Things I should probably feel guilty about (but don't)

Haaaaa! And you thought you could keep away from writing controversial posts (I had my fingers crossed hoping you wouldn't -and I don't feel guilty about it!). I had my money on the cloth diaper thing, or maybe the smokin' caterpillar - but the gauntlet has been thrown down over the HOT DOG in the mouth! It's too awesome.

Lily - thank you so much, as I laughed just as hard a 2nd time imagining him saying it to a teacher. Poor friendless Riley, all alone because no one will play with one of "those" kids. Oh dear god, I can barely type I'm laughing so hard. You are right about one thing though - PD is no fun - except for Linda.

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This has kind of gotten off topic, but this totally DID happen at my DS's kindergarten last year - a little boy and his parents were totally ostracized by all the other parents, because he came to school and told all the kids that "sex" meant when a daddy put his "hot dog" in his mommy's mouth. So obviously, at some point a kid does start to put some of the clues together. BTW, the child did not return to that school for first grade, probably due to parent complaints and the fact that no one would let their children associate with him (i.e. playdates, B-day parties, etc)

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Linda as usual your post made me laugh out loud. What made me laugh even hard though are some of the comments made. Here, it's simple: If you don't like Linda's writing don't read it. Nobody's forcing you to. Go off and find writers that are more appropriate for your family's lifestyle and your parenting style. The rest of us will just keep reading - and keep spewing our drinks against our computer monitors.

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Nobody said they didn’t like Linda. I never said that. I just don’t find this particular thing to be funny. I am a teacher and what saddens me is how many “adults” find this kind of thing so funny. It does happen and you can laugh all you want to. Kids do get ostracized for things like this. You teach your kids to say please and thank you and all the manners and how to’s in life but if you don’t teach values and morals, and the right things to say, what’s the point of other life lessons?

Katie also stated what I was trying to say, other parents who don’t even say shit in front of their kids, don't like it. You don't have to like it but it isn't up to you.

I also said it may seem funny now, but it may not seem funny later. Yes, you may laugh when you get that call from school but then don’t wonder where it came from. If you think it’s so funny this young boy won’t have friends because he talks this way on the playground and at friends homes, then that’s up to you of course. Most parents like this don’t see it until it’s to late because the kids have always talked and been talked to this way. Can you see him in the lunch line when hot dogs are served and him saying this in a "funny manner" and then getting send to the office? It won't be funny to you then. He's a little darling boy and once in a while is one thing but he's getting to the age where he might repeat it and I think Linda wants more for her son than all you so called friends do.

BTW, I love most of Linda’s posts. Just so you know. I never said I didn't like her and take offense at those of you who said I do. It wasn't about that. If I didn't care, I would have kept right on scrolling because I don't comment much.

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here's one:

how about dragging your kids to nice restaurants? i used to feel guilty but then i read this perspective

http://parentzing.wordpress.com

and now all i saw is "i'm developing your palate" hahahaha

no more guilt for me!

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Should have replied "Tell him I'm holding out for a bratwurst"

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-----------------------> Sending the toddler running back and forth between his father and I in order to deliver vaguely dirty messages. "Mommy, Daddy says he has a BIG HOT DOG for your MOUTH!"

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Wow, I didn't realize people took things so seriously here. Honestly, I found it to be a joke. So, I'll be real for a second. It's funny till they can understand it and I'm sure she is smart enough to know when to stop the joke before it gets out of hand.

Children learn far worse out side of the home and on tv.

You want to here a truly sad story? When I was in 4th grade there was a big issue with a nun lifting up her garb to a kindergartener for looking under girls dresses. Although hilarious to me, it obviously would of cause real issues with the parents. Is she being harassed about it? Not really, should she? Maybe a little bit.

As you can see, I know people have good intentions and I do agree with many of you have to say about it may cause problems but you never can tell with children.

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beth2 7-25-2008 @ 10:50PM writes: I wonder why people who disagree with someone else's observations, alsays assume they are superior.

Beth, I'll never understand people like you who insist on reading bloggers you think are bad people. Move on, Miss Holier than Thou. Here's an example of something morally reprehensible: Catholics who give the Pope who protected pedophile priests the benefit of the doubt; not mommies and daddies making subtle harmless jokes in their homes.

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I have a bad habit of hiding ice cream and other treats from the kids and then eating it after they go to bed.

Not very hip and cool, but it's my little "should feel guilty, but don't" thing.

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I read Linda's blog, and I agree with you. They do an EXCELLENT job of raising those kids. Some of these comments are really brutal, and some parents should keep their mouths shut. How can they judge another parent on one sentence??

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"This is my first and last day on this site, and I am now going to go have fun, flirty sex with my husband"

EWWWWWWWW BETH THATS TOO MUCH INFORMATION

jeez what would your grandma think

My boyfriend is 33 now, and when he was born, his mum was only about 17. Her and her sister used to find it funny to send him back and forth between their rooms saying rude messages to each other like...well I can't write them here, because if you think the word "hot dog" is bad, you're going to be pretty shocked when you hear actual swear words. Quelle horreur!

My bf was never suspended from school, is a generally upstanding member of society, although he gets angry easily while driving so...oh dear I see what you mean.

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I can't believe more people didn't comment on the stoned caterpillar. I thought your post was funny and realistic. People need top get a grip, it is like saying your child will become a clepto because they sneak an extra piece of cake. Most partners have a secret code, it can be necessary but also enjoyable. I can't get my daughter to stop saying fricking, I want to scream it is really f**king but I don't, but this doesn't mean she uses the same language at school. She tries things out at home and finds out if it is acceptable. Of course, I don't think it is acceptable to use fricking by any 11yo but it doesn't mean I don't remember trying out language. It is naive to think that children will ostracized for trying out language, they all do it. This site can seem fairly judgmental and I find that a bit sad as we are all doing the best we can, trying to get by and looking for a little enjoyment with peers along the way.

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Oh Please, ... It may be "inappropriate" talk for an older child but for goodness sake, toddlers have the attention span of a knat and i'm pretty sure he is not jotting down notes to repeat in the playground. besides... it's talk about a hot dog... as in food, he hasn't begun to form a dirty mind yet. On another note, I am curious if the children of the parents who are so quick to slam anothers parenting choices will grow up to be closed minded and judgemental and then OMG.. "they will be "getting into trouble in school and will have no friends, nobody invites him over to play, no b-day party invites and will then be hearing “oh, what did I do wrong?” He will be one of "those" kids". !

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Kelly - maybe you didn't read my post closely, but as I said before, in my sons kindergarten class last year, a boy made references about his daddy's "hot dog" in his mommy's mouth. It may very well have been some joke his parents were making - who knows. However, it got out to the parent body that this child was talking about this, and there were complaints to the teachers and principal. The child's parents were called, and it is my understanding the school followed up to make sure there was no abuse, etc (no one was told the specifics, due to privacy). No action was taken, and it was written-off as a kind of "kids say the darndest things" incident. However, the family was ostacized to the point of not returning to school . Not saying this was "right", but it DID happen. (BTW, the boy had just turned 5; not THAT much older than the 3 yr old Linda has - my 6 yr old still remembers many conversations verbatim, from when he was 3).
This was a very upscale, private school and the parents felt they paid way too much $$$ to have their 5 year olds hear that kind of stuff. I don't think they were "quick to slam anothers parenting choices" or that they were ALL "close minded and judgemental" - even the teachers and principal were a little shocked, and they hear a lot!! But I have a question - since when does not wanting your 3 or 5 year old making/hearing vague references to oral sex and "hot dogs" make one "close minded and judgemental", as you imply in your post? And why, just b/c some people don't think it's appropriate, do you consider that "slamming anothers parenting choices"? I think the lesson here is, if you don't want your child to talk or behave a certain way, don't act that way in front of them. I think it's great that Linda and her husband are playful, etc, but if you use your kids as part of the joke, be prepared to hear it repeated, in possibly the most inappropriate of places!!

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