One-third of married moms have cheated!
Categories: Just For Moms, Babies, Love & Sex, Pregnancy & Birth
Cookie Magazine and the AOL Body Website conducted a poll of 30,000 mothers to find out just what is going on in their bedrooms and in their minds. The survey, called Sex and the American Mom, asked some interesting questions and got some surprising answers.
Most surprising - at least to me - was the fact that 34 percent of married moms said they had cheated on their spouses after having children. Why all the sneaking around? The answer may lie in another statistic: only 36 percent said they are as attracted to their husbands now as when they first married.
And according to the survey results, even those who haven't cheated are thinking about it. More than half admitted considering an affair since having children. "That's a far cry from just fantasizing about it, which I think is an important distinction," said Pilar Guzman, editor-in-chief of Cookie magazine.
Clearly, most of us are not looking for love outside our marriages. And whatever the reasons for unhappiness in the bedroom, the survey shows that many wives are at least trying to work it out. When asked if they would have sex with their husbands if they weren't in the mood, 69 percent said they would. But 22 percent are thinking about George Clooney while they are doing it.
Take the survey yourself and see how your love life compares.
Most surprising - at least to me - was the fact that 34 percent of married moms said they had cheated on their spouses after having children. Why all the sneaking around? The answer may lie in another statistic: only 36 percent said they are as attracted to their husbands now as when they first married.
And according to the survey results, even those who haven't cheated are thinking about it. More than half admitted considering an affair since having children. "That's a far cry from just fantasizing about it, which I think is an important distinction," said Pilar Guzman, editor-in-chief of Cookie magazine.
Clearly, most of us are not looking for love outside our marriages. And whatever the reasons for unhappiness in the bedroom, the survey shows that many wives are at least trying to work it out. When asked if they would have sex with their husbands if they weren't in the mood, 69 percent said they would. But 22 percent are thinking about George Clooney while they are doing it.
Take the survey yourself and see how your love life compares.
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Reader Comments (Page 2 of 16)
daftchemicals 5-11-2008 @ 11:40PM
I took my vows seriously. Except after having 2 kids,my wife decided she only dates heavy black men, so she filed for divorce after 7 years.
mike 5-12-2008 @ 12:29AM
whatever happened to women being told what to do and they actually obeying? remember.....love............honor and ....................OBEY!!!!!!!
Doug 5-12-2008 @ 12:57AM
The answer is to put the penalties back into divorce. Check the stats back before the 70's when "no fault" divorce became the norm. And keep religion out of the conversation; oh, I ruined a life today, forgive me Jesus, POOF, I 'm born again, no foul! I signed a contract with Visa, had all my fun with the card, then told Visa sorry, I changed my mind. Forgive me Jesus, POOF. I don't think so.
Lou 5-12-2008 @ 2:53AM
Hey! What if I attack a sacred cow? Get rid of the freakin' TV! Let's see if marriages (and family life) improves.
birdmom 5-12-2008 @ 5:47AM
yeah, so you stay faithful until you relase he has been doing cyberporn and cheating and even having extra kids behind you in a very sleazy way...forget that, if he isn't happy with ya, there are plenty out there who would be and be your dream guy forever....still loking though, because i just woke up !!!
Tamyu 5-08-2008 @ 8:31PM
I find this incredibly sad - and incredibly selfish. It really is no surprise divorce rates are so high. I really have to wonder what many of these women thought their lives would be like after having children.
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eugene 5-08-2008 @ 10:09PM
I have to wonder, are marriages really so weak now, or did people just lie about their infidelities better back "in the day"?
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Meagan 5-09-2008 @ 12:32AM
At least part of it was probably that divorce used to be so much more of a social stigma. These days it's pretty normal so there's less outside pressure to stick it out in the tougher times.
V. 5-10-2008 @ 4:22AM
eugene 5-08-2008 @ 10:09PM
I have to wonder, are marriages really so weak now, or did people just lie about their infidelities better back "in the day"?
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They lied, Eugene. Read the Kinsey Report, Masters and Johnson, and Shere Hite. The evidence is all there. The infidelity hasn't changed...what's changed is the openness about it and the destigmatization of divorce.
Jessica 5-09-2008 @ 10:51AM
Well, at least there are over half of us who still take marriage seriously.
I'd like to hear the cheating statistics for the other gender as well. Would be interesting to compare the two.
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Eva Haberlova 5-11-2008 @ 10:23PM
I just confirm you to you all and i have experience my life. I have beeen 2 times men.. First i was happy with Virgos man for 7 years. I never cheat him and i love him.One woman steal my man and i let them . After new second man that I HAD ATTRACTIVE AND MACHO MAN. HE LOVES ANIMALS WOMEN. THAT HE IS GEMENI MAN. HE IS A WORSE MAN AND LOVE WOMANIZER. THE NEW WOMAN LOVES HIM AND HE KNOWS ABOUT HIM. SHE DOESNT CARE IT. I KICK HIM OUT AND GET HIM OF MY LIFE. I READ THE CHINESSE HOROSCOPY AND FIND OUT CHINNESE SIGN COMPATIBILITY. THEY HELP YOU TO FIND OUT RIGHT MAN OR WOMAN. YOU WILL TRUST HER OR HIM. YOU WILL EVER HAPPY IN ,MARRIAGE FOR FURTURE .. I AM NOW THIRD MAN. HE IS A CANCERIAN MAN AND I AM CANCERIAN WOMAN. WE LOVES EACH OTHER AND UNDERSTANDING AND COZY IN LIVING HOME. YOU COULD TO FIND ON INTERNET CHINESSE HOROSCOPY AND THEY HELP YOU TO FIND RIGHT WOMAN OR MAN. GOOD LUCK !! SMILE !!
Guy 5-09-2008 @ 8:07PM
if thats the womens stats, Im sure the guys stats of far worse or just over equal. .
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bobmcoejr 5-09-2008 @ 8:14PM
OH SO CUTE NOW MOM HAS HER KIDS AND SHE CAN NOW PLAY AROUND CAUSE IF SHE GETS CAUGHT EX-HUBBY STILL HAS TO PAY AND SHE CAN STILL PLAY SICK WORLD
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jim 5-09-2008 @ 10:57PM
So right, I did it all, provided for my family, paid all the bills, wife cheats, moves out, I still gotta pay 900.00 a month child support, and I did nothing wrong, state law of VIRGINIA SUCKS
meems 5-11-2008 @ 8:50PM
Jim.....Its obvious why she cheated. Your an IDIOT!!! Its called child support because its to pay for YOUR CHILD!!!!!!! Its not called CHEATING WIFE SUPPORT!!!!!! You think she got preganant, went through 9 months of hell and labor and the pains of raising a child for a lousy $900 a month? Sorry pal, maybe your an insensitive, selfish, slob. Get over yoursefl.
Meems 5-11-2008 @ 8:56PM
Oh and Jim......another thing. "Paying bills and providing" DOES NOT make you a good husband unless you have a mail order bride. Most women can do that in their sleep. Being attentive, affectionate and a partner in the relationship is how to keep her. Better luck next time.
Donna 5-09-2008 @ 8:16PM
I think alot of people get married and have children because all their friends are doing it or their mothers are pressuring them to have grandchildren etc. If they would ignore all of these outside influences and listen to their inner voice maybe the statistics would become better.
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Michael Waters 5-09-2008 @ 8:21PM
Let's be honest and realistic. Sexual attraction fades over time regardless of how much love there is in the relationship. This is inevitable. Sadly, for many, sexual attraction all there is to their relationship. In other countries, mistresses are common and accepted. I think women should have the right to have a corresponding freedom. Humans need to accept that just because our spouse has sex with another person, that doesn't mean love is gone, but just desire has waned.
Humans are not hardwired to remain forever desirous of their mate. But religion and sentimentality are at odds with reality.
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V. 5-10-2008 @ 4:29AM
Agreed, Michael. But I guarantee your response will earn you a lot of hate mail here, since most people in the USA are not interested in reality, only outdated ideals. LOL
Lianna Watsing 5-11-2008 @ 8:26PM
Sorry, I don't really have the hots for my husband anymore. He's very handsome, but other guys turn me on a lot more. It's not his fault. Or mine. It's just life. I haven't cheated on him, but it's been a damn long time since I've wanted to do him. Now, I can just talk to some guys and they appeal to me. Would it weren't so, but it is. It's nice to know that you still get other guys' interest and you are still hot. That's called sexual tension, which is what is missing after a long time.