Are you my daddy?

Filed under: Just For Dads, Divorce & Custody, In The News, Sex

Not long before he passed away, my dad and I were on our way to the Vintage Computer Festival and drove past the cemetery where my mother was buried. My dad, looking at the rows of gravestones, asked me "where is your father buried?" Now, I'm pretty sure that it was the dementia or an effect of the many strokes he'd had and that he meant to ask either where my mom was buried or where he was going to be buried. Still, for a brief moment, I was rather taken aback.

Of course, it doesn't really matter -- he is still my dad regardless of any hypothetical genetic differences. Still, to some people, it does matter. Apparently, in Australia, it matters a lot. Some men's groups are calling for mandatory paternity tests at birth. I guess there have been a lot of cases where guys paid support for a child that wasn't really theirs.

On the one hand, by making it mandatory, even silly doubts can be put to rest without the specter of suspicion causing trouble. On the other hand, men who want to raise a child as their own regardless of whether or not they are the genetic parent may not be able to do so. I'm not sure which way is the right way.

Personally, there is no way -- as much as I'd like to deny it sometimes -- that I am not the biological father of Jared and Sara. Even if I weren't, however, I would still be their dad. Just as, regardless of any miniscule possibilities to the contrary, my dad is and always will be my dad. Period. (I love you dad!)


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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.