High school girls make pregnancy pact

I am not surprised with this story- it is happening all over. Teens all over think it is so cute to show the belly and then to dress up the babies in designer label diapers etc. These are not "nice" girls- they are stupid, rebellious don't give a damn except what I want little demanding selfish tramps. They don't want birth control and they don't even think about the risk of STD's. my sister is friends with a 16 yr old girl right now expecting twins. I asked her what happened to the condom? "oh..." ) Another just had a baby in the spring- she didn't even go for FREE prenatal check ups and the baby daddy didn't take her either. If you don't have sense enough to take of yourself and pick a decent father for your baby, then what the heckk are you having them for. The baby has a right to be protected and loved. These underage naive teens are committing the first crimes against humanity- child abuse and reckless endangerment. They should work to pay for maternity visits and they should pay for child care and government food. If you want these benefits, then you should put something in the coffers, before expecting the taxpayers to assume the responsibility of more babies. Maybe if they removed them from school, made these teens go through natural childbirth (NO MORE EPIDURALS) and made them breast feed ( NO FREE FORMULA), I bet this would take the cuteness out of this process and give these girls a whole lot to think about. These boys and the statutory rapist are not going to be there for them, but they should have to work too to contribute to the care of the mother and the baby before and after the birth. They probably have other girls lining up and they sure as hell aren't going to be tied down- but where is the lesson of self esteem and responsibility. These are not children- these teens are young adults making SERIOUS decisions and they need to learn what these decisions really involve.

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So much has been said for Planned Parenthood and what THEY are doing. What happened to the origjnal PLANNED PARENTHOOD, mom and dad? Teenagers in general are smart and can make informed decisions if they are given full and accurate information. Information about STD's, about what it takes to rear a child, about what you have to give up as a parent to be a good parent. My "kid" sister was born when I was eleven years old, and yes I helped take care of her--the messy diapers, the getting up every two hours when she was sick (my parents were divorced at the time, and mom had to work nights so I did sick duty), the whole nine yards. Needless to say, when I was a teenager I was NOT interested in having a baby--too much work!! Someone has suggested the baby care project--great idea!!! But how 'bout another, if the school has a daycare, require the students to work in the daycare a specified period of time (e/g a week) so they seek the "pains" of having children too. Give them the whole picture, not just contraceptives, be involved in their lives, bring God into the picture and most teens will make the right decision.

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Well all i can say is this is not something that happens all over the country typically when a teenage girl gets pregnant it is on accident or if on purpose done by herself and the person she is sleeping with so i highly doubt everyone needs to start worrying about this behavior becoming an epidemic....

these girls have issues deeper then lack of love and failing economy, my home city has been suffering job loss and an increase of children from neglectful broken homes for almost 20 years but the kids here would never do something so stupid. Getting pregnant to get a place in a shelter or low income housing placement because you don't have a home is totally different then this, this is just silliness and i don't think it is a common thing... seems to me these girls are lacking the necessary life skills to determine reality from fantasy babies are cute and they are even fun, but babies are not fun all the time, they cost money, they require all of your time, you have to love them unconditionally and you have to devote a minimum of 18 years to them.....without a break....so their lack of common sense is what is scary to me..

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Well this is a very contriversal subject. But my understanding on this matter is that these girls WANTED to get pregnant. I think if these girls wanted to have babies they can have their kids but they should take care of their kids themselves and the school shouldn't have a daycare program to watch their kids. If they really wanted kids then let them take care of them on their own without help from the school.That's my opinion.

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Having a baby was the best thing I have ever done (she's 19 now). However, I was married and old enough to handle the responsibility. A teenager is not emotionally equipped to deal with a sick baby screaming at the top of his little lungs at 2 a.m. A temperature of 103 because of an ear infection, chicken pox, teething or the first time the kid says, "You're a mean mommy."

What happens when they change their minds about parenthood when they find out it's not all sunshine and ice cream, and they all make a pact to toss their babies into the nearest dumpster? Where are these girls' parents? Not to mention the boys/men who got them pregnant. Will they be held responsible for child support?

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LONG BUT PLEASE READ!

First- do NOT disrespect teen or soon to be teen mothers, they are not ''sluts'' or ''bed girls'' having a baby wasnt the bad part, sex before marriage or at least a promising relationship was. so do not condem them for going through with a pregnancy. The ''bad girls'' are the ones that have abortions and dont even get their child a chance. think of everything wrong you are doing in your life... what makes you think they are worst then you? thier still people and God loves them too.
Second- its a SHAME that these guys do not have to go through what the girls have to. girls walk around with everyone starring at them and saying crap and no one ever has to know what the guy has done, if ur a guy and in this situation i hope you man enough to deal with this
Third- Day cares should be an option at schools. Just because they had sex doesnt mean everything in life should be hard for them now. They should continue their education, how else are they going to get a good enough job to support their child. they will learn for themselves it is not easy, they do not need society to punish them
Fourth- If you are a teen mother or soon to be, congradulations, im sure you do not hear that. Just because your young doesnt mean that the gift of life is worthless now. you are about to experience somthing beautiful, but also hard, but rewarding. there is nothing you can do to undo this so you might as well be happy right? dont let other people make you feel bad!
Fifth- Adoption is always an option. it is probably the hardest thing you will ever do if u chose it, but really consider it. there are so many couple unable to bear children, you would be giving them the best gift you ever could. it is also probably the best choice for your child. ill im asking is to consider it. also please dont think you need to marry the guy who got you pregnant! just because you had sex doesnt mean hes the best guy for you. ive seen so many bad marriages because of that!!! it usually ends in divorce anyway.
Sixth- On purpose? I understand really wanting a baby, I am 20 and I cant wait to be a mom! but if you are not married and want a baby pleeeeease reconsider!!! wait untill you are readyyyyy! it will be so much betttter!!!

I got pregnant at 16 when i was a high school junior and had a baby boy at 17. He is almost 3 now. i KNOW what its like, dont listen to these people who have never been in your situation! If you need help or someone just to talk to please talk to me! I graduated high school, got my cosmetology lisence, and am now in college to be a psychologist, i want to help pregnant teenage girls, i hate that i need a 6 year degree to help with that. i know what u feel like. You are still a great person! dont let anyone make you feel less! I did choose adoption. it was the best decision. but also extremly hard! you cant undo what you've done, make the best of it! God still LOVES you! :)

If your child is pregnant-- help them! their still your child!! if any of you parents kick them out of love them less you are pathetic! they NEED you. especially moms!

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"Dr. Brian Orr, and the school nurse, Kim Daly, began to ***advocate*** prescribing contraceptives without parental consent"

I don't see where it says he prescribed anything, this sentence tells me he just liked the idea of prescribing contraceptives. Dictionary.com tells me "advocate" is a verb and it means "to speak or write in favor of; support or urge by argument; recommend publicly."

The sentence, however, is still unclear because it could be read as either:

(a) he advocates prescribing contraceptives, but advocates without parental permission.
(b) he advocates prescribing contraceptives, but wants to prescribe without parental permission.

Huge difference.

I seriously doubt he wanted to do choice (b). A lot of parents get upset about anyone talking to their children about sex and birth control of any kind. I don't think it's fair to children and teenagers to hear such mixed messages about sex and its possible consequences (and pleasures). I don't think it's realistic to expect humans of any age or gender not to be curious about sex. I say this as a 23 year-old woman who has never been pregnant, but who was "subjected" not only to a few *hours* of sexual education during the entire 12 *years* I was in school, but also to a family whose messages about sex were mixed. I went through (and still go through) my periods of wanting a baby... but I am of sound mind and able to think my decisions through. Someone who feels unloved might not think so hard about it... in fact, it might seem like an easy decision to make.

Be realistic: It's likely that most (if not all) of the children that result from this will be just fine. Give the girls some credit, they are obviously driven individuals. Luckily, there is assistance available for young and single mothers. And, if they'd all been a few years older, it wouldn't have made the news, and most of us wouldn't have noticed or cared.

The problem doesn't appear to be contraceptives and sex ed (or a lack thereof); it appears to be a "problem" with teenagers and peer pressure, group mentalities, etc... especially given the fact that these girls felt unloved. Little else leaves you more emotionally vulnerable and desperate than that. Unfortunately, birth control can't fix that problem... and from what I hear, neither can a baby.

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They all decided to get pregnant because they wanted unconditional love? They need to know that Jesus loves them unconditionally, they don't need a baby to get unconditional love!

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Sadly the girls seem to be reaching for love. The school enabled them finding live in sex. What now is going to be done to change the culture of this town? My daughter became pregnant her first year at Indiana University. Today 15 years later she is a CPA with two degrees. Both my husband and I supported her educational efforts - as long as she was making an impact on her future. Our grandson is a wonderful - well adjusted teen. If life would have been simple and easy for her - who knows how hard she would have worked to become the person she is today. Shame on the town, the school system, and the parents for allowing these girls to act so selfishly and withought regard to the mirale of life.

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Its a good thing the Dem's will be in office! These girls will be just fine, the goverment is here for you and we will take care of you child! Fear not! And if you want more its ok... don't let anyone tell you not to follow your heart!

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The problem is that these girls were not taking the responsibility of parenting seriously. They all decided to get pregnant so they could raise their babies together, as if it was some cute, little project. Most people never even see each other after high school. I'm sure they have realized all too late what a mistake this pregnancy pact was. Well, I wish them and their children the best of luck.

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Maybe for once and for all, that we get rid of WELFARE, these moo-cows may smarten up when they figure they have to work their own asses off to support the little grunts, instead of Mommy and Daddy doinf it for them... >:(

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It doesn't help that the media is constantly glamourizing the celebriy "baby bumps." And, a lot of these women are unmarried. It looks so easy to have a baby, and young girls don't understand what a tremendous financial and emotional undertaking it is. I didn't have my first child until I was 34, after receiving a full education and 13 years at a career. It still was quite a shock to my life. It's not fair to all of these babies that they are being born to people who cannot possibly give them any advantages in life. We as a society really need to come together and do something about this.

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WOW! So many thoughts and opinions!
1. With regard to complaints about the school giving Birth Control to minors: Parents are angry that their parental authority is being undermined by circumventing the necessity of contacting a parent for anything related to sexual activity. I have heard several people ask " where were the parents?" How can parents be expected to know what their offspring are up to if the other adults in the community do not keep the parents in the loop?
2. Also, I have heard it commented that the girls must have been deprived of love if they were doing this. Has anyone considered that the parents did such a good job that they made it look easy? and fun? There is also the point that we make things so easy on our children that EVERYTHING seems easy. How often do we ameliorate the consequences for breaking the rules --like paying for traffic tickets? How often do we pay for everything? How often do we give them a car instead of making them earn the money to buy it themselves?
3. A couple of people touched on the responsibility of the teenagers themselves. The truth is if they WANT to do something, they WILL do it. They THINK much more independently than we did at the same age due to the fact that society encourages it.
4. Teenagers do STUPID SHIT. At some point in their adolescense, all teenagers will do something stupid. We did too at the same age, if we are honest. But just because they think independently does not mean they think LOGICALLY.
5. That's why it takes a village to raise a child. All the adults in an adolescent's life must watch over them, be alert and act in concert. It is even more important now when teenagers have so much freedom to come and go whenever and wherever they want. So next time someone corrects your child don't glare at them. Back them up! And give the kid a consequence!
6. Teenagers, girls in particular, have airy-fairy fantasies of the "way life is going to be . . . " They dream of the perfect boy/girlfriend, the perfect job, the perfect life, the perfect child. They are almost totally ego-centric. They want what they want when they want it. They get hare-brained ideas and try to make them happen. And the adults in their lives can't always prevent disasters.
7. The media has the same role that storytelling used to have in past times. It is the equivalent of morality tales. So what "tales" are our children hearing and seeing? We must be cognizant of what we are teaching our children. What are they learning through the medium of Television? of Film? of Music?
8. It is important to assist those young adults with things that they are having great difficulty with but NOT to either do it for them or help them too much. A parent must perform quite a balancing act. What is appropriate for one person would be too much for another. But they should ALWAYS have to do the majority of the work.
9. Men ARE important to the lives of their children especially as children move into adolescence. Men must teach their sons (and daughters) the responsibilities of life. And sometimes that means that MOM has to get the hell out of the way so that DAD can do that.
10. In the last 50 years we have turned upside-down the rules by which society lived. Rules that have been developed for very good reasons. While I agree that many things needed improvement, we seem to have thrown the baby out with the bath. We have gone from one extreme to the other. Perhaps some of those rules weren't as arbitrary as was thought. We need to re-think how much freedom and lack of responsibility we are giving our children as a society. Too much or too little of either is not a good thing.
11. We need to support parents in raising their teenagers by not allowing those adolescents to get away with bad or risky behavior. We need to stick together.

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As a parent to 4 children my husband and I already pay for sports, muscial instruments, ACT and SAT testing, 1-college tuition, and many, many more extras. Why should we have to pay for other parents mistakes???

MAKE THEM PAY!!!

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i agree with the jamie lynn spears comment. having a baby looks glamorous to these young girls. it's the latest hollywood accessory. there's a group of celebrities in their 40's who waited to start (Halle Berry, nicole Kidman, etc.) then there's the spears girls, nicole richie, ashlee simpson who don't care if it interferes with their careers. the main difference between celebrities and we common folk? MONEY.

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Have they been tested for AIDs yet?
I sure hope they do they have meds they can take if they have it they wont pass it to the baby?

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Has anybody said yet how incredibly STUPID these girls are? Exactly what are they thinking they're doing? Having a "pregnancy pact" sounds like exactly like some silly little girls playing games, but let me tell you, having kids is not fun and games at all, especially when you have to raise them yourself as these girls will. Do they really think having a baby will change anything about the bleak outlook of the city's economy? If anything, having a baby to support will make things much harder; not just for them, but also their families (who will be forced to provide for an extra person). No doubt they expect welfare to provide for them once the child is born; that's nothing but blatant abuse of a program created to help needy families. These girls (and other people who think it's ok to have kids but no job) should receive no assistance from the government to help raise their children; maybe when they see how hard it is to provide for them on their own they'll stop behaving STUPIDLY!

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immaturity run rampant, what a bunch silly stupid girls.
They are in for a reality check, there only short term hope is that if some reality show pulls into their city to video thier "progress".

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