Ricki Lake ties sexual abuse to weight gain

god bless you.

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Ricki it alway'a sadden's me to hear about someone who was sexually abused. Yes, you guessed it, I too, was sexually abused. The thing about food was my only comfort's. My mother knew the whole time, as did my sister's. I faced my accuser when I was 23. And my whole family, including my aunt's turned a blind eye and deaf ear's toward's me. I wanted to die. At times I still do. You can never get over something like that. I only forget until I read stories like this and then it becomes fresh again. My only chance for justic will be when they die. And if I see them in heaven when I die, God can send me to hell. If this isn't hell already.

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at least my abuser is dead already in hell I am sure my heart goes out to you.

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Oh, to top my story off, I was raped at 24. He spent 15 year's for the rape, my father got nothing.

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A family friend sexually abused me when I was 5. My mother discovered us in a bedroom closet and ordered him out of the house then used a leather razor strop on me for "allowing" him to do it! I shut it out of my mind for many years, but it has caused me problems in my sex life until I kept wondering why why why? Then bits and fragments started coming back. Sexual abuse causes many problems....some of which the victim tries to bury mentally but are still there. Better if my mother had used the razor strop on him instead of me!!!

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My mother walked in on us when I was 4. I remembered there was a big fight and my mother pushing me into my bedroom that was very dark. After that, she was alway's telling him to take Paula, whenever he had to do anything. It was like she sacrificed me to save the other's. That and the fact that she didn't want to have sex with him. I was 16 before I could end the torment I was living. He was a big mean man and I was only 98lbs. back then. After that, I had many guy's then ballooned up to 190lbs. and I still go back and forth. And men are all ass holes and I wouldn't take any of them now.

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Let's talk about the people who do the bashing of people who have been sexually abused. My parent's would bash everyone else's misdeed's and why, to cover up what they were doing to me. Hmmmmmmmm True blue hipocrits. So bash away pervert's.

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i was to abused as a child.i never forgot about it and i too turned to food for comfort.half of these people saying that rikki was using her weight gain as an excuse saying it was sexual abuse.well you know now of you know her and can not say for sure she is lying.it is not something you can just put behind you like it never happened.i now have kids and i have to protect them and i vowed never to let no one touch or hurt my kids.i hardly let them out of my sight.they go to school and come home so i know where they are at all times.

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Who cares how much she weighs? If I had her money I'd be fat too!

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Could it be that the people who do the bashing like these people here and my sister's are jealous of us? I know that sound's sick but more than once the thought has hit my head. That's why they try to torment us. I had to walk away from my family, and my sister's. I can't tell you how many conversation's I had with my sister's who sounded like they were jealous, and I have to say WHY? Do they want to have been abused? Did they get so little attention as children that they wished something like that would have happened to them? Sorry, but, I am educated and No one more than me could have thought about why this happen's and fought hard to understand and this is what I have observed. How sick is that?

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Jessica says "I think before you start commenting on something you apparently know little about maybe you should get a higher level of education than what have..."

Well Jessica, I say you should learn how to use grammar properly before you comment on anyones level of education.

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Hi, grace--thanks for your comments. Thank god we do have the option of places to go to such as rape crisis centers and the like, and I am sorry to hear that so many women did not have this option available to them.

Actually I recently found out an old acquaintance was raped. She went to the rape crisis center first then to the police, who basically blew her off for not following a protocal she didn't even know about. I mean, if it were me I would've gone to the crisis center first--that seems logical and helpful in such an awful time, moreso than the police.

She was chastized for her behavior--when she was raped for god's sake.

It really makes me angry that women are subjected to this kind of torture and then treated poorly because of it.

Thank you and all of you who've been commenting for sharing your stories here. I think, in some way, it helps to be able to share.

Nothing can change what happened, and, frankly, it's chilling to see there are so many among us who've had this happen, but at least there is a community willing to talk about it and trying to heal.

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I am 100lbs overweight(according to BMI), so who gets the blame for this? ME! I see big fat flabby people all the time, most are much shorter then I, I'm 6'3". I know several people in this predicament and they are some of the laziest people I know. Eat a good diet again and I'll be back to normal!

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wow...i am appalled by the lack of compassion and straight-up RUDENESS people have expressed over this topic. EVERYONE has issues, that is true. some people can get past them easily while others have a harder time. everyone is different and i think that acknowledging that rather than talking shit is the key to being a compassionate, loving person. why be mean and rude and subject another to pain because you dont understand WHY they're the way they are? i have reported a few comments on this blog because of how absolutely offended I have been! (and i do not get offended easily!)

2 of my best friends in my life were sexually abused for years as children. both of them took a very long time to get over it and both of them were extremely over-weight at one time. they did not know one another and they both stated the same reason....they were "hiding" inside of their shells to be safe. once they worked through the issues, they've both lost weight and have healthy, full lives. Ricky Lake makes a lot of sense in her statements. A lot of you DONT!

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Hi, toni. Thanks for your comment and for reporting the offensive comments. I agree w/you about everyone being different and considering other perspectives.

I also do not respond to negative comments--I just can't bring myself to acknowledge such rudeness.

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