Female teacher at Houston school suspended

I'm a former high-school teacher, and I think with these female teachers it's basically an issue of vanity and control. A lot of teenage boys are manly looking & very attractive, and getting their attention in such a way (sexually) really feeds the teacher's ego and makes her feel like Wonder Woman. Of course, it's sick and criminal, but, hey, didn't that LaFave/Beasley woman get away with it -- because the DA said she was too pretty to go to jail?

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This is sad. Now, these high school kids aren't being molested when they have consentual sex with anyone. That's the definition of consentual. However, I am a 26 year old teacher that works with high school kids and I can't imagine looking at my students in that light, let alone doing anything like that. It's awful behavior and disgusting. School is for learning, not sex and especially not sex with a child. Yeah, I have plenty of students that will flirt with me or stare at my chest, but it doesn't give me any right to try to make a move. They're KIDS and they're students! Double wrong.

I don't believe we need to execute anyone that has sex with someone under the age of 18 (I think too many people use that specific age cutoff as an out), nor do we need to execute a 42 year old teacher sleeping with a high school kid. Neither is the same as rape or molestation. If you were ever raped or molested, you know there's a difference.

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The author of this story has misspoke either out of ignorance or prejudice. It is so very common and so very incorrect to label any person who is accused of inappropriate sexual contact with a minor as a pedophile. A pedophile is one whose victims are pre-pubescent. The alleged perpetrator of this act may well be a sex offender but a teenager is not pre-pubescent therefore the allegation of pedophilia is factually incorrect. Words have consequences. To label someone with a pedophile tag stirs the most visceral of human emotion and should therefore be used in the PROPER context!

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This is obviously wrong for anyone over 18 to have relations with someone under 18, but what you have to think is why something like this would happen. I think in many ways a female pedophile is different than a male pedophile. I'm 25 years old I don't have children yet, but I know would want my child's teacher to do that, but I know when I was a child just like many other young boys like myself many of us thought some of our teachers were attractive. Now this curiosity was obviously just silly in Junior High, but in high school it would seem more normal. Not being the most popular guy in school it can be easier to fantasize about the "hot teacher" that does respect you unlike the other girls. I say hot teacher because I'm obviously not the only one who thought that because Van Halen has a song called "Hot for Teacher." The point I am getting at is we need to understand more why a teen child would allow this to happen to them. We tend to think when a man molests a young girl that she has absolutely no interest in this man that he must have raped her. I say that because I think I very well could accepted advances from some of my teachers if they offered them when I was teen not only because I may have found my teacher attractive but I also had a heightened juvenile insecurity because of my at the time lack of relationships with women. I think usually the case of these teachers is in reaction to a series of romantic failures in their lives and they see this young teen as sweet kind and everything didn't get from the men they previous had relationships with. So in a way they appear as good fit on the service. She's vulnerable and insecure because of her failed relationships he's insecure because of his failed relationships. For me that type of thing was always a turn on for me. A friend of mine joked I have an "I can be your hero" complex. Meaning I tended to like girls that had been hurted and treated wrong because I felt I could treat them better than they were treated. I could give them what they deserved, because that's all I wanted myself. I could be their hero. I think anyone who's been wronged too many times often thinks that way. I think what it comes down to is that both the teacher and the teen need some sort of help. If a teen is sexually interested in his teacher it's likely do to some personal insecurity. For the teacher it can be many issues, possibly some intensional perversion, but quite possibly some insecurity of her own.

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All under control? certainly! lets start with the question, "where were the parents"
lets not blame the rest of the world for a parent's neglect of their child. When you have a child, it is your responsibility to raise that child. If , for any reason something like this comes along in your child's life, you have only yourself to blame.That is why you are called the parent. you are responsible for everything that child does or what is done to them until they are 18 years old.
pointing the finger to avoid critism does nothing to repair the damage a child has suffered from this kind of event.So if you step up to the plate being a parent, be the best parent you can be. Dealing with this issue is just a part of parenting. If you can't look up your child's butt and read their mind, your not paying close enough attention. Stop letting the television baby sit the baby, get in there and interact. ever hear the song "Cats In The Cradle" by Harry Chapin?

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Sex is mental. Having sex with a 5 year old is NOT the same as having sex with a 15 year old young man who has his own thoughts and goals himself. If a 15 year old had too much weakness and was forced into a situation and there was an actual over taker who wasn't mind to mind but imagined perversion as they did things then that would be perverse. 15 's are not dumb. Newt Gingrich dated his English teacher at 16 and they are still married today.

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Ethel, regarding comment #1, perhaps the "barrier" is that you sipmly don't WANT to go back to work, and have found a convienient exscuse to avoid it.
You also should remember that out of the 1/6 of young boys that are molested, 85% of them, are molested by FAMILY, or close friends of the parents.

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He was Molested? Bwahhh hahhh hahhh. Back in the 70's when I was a horny 14 year old boy I started an affair with a woman on my paper route. She was in her 40's and single. I was nooooo victim. The affair went for most of my high school years. While all of my buddies were trying to get to first base with some high school girl and dealing with all that BS, I was enjoying myself. It made my whole high school experience easier. I had no sexual frustrations and learned all the facts and myths from first hand experience with none of the bad consequences. That relationship made all my later relationships easier. when a teenage boy meets and starts a sexual relationship with an older woman and both want it then it is NEVER abusive. Thats just a myth started by bible thumpers.

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The sexually mature male will seek out a willing sexually mature female, and may well prefer one who is more experienced, especially if she is the one to initiate the prelude to the sex act.

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Laws Laws Laws, More Laws don't DO anything. You cannot legislate morality! The books in this country are bulging with laws and yet crime, both moral and ethical continues on. So what is the answer? I don't know. Laws certainly aren't. Religion definately isn't. I mean how can we take example from Catholic priests and an institution that hides deep dark secrets! Th boys AND girls today are inundated with sexual programs, games, advertising all aimed at sex and sexual inuendo.

The hot things today are young men and MILF's ( Moms I'd Like to F*^k etc) The kid in Houston is probably a hero in the eyes of his peers. He'll be a legend in his school and like the teacher that was caught several years ago and order not to discuss sexual issues with any minor, will have her career ruined and end up waitressing and being watched by one ofthe many over zealous State (Gubment, remember more laws) procecuters working on getting into politics by showing how tough they are when it comes to crime. LOL

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It's an apples and oranges difference between young boys and girls being seduced by a much older person. Although as a parent I object to the violation of trust by the teacher, I feel such a relationship a much more serious hazard to innocent young girls who are vulnerable to being loved. Girls tend to cherish while young teenage boys are prone to brag. and hi-five with their friends who are envious.

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Listen, this is horrible. However, I think that when it occurs with Male teachers with females, that is the ultimate sin. Education is the key to assisting youth in these cituations. Boy's hormones are raging at that young age and these older women are praying on that issue. Not to minimize, however if you look at the news, people are raped, tortured, killed, destroyed by monsters.

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Most men dreamed about having a sexual experience with their teachers when they were little boys. People need to get over it. It's only harmful to the child if we make it that way.

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Sexual abuse is certainly a distrucive an heinous act. However, threats, sarcasm, moralizing and home schooling are not solutions. There is little evidence that "informing" people of the consequences of their behavior changes it significantly. Incarceration makes it worse. The truth is, sensationalized reports about schools do not change the fact that most assaults, abuse, and murders take place at home. You kids are safer at school than anywhere else.

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tweb142 said...
In the Bible God says that he DOESN"T...THATS DOESN'T...want us to have sex...period. BUT..if man can't control his urges, he is to have sex with a WOMAN in MARRAIGE!!!!

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That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Did you miss the entire book of Song of Solomon? God made sex good for a reason!!!

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"What in the world is appealing to an older woman about a teenage boy?" or an older man /teenage girl? Be serious! Look around next time at beach (or the mall), THEN ask that question...

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As a teacher I am appalled and disgusted at all these cases involving older women and teenage boys. We need to stiffen sentences for all child rapists regardless of their gender. It should be a minimum of 20 years plus they have to be monitored by an electronic ankle bracelet, as well as registering where they live so the rest of the community is aware. Also we have to stop using phrases like 'sex offenders', 'sexually assaulted', 'sexually molested' because it candy coats the actions of these perpetrators. They should be referred to as rapists, sodimizers, and child abusers.

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Boys are very curious about sex and a older woman maybe a good teacher to show a younger male how to treat and what she wants and likes in bed. (I DO NOT AGREE WITH THIS IF THIS WAS MY SON I WOULD BE GOING OUT FOR SOMEONES HIDE TO SAY THE LEAST!!!!) I was trying to see the other side to as hard as it is.

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the appeal is more akin to screwed up people believing everything that they see and hear about sex. there are no standards, boundaries or morals. in the screwed up minds of these people and countless others, what they want to do or get is what counts. the rule of decency and law does not exist as long as they do not get caught. more supervision is needed for teachers, with stricter penalties.

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WOW, first of all no one should be forced to do anything they don't want to. However, most of you women need to understand there is a difference between boys and girls. Boys (and as we grow older men, I'm in my 50's i've been through all this) have a burning desire to have sex. As boys we don't know how or why, we just know we do. Almost all girls have no clue what that desire is and some will never know and that's the way things are and it's ok. When a boy is seduced by a female teacher the kid's saying 'ok.. cool!', (the guys are saying 'you go stud!'). Meanwhile, a girl being seduced by a male teacher usually winds up being forced sex and that's no good.

While I'm at it, there is no way you can tell me that God or Jesus is taking an active roll in our lives until I stop seeing babies being born without arms and legs, or with cancer, or with their internal organs on the outside! ...maybe they're too busy scoring touchdowns in the NFL?!
And don't get me started on George W and his idiot followers, you do know that Sadaam had nothing to do with 911...
Most of the people in this wonderful Country need to pull their heads out of their butts, clean the crap off their faces and take an honest look around and see what we are letting the Government take away from us! It's time to take a stand.

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