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Ellie and I were in the grocery store yesterday when we passed a guy with a rather unusual haircut. It wasn't exactly a mohawk, but gave the impression of a mohawk. A moment later, Ellie told me about a kid in her class who got a mohawk haircut. It was clear from the way she said it that she didn't particularly care for it, so I asked if she thought the little boy was happy with his new do. "Oh, he likes it but I think it looks silly," she said. I gave her the 'to each his own' speech and explained that as long as he liked it, that was all that mattered.When 6-year-old Bryan Ruda, got a mohawk haircut, the problem wasn't that his classmates didn't like it. The problem was with school administrators, who suspended the kindergarten student because of it. They claim that his hair is a distraction to the other students at his suburban Cleveland, Ohio charter school.
His mother, Michelle Barile, is not pleased. "I understand they have a dress code. I understand he has a uniform. But this is total discrimination," she said. "They can't tell me how I can cut his hair."
Oh, but they can and they did - on several occasions. While the handbook at Parma Community School doesn't address haircuts, administrators claim they informed Ruda's mother back in the fall that the mohawk was unacceptable. They followed that up with another warning later, insisting that the dress code allows school officials to forbid anything that interferes with the conduct of education.
When Ruda showed up for school with yet another mohawk last week, the school sent him home. "This was his third infraction," Principal Linda Geyer said."We felt that we were being extremely patient."
Mom has decided not to fight for her son's right to wear a mohawk and instead has enrolled him in another school. "It's something that he really likes," Barile said. "When people hear Mohawk, they think it's long, it's spiked, it's crazy looking, and it's really not."
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 2)
2-27-2008 @ 1:00PM
claire said...Goodness, I'm sure the school is covered by their "codes," but I think this is ridiculous. I went to school in South in the early eighties, and if the 8 inch long rat-tails surrounding me weren't distraction, I don't know what was. Perhaps the problem these days is more with childrens' attention spans than with minor distractions like a kid having an "unusual" hairstyle. Gosh, I can't express how ridiculous I think this is. Furthermore, what a boring environment that school must cultivate, where everyone must look exactly the same. Wonder if they have rules about whistling, humming or nail polish color?
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2-27-2008 @ 1:22PM
RobMonroe said...When you choose to send your child to a private (in this case charter) school the expectations are different than public school. We had rules for hair, what color sweaters or shoes, and for belts even. I believe that there was a facial hair policy, but it was not an issue for me in high school.
Don't want to follow the rules? Don't sign you child up for a place that has them.
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2-27-2008 @ 2:21PM
Taylor said...A charter school is not private, they are publicly funded. They are usually created to provide a service not provided and monitored by the local school district. Just FYI.
2-27-2008 @ 2:27PM
RobMonroe said...Taylor -
Yes, the are publicly funded, but are not considered to be in the public school realm. You have to choose to attend a charter school, which is not the case with public schools where you are assigned a place to go.
http://www.uscharterschools.org/pub/uscs_docs/o/movement.htm
4-08-2008 @ 11:00PM
Debbie said...Public schools are also doing this. Our public school system, has a strict dress code. It does mention hair has to be out of the eyes. My son 13, is growing his hair for donation, (he has a young cousin who lost her hair). Our school also said this was a distraction. We all deal with distractions in life, it's part of it. How I as a parent deal with his hair is my business. What they teach and how is theirs. I feel the school is stepping on parental issues.
2-27-2008 @ 1:50PM
bremarie03 said...Jeez, the uniform isn't enough conformity for them? If some kid can't concentrate because a classmate has a mohawk, they're going to have one hell of a time when they get jobs and have to work with ALL THOSE DISTRACTIONS. You know, like people talking. And walking around. And maybe even *gasp* some music playing in the background.
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2-27-2008 @ 7:42PM
pbhj said...There are plenty of businesses with strict dress code which includes the rules on the wearing of jewellery, hair styles and make-up. In at least one job I've had I'd have been disciplined (read lost money if not the job) for having a "Mohawk".
I think that's fine. I wouldn't sack a worker for having a mowhawk but there are other aspects of appearance that I would (particularly for repeat violations).
As for a school - they chose it. Part of the ethos of the school will be due to the strict rules. Being the only rule breaker is fine ... if everyone else does it too, anarchy ensues.
2-27-2008 @ 9:55PM
bremarie03 said...They don't have a rule forbidding mohawks. The article said, "The school said the hair was a distraction for other students." That's the part I think is ridiculous. Just about everything is a distraction when it comes to kids. Theoretically they could use that excuse to ban whatever they want, including people. That gay person can't work here, they're a distraction. That foreign kid can't go to school here, his accent distracts the other children.
It's incredibly vague and has limitless interpretations.
2-27-2008 @ 2:25PM
SKL said...I don't care how people cut their KG kids' hair, but that aside, I think this parent is doing her child a huge disservice and wasting the time of a lot of people. It looks to me like she is personally rebelling against the school's appearance code, because she doesn't like the fact that there is a dress code. Like another poster said, if that is her problem, the way to solve it is to send her kid to a school that doesn't have a dress code. There are plenty to choose from.
You can't have everything your way. That is an important lesson that this mother needs to learn so that she can in turn teach it to her kid. You want whatever it is this charter school affords, you have to compromise on a few things to get it, just like any other trasaction in life.
Why the hell would this person be so hell-bent on shaving her kid's head in the middle of the freakin' winter? I live near where this school is and I can't imagine any parent not wanting their kid's head to be covered by hair at this time of year, and the thicker the better. She is obviously having a tantrum at her child's expense. And now, because she refused to heed repeated warnings, her kid is missing school. Personally I think this woman needs a shrink.
There are serious problems to deal with in this country and the world. Why are so many people willing to waste so many hours and dollars over such stupid "controversies"? Just deal with it and get busy studying, so when you grow up, you will have the means to opt out of the things that you had to suffer through as a youth.
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2-27-2008 @ 2:49PM
Fanny said...I do agree with all of your comments. I just gave my 4-year old a mowhawk, he wanted to look like a Zebra, Giraffe or Horse. He attends a Christian Private School in NY and they welcomed him with open arms, however, there is no dress code or hair codes. If this mom does not want to conform to the school rules as laid out - rules are rules, than her decision to enroll him in another school was the right one for her family. Would I want my child to conform and not express his creativity, no? But if I enrolled him in a program with strict dress codes, I would adhere to them. With that being said, it is still only hair!
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3-04-2008 @ 2:54PM
Lisa Berry said...This mom's name is Barile (which could be italian), but if she isnt, she is most likely French/native. My family name as Baril before they came over the canadian border and it was changed. But why Im writing is to state that she may have a court case on her hands on infringement of beliefs, because if she is French/native she is in fact of the heritage that "mohawk" comes from. Specifically her family would be from Three Rivers Quebec, a bit north of Montreal. She is of "mohawk" or Kanienkehaka. There might be more to stand up for than just walking away from this, if that is the case.
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2-27-2008 @ 5:19PM
isisaquaria said...I guess the fushia tips in my daughter's hair are probably distracting to some, but goodness. I think too many stereotypes exist and there are too many petty rules. I chose the school for my children based on academics, not codes-
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2-27-2008 @ 6:08PM
Karen said...I support dress codes and understand the need to keep distractions at a minimum.
But truthfully, I don't think the mohawk is a distraction to the kids. I think it is a problem for the adults. They have a certain image associated wtih mohawks and have imposed their view on the children.
It doesn't have the rebellious nature to it that it once did, just as long hair on boys does not have the same connotation it did during the 60's.
Sometimes adults need to get over themselves.
That said - she does have to follow the rules. And technically this isn't a rule, but a determination. Dumb one at that.
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2-27-2008 @ 10:22PM
Judy said...I fully support school uniforms for ALL schools, for lots of reasons, but I'm torn when it comes to hair style or color or things like piercings. The reason for that is because when they dictate your hairstyle - something that can't be changed as easily as your clothes - they are dictating what you can do with yourself when you are not IN school. So honestly, I'm not sure how I feel.
I also think the policies can be (not sure about this case, but in general) sexist. Often, boys are not allowed to have long hair, but girls can have theirs short, long, medium, in a ponytail, bun, braid, or whatever. I don't like the double standard.
And who gets to decide what is distracting. Very long hair on a woman can be pretty distracting, too, but are they going to say a girl can't have hair past her waist? I can't imagine something like that.
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2-27-2008 @ 11:23PM
isisaquaria said...Why uniforms? Children are not soldiers--
My husband and I lived in a public school district where uniforms were worn by elementary kids, voted by district not parents. Our oldest daughter attended for 1yr--but she did not wear uniforms. The argument they had was "your husband wears them" and his response--"I get paid too and my uniforms are given to me" When they got called on it-the policy was revoked.
2-28-2008 @ 9:19AM
Judy said...Uniforms:
I think school should be about education. The stress over what to wear distracts from the goal of an education.
Uniforms level the playing field for people of different incomes. I grew up fairly poor, and remember being picked on for wearing hand-me-downs that were out of style. Some kids wear very expensive designer clothes. I don't think this should be an issue. I don't think the poor should have to spend so much money so their kids will have lots of different new clothes and not be picked on.
I think it also just eliminates a lot of the issues about what is inappropriate in a school setting. Also, there is no fighting between parents and kids about what they can wear to school.
I've just never understood why parents *wouldn't* support uniforms. It HAS to cost less than buying a bunch of school clothes, and is so much easier.
It's not a practical issue for us, really, as we plan on homeschooling. Looking back on my own schooling, I very much wish uniforms had been the rule.
3-05-2008 @ 5:13PM
isisaquaria said...Actually, the uniform clothes in that particular town were only available through one upscale store and no they were not cheap. I spent less on clothes for my daughter shopping at the same store--and she had a variety of outfits.
The cost was the primary complaint as most parents didn't hold jobs and lived on welfare. But the state shut it down quickly. Also, in this district it was only in the elementary school--not the mid, jr high or high school.
My best friends daughter attends a private school in MO and she buys 7 combinations of the allowed uniform clothing and 10 pairs of socks, and two pairs of shoes.
That cost her more than 16 or so pairs of jean's from KOHL'S and the 20+ shirts, sweaters and blouses that I bought for my two girls. And then, you have to buy the PE uniform and shoes. And, then weekend clothes.
Even at Target, the uniform style clothing is has been higher in the past (I haven't looked in awhile) than even name brand stuff.
I know from my bf's daughter that she feels like a number, not a person. She hates her mother for putting in the school and feels like it is a form of imprisonment. I think the quote was--I am human, not a machine.
4-08-2008 @ 10:32PM
Jui said...I went to private school, where you DID have to buy uniforms. On average, if my clothes were to last more than a month (I actually find they're generally very cheaply made, and tend to come undone at the seams quite literally), I'd have to buy 8 skirts (four of each kind), 12 shirts (six of each kind), 12 pairs of socks (3 of each color), and 5 pairs of biker shorts (they were required to wear under our skirts), 2 cardigans with the schools logo printed on them (yes, it had to be 2. They required one of each type), 3 pairs of pants (didn't need as many, since certain days we couldn't wear them as girls), 4 pairs of shoes (yes, they required different kinds... and they even dictated styles), and if I wanted to wear a headband ever, I had to buy a matching one of those too. Now, let's look at the costs. The skirts generally cost about $50 a pop. NOT cheaper than a normal skirt the same length from another store. The shirts were either $20 or $25, depending on which type, the socks were $6 a pair, the shorts were $25, the cardigans were $40 and $45 depending on the style, the pants were $50 a pair, and the shoes could cost anywhere from $19 to $70. And these were ALL REQUIRED!!! And they didn't last the entire year. I understand that it was my parents choice, but that doesn't make it cheap, and it doesn't mean that everyone can afford it! You make every family who chooses to send their kids to school pay for that, and you're going to make tons of them struggle! Until you've been there, don't assume that it's cheaper, easier, and more effective. And there are other ways than clothes to determine how rich or poor a child is. For instance, my dad drove an old Jeep that was on the verge of breaking down, and my birhtday parties generally cost only about $250 and my backpack cost $20. However, a friend of mine parents drove three cars depending on their mood. A Jaguar, a Mercedes, and a BMW. She had two different backpacks from Luis Vuitton (and others, but those two were the ones she used the most), and one of her birthday parties, we calculated to at it's cheapest cost about $2,200. Not to mention, my shoes were from wherever we could cheapest find them. Hers were from Gucci and Prada. If you think that uniforms eliminates problems, than I've got a big reality check for ya. This was reality.
2-28-2008 @ 11:31AM
November said...I think this mother is being rebellious only for the sake of being rebellious. I can only imagine what other problems the school's administration have had with woman. I'm sure the real reason for the suspension was to encourage this woman to go elsewhere. I have a child in 1st grade who loves to wear suits and watches to school. Certainly not rebel wear, but distracting to the other students none-the-less. Therefore I don't allow him to wear these things to school. It's called respect for the environment you're in. I have to dress conservatively- that's just how life works.
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2-28-2008 @ 2:13PM
Mohawk Mom said...I have a child with a mohawk as well, and I have to say...there is instant discrimination from some parents when they see him. Some think he's cute (he is!), but others roll their eyes and assume he must be a rebel child. And many, once they actually spend time with him, are surprised at how well mannered he is - as if the mohawk will somehow infuse him with bad manners, or something.
This is discrimination, pure and simple. Distracting - yeah right. When do you ever recall being so distracted by someone's clothes or hair in school that you couldn't do your work? (oh - and does the school have any documentation of complaints to prove this assertion?)
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