Traveling for the holidays
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Ah, December. It's a month I look forward to in a way, one that should be filled with evenings of hot chocolate by the fireside and sugarplum fairies. It should be filled with snow-covered trees and wrapping up in warm blankets with the rest of the family. Instead it's a month of travel, deciding to travel, and recovering from traveling.
This is not necessarily a bad thing. Hey--I live in New York City, and the rest of my family and my husband's family all live elsewhere. They aren't interested in coming here for the holidays since we have only a one-bedroom apartment and the cost for a hotel stay go from exorbitant to outrageous at the first ho ho ho. If we want to see family for the holidays, we have to go to them.
Before I had a baby I didn't really mind so much. Sure the traffic on the way to the airport was iffy and the possibility of the overly-full flights taking off on time was a myth but everyone was filled with the holiday spirit--or perhaps too much caffeine and sugar from Starbucks in the dining area--so it didn't matter.
Plus, after all the madness, my smiling family was waiting there for me at the other airport, waiting to give me hugs and presents and take us out to my favorite local restaurant because we hadn't eaten since 5:00 AM when we left the house in Brooklyn.
This year, however, we have a baby. We've road-tripped him before, as I did this past summer when we went from New York to Ohio into Kentucky and then up to Indiana on the way back. We rented a car and packed up everything we owned and the dogs and off we went.
This summer, however, the weather was delightful and we had plenty of time for the journey/ I was on maternity leave and my husband had oodles of unused vacation time at his disposal. We're considering taking another such roadtrip for the holidays this December, when the weather gets notoriously bad and I have basically no time off due to starting a new job.
Still, we're troopers, and the trip can be undertaken. Instead of taking two days to get there we'll have to do it in one. Instead of getting to see most of the parents, though, we'll only get to see one set. And I imagine I won't get to do much more than holler across the river to my pals in Indiana.
At this point, the trip won't cost us anything like it did last summer. We have our own car now with our own insurance and all that good stuff. We've made the trip with Mr. Pickles before so we know what works for babies and what doesn't. Should the weather get bad we can simply call off the trip--no reservations to cancel or money to be lost on airfare or any of that. All in all it sounds like a good idea.
We could fly but that would add to the cost. Plus the airports at this time of year are a total disaster where the individual has no say and no control over how poorly he/she is treated. Driving puts the individual back in charge in a way. Besides, I love a good roadtrip.
The only problem with this is the tiny amount of time off I have and the fact that there are millions of motorists out there with the same idea. And, during the holidays, they're more likely to drink, drive too fast. etc.
Trying to fit what should be a long-term trip into a few short days over one of the biggest holidays of the year sounds taxing at best. But, who knows? We haven't even made the decision to travel yet. In fact, we'd prefer it since we have an infant, if someone would come visit us for the holidays, for once.
The chances of that happening, however, are about as good as spotting Rudolph on the New Jersey Turnpike. It'll be an adventure, for sure, should we hit the road. At least we can decide to go at the last minute (or not)!
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12-03-2007 @ 10:27PM
Eva said...Ha, I actually just posted about this. We decided to minimize the travel. :)
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12-05-2007 @ 8:58AM
kelly.leahy said...I think this is our last year of Christmas travel. Two kids to too many and I'd like to start our own traditions here in NOLA.
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12-04-2007 @ 12:19AM
rebecca Biernesser said...We were asked to fly out to calfornia for christmas this year. But I had to say no. three kids(two under 2), sleeping arrangements, car seats, gifts from mom and dad, santa gifts, etc. there was noooo way I was flying, So we get to stay home and be with my family (YEAH!!!!) which means christmas day at my mom's with everyone present and on the 26th everyone travels down to the farm house(5 hrs) and hunt and play in the woods for a week. Most everyone on my side takes off of work the time between christmas and new years.
If you can manage it, be with your family, but if not and you want people to see you, take the money you would have used for gas, etc and pay for the hotel room for them to come see ya'll.
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12-04-2007 @ 12:28AM
SKL said...Only thing about a road trip is what happens if there's a blizzard - but like you said, you can always call it off.
I will continue to visit the folks. They are not that far away, but far enough for it to be a big production to travel there. After my first visit, I left a bunch of stuff at their house so I don't have to cart it back and forth. Two pack-and-plays, booster / feeding seats, potty chairs, "superyard," etc. It's still a big production, but the alternative is for me to do the holiday cooking, so I figure it's a wash.
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12-04-2007 @ 3:00AM
Tamyu said...We take the road trip up to visit the relatives (in-laws, in my case) every month or two. Far more in the summer, as they live about 5 minutes from the beach.
I assume we`ll be going up for the winter holidays too, unless there is a case of severe weather. We have to drive over the mountains to get there, so while the weather may not be all that bad at their place... Being stuck in the mountains during a blizzard isn`t my idea of fun.
That said, we have never really canceled the trip due to snow. Just moved the date, and in the worst cases put chains on our tires. We go enough to know which roads have the least incline, and which have the riskiest spots.
It`s one of those trips that is too close to fly - even if we could. I don`t believe there is an airport near them. Before we had my son, we would sometimes take the train up. But that was a 6 or 7 hour trip. By car it`s about 5, and my son is much happier in his seat than with the temptation of running around the train right in front of him.
All the relatives on my side are in the US. The chance of taking the trip in any time other than off season is zilch. And even then, it`s a once every 3 or 4 years sort of thing.
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12-04-2007 @ 10:47AM
maria said...For years before and after kids we alternated Christmas here w/in-laws traveling and local in-laws or traveling 1200 miles to Iowa. Two year ago we said - our kids (then 1, 4 and 6) need their own traditions - we will celebrate Christmas morning in our own home. So we still have a lot of ILs at our house Christmas Eve and go to a SIL's 20 minutes away Christmas afternoon - but Christmas morning is just us or us and whichever grandparents come our way. This year we're flying to Iowa on the 26th. We're lucky - my ILs grumble but my parents totally understand.
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12-05-2007 @ 8:59AM
J Jordan said...Hi, Kelly. I agree with you--I think it's time to start some holiday traditions of our own!!!!
PS--baby totally going to second week of Jazz Fest 2008--maybe we can meet up and introduce our little ones!
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