My son, the alien

Filed under: Development/Milestones: Babies, Sex

Does your child look like you? It's fairly common to hear someone tell a parent how their child looks like them or to point out the obvious resemblance. However, have you ever had someone ask you if your child was yours or if he was adopted?

At first glance, my son doesn't favor me much. You see, I'm the mother of a biracial child. Truthfully, it doesn't seem like a big deal, really, at least not to me. As a matter of fact, isn't it quite common these days? Then why do people still ask strange questions?

More than once, I have been in public with my son and someone with too much time on her hands will be looking us over with her brow furrowed, not quite sure what to make of us. I can predict with almost 100% accuracy when someone is going to ask me a question. They get this puzzled look on their face, they open their mouth and start to speak, stop to question themselves, and then move forward with the question. With a nervous laugh, they will ask, "What is your son?" (Seriously.) I have now learned to pause, look confused, and ask them, "What do you mean?" They will then try to figure out how to appropriately word their inappropriate question. "Well, what is he?" My response now is always, "He's a boy, you can't tell? "

Problem is, a lot of people don't get the message. They will laugh and try to clear up my confusion by rambling, asking me what race he is and where I got him from. I just smile politely, stare at them for a moment, take a deep breath, and say, "Well, I made him the old fashioned way, but he was delivered by C-section. As for his race, that's a little more complicated. I'm Caucasian, but his father was biracial. He had an African-American mother and a Caucasian father. I'm not sure what race that makes him, and confuses me more as to what race that would make my son. What do you think?"

No one really has much to say after that. They are too busy trying to back away from the crazy woman who won't stop talking. Hopefully, I have cured them of being a repeat offender for some other poor mother.

So, I know I'm not the only one who has dealt with the nosy questions. What is the strangest thing someone has asked you about your child?

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.