What is appealing is the fact that someone young finds them interesting and that probably makes them feel young again. Being sough after by someone who has so many options can be very enticing.

It is never to early to educate your male children. Please, don't wait too long. I worked in the criminal justice system for 20 years as a Juvenile PO. Kid's are exposed to way more than you can imagine. EDUCATE!!!!!

Notice it's all other women who are complaining. If I had been seduced by a female teacher as early as sixth grade, I would have been thrilled beyond words. Would it have damaged my psyche? I don't know, but I doubt it. Interesting to notice that there are ZERO accounts from the young boys themselves--either while in the "relationship" (which is all about sex--nothing else) or after they have become adults.

Mr. Holzel, sigh, boys and men don't complain becuase while they do suffer from being sexual with someone in a position of authority, our society gives them the impression that its something they should be happy about. What you're not thinking about is that its damage to innocence, damage to a child who is not just a sexual being but all of a sudden their whole person is defined as being sexual. Its as damaging to boys as it is to girls. Moreover, its much more okay for a female to self identify as a victime, but it is NEVER socially okay for a male to do the same.

And for all of you, I understand why pedophiles are messed up - but I have to believe that for women its not only that they enjoy the attention and excitement, they're pedophiles like men are. Like male pedophiles they have a sexual fixation on children, and they're just as predatory - which have just overlooked women as being always benign, but we women aren't, are we? We just hurt in other less obvious ways (not me, it's what I've seen and read). I have witnessed enough blubbering pedophiles in court during sentencing to know all those gals caught in the same acts ACT JUST LIKE THEIR MALE COUNTERPARTS. They whine, play the victim, and justify their actions. The only reform for them is being removed from any contact with minors, they're broken in a way that has no way of being mended.

"It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." (And remember in the Bible, "he" was interchangeable for men and women).

more importantly, what is appealing about a 42 yr old woman to a teenage boy?

Wait, the women are flattered by the attention from boys? Where do you get that, Idatrvlr? Every story that has been about female teachers and their male students, the students are foster kids, in abusive or situations of neglect, so they're vulnerable. Predators sense that and target these kids. It's not the boys pursuing the relationship.

Tom Holzel, every message board with where it's an older woman and young boys, there's you, or someone like you, saying that you wouldn't be messed up. Guess you're the luckiest guy on Earth, that you're confident and have no psychological problems whatsoever and the stunning memories of exactly how you thought and felt in sixth grade.

Would you have been as thrilled if it were a priest stalking and forcing himself on you?

Adults are far more sophisticated than children and predators can easily manipulate children, since they don't care what damage they do. They also stalk the most psychologically vulnerable, since they're easy prey and easily controlled. All the follow up stories, the "best" one is the boy married the teacher when he was legal and she got out of jail. He never managed another relationship. The rest of them have continued in therapy and have not regained a "normal" life.

Either you get used to young good looking female teachers associating with your sons, or your sons will end up in San Francisco.

Now let me really scare you. According to statistics from Human Rights Watch (www.hrw.org) that were published in their report "No Easy Answers", your son is actually more likely to be molested by a family member than a stranger or friend.

good afternoon to everyone im a white single male age 39 im in massachusetts im single and lookin to meet people who are single i think that teachers are a good thing if it can help a student do better in school i do approve of teacher student relationships if two people love each other i think people belong together i am a christian i do go to church if a teacher is doing wrong they should be suspended

amanda, i to was molested when i was young and my life has never been the same. even now, at the age of 60, i am afraid of people and i also know i should see a doctor about it but i never can seem to make myself do it. maybe one day i'll be able to face reality but for now, i'm still in my little world. i'm glad you were able to survive your ordeal.

Please allow God to heal your fears :)

the only reason you think what happened to you is because you were'nt taught that it was wrong when a person is molested at an early age they don't know it's wrong all they know is it feels good they don't have the ability to know any different it's in the grown-ups hands

What part about having sex at 7 do you find normal. My friend is very damaged by the same issue.

Your comments are absolutely the scariest I've ever heard.
To say that sex between and adult and a 7 year old is perfetly normal and we should all face facts is insane. I implore you to seek professional help before it's forced on you in prison.

Just because society tells you something is wrong doesn't necessarily mean that it is. If he wasn't bothered by it and he STILL isn't bothered by it then maybe it wasn't wrong for him. Things like this go on a whole lot more than people know and it's the media and people who have no exposure to it who are all aghast by this so called "phenomenon". I began to notice that a lot of my african american male friends (i am also black) had lost their virginities at early ages to older women so I began to make a point of asking as many guys as I could about it and that was basically the trend. Whether it be when they were 7 with a 16 yr old girl or 13 with a 23 yr old the situation was usually the same and they all seemed fine with it. Happy to have lost their virginity and happy that it was with an older "hotter" woman. I'm sure that's not the case for EVERYBODY and I'm sure that there are fragile vulnerable men who are preyed on by older conniving individuals who are missing something in their own lives but I feel like it comes down to human nature. Boys during puberty and post puberty WANT to stick it in just about anything. Haven't you ever had a thing for one of your teachers? A professor? A boss? Isn't that "wrong"? But you wanted it anyway... and i think that's what it comes down to... For the sadder situations where someone may have been taken advantage of I feel as though some fault lies mainly on the parents for not educating their children and teaching them right from wrong and what to do if they are ever presented with a situation such as that and to a tiny degree the school systems for not having better oversight and for often trying to cover-up these teacher-student or coach-student affairs...

"God was wrong." Mr. John Doe - that is a scary statement. How any thinking being could say that is beyond me.
No, society is wrong..... wrong for rejecting the God who created them, wrong for no longer teaching children to fear and obey God.... wrong for not teaching children to value their chastity..... wrong for treating young adults (12 & 13 yrs old and even 21 yr olds) as children instead of helping mature. Our teens are immature because we keep them that way. The teacher of course was wrong too.