Kate Beckinsale is ok with having just one kid
Categories: Kids 8-11, Love & sex, Pregnancy & birth, Siblings, Life & style, Celeb parenting, Mommy wars
Although it is a decidedly less controversial issue, many people are talking about whether or not have more than one child, especially in this terrible economy. Here in New York City, having more than one child can be such an exorbitant expense it's seen as a luxury and a status symbol to have a child at all!
For actress Kate Beckinsale, however, who is probably not so concerned about money, having more than one child is not in her interest. Kate has a nine-year-old daughter, Lily, who is so well-behaved that Kate thinks she might stop at the magic number of one.
Kate also comments that she was an only child so having only one child would suit her just fine. As an only child myself, I was always lonely and looking for someone to play with, so I made every effort to make sure my son would have a sibling. If we're all lucky, he'll have one in October. Is it better to have one or two--or eight!--children? Who can say. I think it's up to the parents and their desires. According to Kate, her little family is "a merry little bunch," so it sounds like she's found the perfect number.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Jenn 6-09-2008 @ 2:43PM
My daughter (who is 2) is like Ms. Beckinsale's : very well-behaved (for a toddler, of course!), never had any sleep or food issues, has thrown a temper tantrum exactly once in her whole life, generally listens, etc etc She has her moments of course (she's only 2, after all!), but we were prepared for soooo much worse that it's been a constant surprise.
My husband is absolutely convinced that if we have another child, it will be the exact opposite, and so we should stop at one.
I would like to have another child, because I think siblings are important, but I have to admit that my husband's fears have crossed my mind a time or two as well!
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caitlin 6-09-2008 @ 4:01PM
There's not a single number for the right number of children in a family. For some people it's none or one, while others are happiest with 2 or more. There are trade offs for whatever number you choose to pursue, and you have to find the middle ground that works best for your family.It's not really anyone else's business how many kids you have (or don't), so long as you're able to provide the emotional, physical, and financial resources for them.
However, it seems that if you want people to quit with the comments about the size of your family, 1 boy and 1 girl is the right number of kids. Less than two means people are always going to be asking when you plan to change that. Two of one gender means people will ask when you're trying for your "princess" or "Daddy's little helper". Having more than two kids means people will think they're clever for saying things like "You do know what causes that, right?" or "you know, they make pills/have surgeries to fix that".
I was one of the three, and it was what ultimately convinced me to be "one and done". It's too easy to play favorites and with more than two kids, someone will always be the unfavorite. My parents never had time for me until I had my son - their only grandchild. I don't want my son to know what it's like to always be the least important member of the family.
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