Second Pregnancy- is it Different from the First?

First of all - Congratulations!! :)
My 2nd pregnancy was dramatically different from the first. I had girls both times though, so there's that.
With my first I knew within days (no joke) that I was preg, was sick and dizzy and TIRED! I was more than a month along before I thought to take a test with my second! I had more pelvic stretching pain with my second, but had lots more energy and no morning sickness. Had a little postpartum with my 2nd and not with my first too. Weird.

Looks like there's no hard and fast rules for this!

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uugh. I was waaaaay sicker with #2 (who is a boy, #1 was a girl- for what it's worth). I think the difference for me was that all the pregnancy sensitivity was a lot higher because I knew what to expect when I was pregnant. Anyway, and I've been more tired and much, much more ready to be DONE with this pregnancy too.
I think every women is different- duh though, that goes without saying!

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Yes, each pregnancy is different. I found that the symptoms got worse/more noticable with each subsequent one. I've been pregnant 4 times, although I only have 2 children. My last pregnancy (the only girl) was the worst. I was more tired, more sick and more everything. Just wait until you are doing the rubber band trick on your pants at 10 weeks! Congratulations!

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I'm about ready to have my second boy. The first pregnancy was a breeze. This one has brought every pregnancy symptom known to woman-kind. I had to lock my office door for the first 3 months because I was so nauseated that I was gagging all the time. Now I'm arthritic, having insomnia along with surges in temperature in the middle of the night, and just found out I have gestational diabetes even though my friends call me a near health-nut. (Guess it's my love of carbs...)So, yeah, pregnancies can differ, and gender doesn't matter. Even though that old wives' tale didn't pan out, I'm still hoping the one that says "the harder the pregnancy the 'easier' the child" turns out to be true...

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My first pregnancy (at age 39) was easy. Though I lost five pounds in the first trimester, I wasn't sick at all (except one night when I had food poisoning). It was very uneventful.

I got pregnant again when my son was 15 months old and felt horrible almost immediately. I was nauseous all the time (though never to the point of vomiting, even when I wanted to!), gained weight immediately, and was utterly exhausted all the time. I also had early spotting, and three trips to triage after month five. The first was when I suddenly lost vision in one eye. The next two were for decreased fetal movement.

In the end, all was well and we have two wonderful, healthy kids. I just say my daughter started giving me trouble right from the start. She had to remind me, early and often, that she is NOT like her brother and I would do well to not compare them!

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My 2 Pregnancies were completely different. My first one which was a girl was SO easy, no morning sickness, no cramps, no mood swings, no swelling, I was tired alot but no weird cravings ect... Now my 2nd which was a boy, was horrible, I was sick, tired, had mood swings I swelled like a balloon and was just plain miserable. My wid-wife told me when I made a comment about it being so much harder than the first, she said, that in most cases the more pregnancies you have to worse they get, the first one is normally the easiest bc if the first one was so difficult there would be more of a chance that people would only want 1 baby. That was her thoughts anyway. lol

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I'm 20 weeks along with baby two, a boy. Baby one was a girl. This time has been so different. I am huge - I look now as I did last time at 7 months. I have more headaches this time but had no morning sickness at all. I have different cravings - sweets over savory this time. And holy crow does this kid move way more than my daughter ever did. He moves all day long and I felt his first kicks at 15 weeks as opposed to 22 last time.

I don't know the reasons - if your body "remembers" being pregant or if the boy/girl difference holds true, but it has for me.

Congrats by the way! When is your due date?

-AndreAnna
www.diaryofamodernmatriarch.com

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My second pregnancy was so much easier than my first, because I knew what to expect and I had a lot less anxiety. Even though I had some complications with #2, I handled them a lot better than I handled the problems that came up with #1. Physically, the two were pretty similar until the end. I had PIH with #1 and was on bedrest for a week before I delivered naturally. With #2 I had intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy (www.itchymoms.com) at 7 months, then got PIH again and was induced right away at 36 weeks.

The PIH freaked me right out with #1. With #2 it was "here we go again," and I knew that we'd be ok. And we are.

I've been doing a series on my blog about having Two Under Two that you might be interested in, even if your #1 is over 2.

Amy @ http://prettybabies.blogspot.com

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I should have added this to my comments:

Though my first pregnancy was easy, it was a difficult delivery and a really rough first year with a kid who didn't sleep.

My second, much harder pregnancy, resulted in a MUCH easier delivery (of a larger baby) and a really easy, mellow baby.

I'll take the rough nine months and an easy baby over the alternative any day.

Glad that I am done though!

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I think it's true! I THOUGHT I had a bad pregnancy with my son but this one is MUCH MUCH worse and different. My cravings are totally opposite, my face broke out with around 20 zits in the first 2 mos, and I'm 24 weeks and still puking.

Need I say that my first was a boy and now we're having a girl? I'm a believer!

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My pregnancies were fairly similar. A bit more tired and nauseous the second time, but I think that had a lot to do with still breastfeeding my first baby and still being on maternity leave. They're only 18 months apart.

The biggest diference came afte giving birth. Two young children are definately more work than one... On the other hand I managed to start my baby tips website http://www.easybabylife.com while home with our youngest... Maybe I just got more efficient... Well, he slept a lot too!

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OK- I feel more HUMAN now! I am preg with my #2. At 3 weeks I felt wierd and thought---- what if (since we had just started trying) and got a positive! Two weeks and two blood test later I am confirmed preg! But I feel SOOOOO different. I have heard with each baby it is different. BUT, it sounds wierd but I seem to be hyper sensitive INSIDE my body- like the parts that were active 3 years ago are SORE! I know it sounds wierd but I feel like pains and movements (I know they are not the baby), it is like my body parts were awaken fron hibernation and are a bit ticked with me! :) Anybody else feel that?

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I just found out about three weeks ago that I was pregnant with my second child. We already have a 9 month old son. You want to talk about surprised. I had no pregancy syptms at all, well besides a little belly. The day I took the test 3 people told me I looked pregnant, I just thought I need to work a little harder to get rid of weight from #1. With that being said when I went to the doctors last week we learned that we were 2 and a half months in already. The last pregnancy I knew at one month, but much like the first this one is very easy. I could use a nap more often than not but I have no pain and no morning sickness. Our son is very mild mannered and he makes things quite easy, I have a feeling this one might be the opposite. I hope I'm wrong though and I hope it's a girl.

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Im 16 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, 1st was a boy, this time i dont know its a boy or girl, but both the pregnancies have been very different... like everyone's !! Im growing faster this time and have some health problems unlike the first.
I just guess that every pregnancy is different, but that does not indicate the sex of the baby. All the best to all the mommy;s :)

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I am sooooooo happy that I came across these comments, THANK YOU GOOGLE! I have been freaking out, I'm scheduled for my 1st dr visit Friday morning. This is my 2nd pregnancy and I have had major cramping, nausea, morning, all day, night sickness, insomnia, hot flashes one minute and freezing the next. I'm bloated and because of cramping have already pulled the maternity pants out so that waist bands arent pressing on my stomach making the cramps worse. AND I'm pooching, which I think is crazy for 6 weeks!!! I'm exhausted and moody. Whew, this pregnancy is a doosie and reading everyones posts has made me feel not so alone, I guess. So thanks girls and I wish you all the best!

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Hello all! I just found out I am pregnant with our 3rd child (2nd pregnancy for me, our oldest is my adopted daughter-my husbands bio daughter).

I have felt nauseous for about three weeks now (i am 6 weeks pregnant). With my first (who is a boy and is now 3) I didn't even know I was pregnant until 15 weeks into it, and started getting nauseous, all day every day until the day I had him. But he was the easiest baby ever, slept through the night right after we got home from the hospital, and stayed that way and hardly cried his whole first two years. Of course now he's 3 so its a WHOLE different story (you ladies know what im talking about im sure) Toddler boys are a handful, but he was an easy baby. Oh well :)

This one, I don't have a feeling about the sex yet (i knew right away it was a boy with my first) but thats kind of exciting. We have a girl and a boy, so we aren't going to find out the sex of this baby. I say that now, but I might not be able to resist if the doctor is right in front of me and knows. haha

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