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Documenting the journey of single parenthood
Filed under: Divorce & Custody, Development/Milestones: Babies
The self-doubt of single parenting can be overwhelming. It's one of those things: like the death of a close family member, a cherished friend -- the piercing pain can't be fathomed until it's experienced in full, living colour. For me, the questions repeat and replay. I try to turn them off, instead simmer chili in a crockpot, mark conference calls in my calender, watch the sun sink behind the trees with my son on my lap. I take part in life's benign, essential daily activities but underneath my skin the sadness lingers and I'm not sure it will ever go away. What could I have done differently? Is my son hurt irrevocably? What will it mean to him, that he'll never have a full sibling? Can I patch this, in part, so it doesn't bleed so hard, so painfully? Worst: am I unloveable, on a long term basis? Is that what this comes down to? Please no. The chili needs stirring, I need cream for coffee, Nolan needs new shoes. Other things, please, other thoughts.It's something I don't write about often, because a lot of people read this blog, friends and family and ex-family and a lot of strangers who flip to the next story. And that's fine. While I keep relatively mum, I seek out other blogs, Moms who've been through this, who are helping cut through my pain while relaying their own.
I've been quietly reading A Garden of Nna Mmoy for at least a year now, and Andrea is a beautiful, emotionally connected writer. She's been going through a separation, and she's not afraid to document it. Her words are familiar to me, I have felt them but haven't spilled them, and I am grateful to her for repeating them and helping me know I'm not alone. I don't comment there often enough, but at least I can let her know here, that I'm grateful.
It seems to me that there are a lot of Mommy blogs, but not a whole lot of single Mommy blogs. I'd love to find some -- any recommendations?
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
9-16-2007 @ 2:40PM
Anji said...Well mine is a single mummy blog (even though I've emailed about four times to have my link changed on here and nobody ever got back to me... sob...). ;oP
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9-17-2007 @ 7:50AM
Denzylle said...Of the blogs I read, I'd recommend three:
Bloogs Blowing By is the one that's, perhaps, closest to your own situation - single mom, one child, close extended family;
Snickollet is inspiring - a recent widow with wee twins; and
Mom on a Wire - recently single mom, two girls.
I miss your blog, Kristin. i enjoy your writing.
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9-21-2007 @ 7:04AM
Charlotte said...I am lucky enough to be a parent with a partner, and since I had my daughter 10 months ago, there is not a day goes by that I haven't thought "All good karma and kudos to those doing this on their own!". While parenting has been the most monumentally fabulous thing I've ever done, and so much better than I could have imagined, it is constant, relentless and exhausting. If I never get the opportunity again, I wanted to say, at least once, to all single parents, that you do your kids proud. Congratulations on all of your efforts. I hold you all in awe. And if a child has one person in the world who loves him/her unconditionally, that can't be anything but good.
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9-18-2007 @ 3:32AM
Gry said...I second everything Charlotte just said..!!
I found this blog months back, and it's captivating.
http://dragonflylanding.blogs.com/weblog/
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