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No, my son does it too. He's right about the same age as your son as well. Chicken, while apparently a terrible, vicious poision on his own plate, is somehow magically and irresistibly tempting when on my plate or my husband's. Salad? Wonderfully delicious in Mommy's bowl, but somehow vile and unacceptable in his own. I also find it very frustrating. Frankly, though, given his recent determination to survive mainly on air and a pinch of salt, I'll gladly let him nibble at my sandwich while delcaring that he does not like his own. Nevermind that they're two halves of the same sandwich.

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My kid is 14 (years not months) and I still feel that way. I am a selfish hag. I am so glad you wrote this, I feel better having company.

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"DUDE STOP BOGARTING MY FOOD."

Ha! I thought only people on the east coast said this.

My 2 year old would take the toast right out of my hand if I let her. We are working hard on please right now but mostly it's a delay tactic so I can cram the rest of it into my mouth.

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Both of my boys do this - age 2 and 4 - but the 2 yo is worse. I eat a lot of really, really hot spicy food, too, and he still wants it, and often lately has been eating stuff that is too spicy for most adults!

I've tried taking his food, putting it on my plate, and giving him bites of that, but NOPE, he's got that one figured out.

The two things that bother me the most are sharing my drink (almost always water, but then I end up with so much baby backwash in it - gross! - that I pour it out and get a new one) or when they haven't wanted any and take the LAST BITE of whatever I'm eating. I'm freakish there - I sometimes set it up so the very last bite is all filled with flavor and yum, and then one of them takes it from me!!!!!!

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Oh my yes - my daughter esp likes to wheedle the last bite of my peanut butter English muffin from me - but yeah - pretty much anything - and all 3 kids do it. The 8 yr old's out grown it - but the 6 & 4 yr olds still do it. Mommy's tastes better;)

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I use this personality flaw, or should I say trait, against my 3 year old self proclaimed non-eater. I only make one dinner, so everything on everyone's plate is identical. If you don't like it, you don't eat, simple....you see I am the most horrible kind of hag!

Anyhow, what I do is let her pick at her plate for a while then once she declares she's not hungry, doesn't like chicken, or whatever tactic she decides to use for that mealtime I simply say "OK, if you don't want it I'll eat yours too, since I absolutely love it." Usually I have to take a bite of something on her plate which sends her into a state of panic and she eats her supper! It's magic I tell you!

Perhaps you should make yourself extra, put a couple horrible food items on his plate then when he starts picking at yours you can offer to share and scoop some onto his plate. Or perhaps it’s the location of the food that makes the difference? Who can tell what’s going on in a 3 year old’s mind!

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My son refuses to eat meat (and exists on a diet of milk, juice, cucumbers and cheerios), yet this week alone he was given ribs on his plate (forgetaboutit) and ate mine instead. Last night he had steak (again forgetaboutit) but wanted Daddys steak and he ate a ton of it. Go figure.

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It doesn't bug me so much right now because for some reason she mostly only wants what Daddy's eating :)

But she ALWAYS tries to steal my dessert, even if we both have a single scoop of vanilla ice cream....she only wants mine! And G-D FORBID I should just switch the bowls.....

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It bothers me more when my husband tries to eat off my plate. Usually my one-year old only wants bites of my lime popsicle (Trader Joes Lime Floes). Go figure.

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My 15 month old assumes that my plate is merely his second course, to be attended to once his first course has been satisfactorily thrown onto the floor. And if I'm eating ice cream? Then, it's not *my* ice cream, it's his. I'm just the mechanical feeding arm that shovels it into his mouth. Should I aspire to eating a bite or two myself, he will howl the top of his lungs as if I am physically dragging it out of his mouth (that's really fun in public places when everyone in the room will see how evil and demented I am for stealing the baby's candy!).

And to think, my fondest wish lately is to eat a meal in the company of adults (NOT at my desk at work) where I have to neither cut someone else's food or share my own.

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We have food allergies in our house (hubby allergic to soy, daughter allergic to milk/eggs/tomatoes, me allergic to... nothing) so I'm used to fixing different meals. However, I'm a different kind of hag: I hate eating/drinking after my child. I also won't eat anything made by her unless I helped her make it and I know what her hygeine was like during the cooking process. Does that make me horrible?

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What? Just the kids? My family went to Disney World. The five of us all had chocolate ice cream, but with different toppings. My husband - the I only eat healthy food person - insisted on eating my chocolate ice cream with cookie chunks. In what way was my chocolate ice cream different? Why the sudden urge to switch from nuts to cookie chunks?

I feel like I'm living with a wild dog pack. (Just like my sheltie) I feel I need to push into some small corner of the table and protect my dish of luke-warm food. (Of course, everyone gets served prior to me.) I feel at any moment the scavengers are going to attack. From 54, 10, 9 years olds, and a 15 month old - I don't think they will ever stop.

My husband actually laughed at me when I told him if he wants to eat something - order it - my plate is not a buffet table.

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I'm selfish like that, too. When I used to do Weight Watchers points system, I flat-out refused to share. I would make them their own helping of the exact same thing, but I wouldn't share my own. If I was using points, every last morsel was going to go in MY mouth, ithankyouverymuch.

So, no. Not just you.

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I have an 19 month old, and a 3 year old. They're scavengers. They're like flys at a picnic. They'll eat anything off my plate. NOTHING off of theirs. I still need to lose 30lbs from having both of them close together and yet they eat my food and my 3 year old reminds me to go to the gym every morning.

You're right though.... it is annoying. The ONE THING in the world that could possibly be called your own is getting shared by a rug rat. It urks me too.

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Ha - it's just like that Friends episode: "Joey doesn't share food!!!"

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I read this and realized I'm using this habit as another reason not to watch my eating like I should be. So much easier to justify something when my daughter "shared" it with me...she must have eaten most of it anyway, right? :)

I wonder at what point and in what ways do we start teaching kids that they have to share with Mommy too.

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I know this post is old, but I'm new and....
I think I love you.

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