spend our lives with each other and only each other.

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WHOOOOOOAAAAAA! back up the adultery train there 'me'!!!!
I would allow my husband to go to a strip club and he knows that, however, he has no desire to go, nor do any of his friends so its not really an issue for us. and, I have no problem with my husband looking at other females because simply admitting that a woman is attractive is not the problem, lusting, however, is a whole 'nother Oprah!!! (or Jerry Springer). In my opinion, lusting implies that you wish very much to have some sort of physical relations with that person. If my husband looked at another woman and said "she's a pretty lady" I wouldn't be offended, but, if he were saying "she a milf" or something similarly lewd and drooling...well, red flags would be going up!

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My husband hasn't expressed any interest in going on his own, but he'll go once or twice a year for bachelor parties. I'm human, and I'd probably worry a little if he suddenly developed an interest in going alone. Sudden changes in behavior are usually a sign something is up. But if he went out with the guys every few weeks, it probably wouldn't bother me.

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This is one of very few subjects for me that I have such strong opinions that I have to tape my mouth shut. Like the posts above, except the first one (me), I agree with mostly. I find this whole type of behavior, appaling. It has nothing to do with "cheating". I think if my husband was going to cheat on me, the last place he'd go is a strip club. I just think they are crude, cheap, tacky, blah, blah, blah. I hate porn and am very much a prude. I think it has a time and place and I'll say one more thing, my husband wouldn't want some other man's private parts thrust in my face either. There are those "cave man" times in our society that men do the bachelor party type things that of course he goes to but it's not on our radar map to behave like that "just for fun or something to do".

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I'm wondering why you're asking 'wives' this question instead of asking your readership in general. I think some of the 'husbands' could provide insight here (and I'm specifically thinking of the husbands who *don't* enjoy strip clubs, not those who do).

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If your husband wishes to visit a strip club, just let him, if he is the time of person that enjoys this type of thing, why not let him go? Unless of course, he agreed to your repressing him.

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My husband and I used to frequent strip clubs quite often. It wasn't the half-naked women that were turning him on, it was the fact that I liked it as much, if not more than he did. So I usually got more dances than he did, we'd end up going home (with each other), and humping like rabbits. I think as long as it's a mutual agreement, it's okay, but if one of you has any apprehensions whatsoever, it's only going to cause trouble.

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I think It is wrong for your husband to go to a stripclub and heres why. The first reason and perhaps the most important is the things that are going on in the strip clubs, like married men fingering dancers and sucking on their nipples I know this kind of stuff goes on in there, I used to be a dancer I KNOW. And I can tell you that half of the dancers are desperate enough to make money that they allow theses men to do horrible things to them. Reason number two what if a dancers has a bad rash or something contagious yuck infestation that will be transmitted to you "the wife".. Reason number three I gurantee you that you husband is looking for something to fulfill him that you not able to give him. Go outthere and find better for yourself and let him be happy paying entertainer to make him happy. Trust in your intuition if it feels wrong or uncomfortable than it probably is.

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