PD*Poll: Fed-up boy creates bullying video

The problem with confronting bullies is, the parents don't want to admit that their children are bullies. The parents are in such denial, or they condone the bullying, saying that it is all part of childhood. My children have been taught that if someone hits them first, they are to defend themselves by whatever means available.
I was bullied all through school and I will not allow my kids to be bullied.
That is a great video, I hope they give it to all schools. I will be praying for you Patrick....no one should have to go through that....ever!!!

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Let us get to the real truth. Bullies, whether adults, children, teens, male or female are portected by society and the law because society has a perverted sense of respect for them. They are thought of as people of action with wonderful leadership skills. They are protected by family relationships, and friends who are also bullies or those who fear them and think that if they appease the bully they will receive favor or not be the bullie's next victim. The reason for bullies and their behavior is that they are pretty sure they can get away with their behavior because Uncle Joe or Daddy or a cousin or a family friend will protect them because of political or social connections with the school board or even the courts. Remember bullies choose their victims. Victims rarely choose to be victimizied.
There is a good chance those persons who disappoved of Patrick's very realistic video have some kind of relationship with the young criminals(that is what a bully is) who is guilty of assault, verbal or physical or both. Too graphic?????? His film is not graphic enough. He should have included the sounds of victim screaming for help, the cussing and profame names that bullies call their victims, the sound of fists hitting a face or knocking the breath from an abdomen.
There is no solution for every case but I assure you that telling the victim to turn the other cheek or pray for the bully is not the solution. Such idealism will only give the bully assurance they will get away with further infractions.
The only realistic solution is to teach everyone the ability to defend themselves against any and all attacks. The victim has a right to defend themselves from harm, FIGHTING BACK IS NOT A CRIME! Both civil and criminal charges should filed be against the offenders and their parents and anyone who allows bullies to continue or protects them from punishment for their actions.
The assurance that a bully can GET AWAY with his or her abusive behavior must be replaced with ABSOLUTE CERTAINITY that punishment will take place either in the form of physical damage to themselves when they atttack or later in the courts both civil and criminal.
I recall a classmate hitting me in the stomach on the playgound the fifth grade and knocking the breath out of me. A very embarrashing situation. I lost that battle but years later I learned that the one punch that I landed in defense caused my attacker to loose his hearing in the leaft ear. Am I sorry? NO!! I wish I had been able to cause more and more immediate damage as the efforts to make me a victim continued thru high school.
However, with years of martial arts training, weapons training,with firearms, knives and clubs, legal training and maturity, I am no longer anyone's willing victim and I will attempt to defend any victim as a law enforcement officer.

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This made me cry and should make everyone that see's it cry. Patrick, you did a fantastic job on this and it's not graphic at all by todays standards. The school's should show it and thank you for making it. My grandson was bullied this past school year, not with fists, but with words -- they can hurt just as much. He was afraid to tell and spent the whole year avoiding recess because that's when the bullies would say horrible things to him. He finally told and the school did respond. My grandson got to go out to recess the last month or so of school without fear. Hang in there Patrick and best of luck to you. And to anyone being bullied, please tell and ask for help.

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I am a single mother of a son who was bullied. I watched him deteriorate from an energetic, out going, beautiful person to a withdrawn, quiet child who didn't want to live anymore. I spent alot of time at his schools trying to get something done and time after time I was told it would be dealt with. The bullying continued and one day my son attempted to take his life. He was physically, mentally, and emotionally tortured. Thankfully it wasn't a success. I made sure the school personal knew about the attempt and demanded that something be done about it. The school principal offered my son a transfer to any school of his choice. Can you belive that? Instead of dealing with the bullies, send the victim away. My son thought about it and he didn't feel that it was fair for him to leave since he didn't do anything to provoke the abuse. Bullying is assault and battery. We, as parents, aren't allowed to abuse our children as bullies do and get away with it. We go to jail. So why shouldn't bullies face the same consequences? I pressed charges and informed them that if the bullying continued I would do everything in my power to keep them from playing any kind of sports in school again. That would hurt their future. Long story short, the bullying ceased and my son graduated from high school. Our children have the right to go to school and get an education without fear. So my advise to all who are bullied---take a stand and fight back. Don't let them get away with it. And to all the parents who's children are being bullied, give your child all the love and support he/she needs. A personal note to Patrick Kohlmann---I give you a standing ovation. Your video was very well done. No professional can do it justice as it is seen through the eyes of the victim, you. Don't stand down I support all that you are doing and I wish nothing but the best for you. You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers. For the person who thinks that bullies have a low self-esteem, that's a bunch of crap. They think they are better than everyone else and that everyone should bow down to them. Pay attention bullies, not anymore!! Enough is enough!!!

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Amazing video,I think it should be mandatory viewing in every school in the nation,the things that happened in the video were not made up,this kind of thing happens every minute of every day somewhere in the country and ignoring it will not make it go away,I would like to say to the parents of the child who made the video,you have done a great job and raised a great child!

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Excellent video! I don't know what the school means about it being too graphic though, I have seen commercials more graphic than that.

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"professional materials available to make the subject heard" ???? Oh, you mean like the "professionals" tp whom the bullying was reported? How'd that work out?

Document everything, call the police, sue the school, do whatever it takes to shut down the bullying and to hold the parents responsible, if the parents are those types who refuse to believe that their children are capable of bullying.

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I just want to thank Patrick and his family for this great video. Bullying is real, but it is wrong. This video needs to be shared in the school and children need to be taught what to do when they see bullying. Adults need to engage wherever they see bullying and set the example by not looking the other way. Thanks again Patrick! Keep the communication open with your parents.

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Hi I go to william henry middle school and i see almost everything that goes on in my school and everyday there is a person in my school who gets bullied 5 times a day and i feel the pain that they are in which makes me want to do something about it.this video made me believe i could do something about it now and will make me stand up for others when they are gettingbullied.my name is shawna and i will try to stop every bully in school and help the people who get bullied.

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