Breast Surgery kills Florida Cheerleader

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Like most mothers who have nursed, I have, occasionally, wondered what reconstructive surgery would do for my cleavage. However, I can honestly say that I never had those thoughts when I was a teenager. Back then, teens didn't get plastic surgery as birthday or graduation gifts. Besides, my parents would have never given me the permission I presume a 17 year-old would need to have breast augmentation surgery. And for that, I am grateful.

Reading this article is just so sad. This young girl had everything to live for. She was both an accomplished gymnast and a straight 'A' student who was looking forward to entering a pre-med program after graduation this summer. On top of that, she was beautiful and loved by many. What a senseless death!

Unfortunately, all of our daughters are at risk of being seduced by this rampant cult of beauty, body and perfection. And it's not just teens and tweens that are being targeted. Just check out the latest website craze for 9 to 16 year olds, called "Miss Bimbo",, a virtual fashion game in which girls play (and pay) to help their "bimbo" lose weight, get plastic surgery, or meet a wealthy man. I know it sounds unbelievable, but it's true AND popular. According to this article, the site has already attracted more than 1.4 million members in France and 200,000 in England.

Thankfully, outrage is spreading and parents are beginning to speak out against this website. However, the website creators (all men, go figure) stand by their "product".

In a world where Bratz dolls dressed like sexy street-walkers are considered appropriate toys for little girls and plastic surgery passes for television entertainment, should we really be all that surprised that girls are getting mixed and dangerous messages about their self-worth?

Channel surfing yesterday, I caught a couple minutes of "spring break" on MTV. Apparently, pole dancing has become a spring-break activity since my own co-ed party days at Arizona State University. It's only a small step from the MTV dance stage to a debut on a "girls gone wild" video that will forever haunt these college grads.

My heart goes out to the family of the young teen who died in this operation. And while I do not condone her parent's decision to let her go under the knife, I have to admit that in the toxic environment our girls swim in everyday, it is becoming increasingly difficult for even good parents to convince their daughters that there is more to them than their bodies and that the quest to be "hot" is not worth dying for.

Note: I have changed the title of this post to reflect a more accurate description of the surgery. Hopefully, the following statement will help clarity the intent of the post and my position on the subject.

Hi Everyone! It's me, Rachel. You are all right that the title of
the post is misleading, and for that I apologize.

While the comments regarding women being responsible for their
decisions are true, we are not talking about a "woman", we're talking
about a teen. The point of my post is that our culture/media are
sending a disturbing message to young, vulnerable girls that physical
perfection is a means for achieving "self-esteem" and "acceptance" and
our girls are hearing this message loud and clear. Unfortunately,
this message is sometimes reenforced by good and well-intentioned
parents.

Yes, this was a rare reaction to anesthesia; and yes, she could have
died some time in the future in the dental office, as some have
mentioned. Nonetheless, she died this past week, at the tender age
of 17, in an elective surgery to improve the appearance of her
breast.

Re-reading my post, I can see how my message was lost. And if many of
you say that it was too harsh, I will certainly take that into
consideration in future posts. However, I stand by the intent of
the post which is to say that our daughters deserve to be told by the
adults in their lives that self-esteem and self-worth are not found
in the exterior. They are discovered through achievement, something
this young lady sadly had in spades.

Thanks for all your posts. Me and the column are better for it!

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