Katherine Heigl is too busy for children

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WHY DOES EVERYONE NEED TO HAVE KIDS? I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU THAT YOU ARE SO CLOSED MINDED - EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT LIFE............WALK IN THEIR SHOES BEFORE YOU ARE SO QUICK TO JUDGE..................

I do not think cursing and calling people names is appropriate! I did NOT warrant the obscenities that you hurled at me ( I am a parent that you bunched in that cursed group) as I PERSONALLY did not say anything about your choice not to have kids (maybe YOU feel some loss about it or you would not be so hostile), not EVERYONE who has kids feels that people who do not are missing out. I absolutely LOVE my kids, although I married young and sometimes wish I had had them later in life, I am still in a top notch Masters program with two kids, so it is possible, and just because I chose to have them does not mean my life is over, I have traveled many places since having my children and yes they usually come with, but its been just as exciting for them. I still have date nights with my husband too. I still have money in the bank, I still wear nice clothes and am having the best times of my life, just as much fun as when I was single and/or without kids. HOWEVER, and here it is IT IS NOT MINE OR ANYONE ELSE'S CHOICE on if and/or when a person other than ourselves chooses to have or not have children. Its that simple really, Mrs. Heigl/Kelly has the right to NOT have kids or have them when she wants. Period and honestly I do not think its any of our business, I only got caught in this article because I saw Ms/Mrs.debb's response to someone saying they felt sorry for her not having kids, the ferocity of her response astounded me because it was not called for to call ALL of us whom have kids such names or to shoot down our choice, her response SHOULD have been directed at the person whom she disagreed with, who should have not generalized as well. Generalization is idiotic in ALL forms.

Oh and as far as BEING selfish in having kids, how is that selfish? To have a child is VERY unselfish when its done right, and I am sorry you have had such bad parenting experiences that, that is what you think of having children and/or being a parent. I have sacrificed MUCH for my kids and it was hard to get where we are now, but I chose to have my kids even as a young woman, I have a BA, a great husband and a good job and I had my kids to love THEM, not for someone to love me, as I already love me. As far as my being a good parent, well considering both my kids are polite, sweet, and everyone says we are doing a great job, I would think we are. It is LOVE, time and responsibility that is required to take care of a child, you do not need loads of money, though it helps. But first and foremost is stability, love, time, energy and responsibility. So contrary to your beliefs there are parents who had their children for the right reasons and with the knowledge of what it entails to be a proper and great parent!

If your such a great mom why are you spending so much time on line posting comments on blogs,go be a parent! Having a child is NOT A SELFLESS ACT by any stretch of the imagination, that is just somethng people like you tell yourself to make yourself feel important. All your reasons for deciding to have a child were selfish, whatever they were. A selfless act is doing something for a cause higher than yourself, something to benefit someone else other than yourself for no payoff to yourself. Having a child isn't a higher act,d, the lowest creature on Earth can reproduce. You had a child to be fulfilled and that is a selfish motive. Again, people who choose not to have children also do so for their own selfish reasons. Personal gratification is selfish, whether you have a child or not. You made the choice to sacrifice for the sake of having children, thats not selfless or heroic- THATS WHAT YOUR SUPPOSED TO DO- ITS THE RESPONSIBILITY of having a child so don't pat yourself on the back to much for doing what your supposed to do.

How much time have your children actually spent with you and not in daycare or with babysitters. Thats great that you have a BA, a great job,date nights and nice clothes and thats awsome that your kids are sweet and polite...did they learn that from you or the daycare?

Perhaps you took my comments as personally as you did and felt the need to defend yourself SOO vehemently because I struck a nerve with you. I had a great upbringing, had a stay at home mom who made sure my siblings and I had everything we needed,especially emotionally. She sacrificed her career for quite a few years to make sure we had a mom. What sacrifice did you make?

Do you KNOW all of her peers? Firstly, the only ones I see who could be considered as having kids frivolously are Ashley Simpson, Nicole Ritchie, Jaime Lynn and Britney Spears. They had unprotected sex and ended up with babies, now as far as the others, Halle, Jennifer Lopez and Nicole Kidman have been waiting FOREVER to have kids. Angelina Joli and Brad Pitt have always stated they love kids and honestly I do not know of anyone else who just had kids willy nilly. Most of the stars with kids today ARE older parents, if you look at the actual amount of parents in Hollywood having kids, almost all are in their late 30's, or in thier 40's and 50's and there are only 5 stars that are in their 20's and one in her teens. I wish people would stop thinking ALL people have kids just to say they did it, yes some people do, just like some people do not have kids because they are selfish, no getting around that, but NOT ALL people are the SAME! Will people pleaseeeeeeee stop generalizing, OMG it is so irritating!

Kim,

Relax!!!! In my own "fresh" way, I was being supportive of Ms. Heigl's decision to delay parenthood. I am an educated woman in my late 40's who waited until I was 30 to start my family. I am keenly aware how children change your life ( both positively and negatively) and wish more people would take the decision to have children seriously. A lot of what the media puts out there, trivializes the decision to have children. What is irritating is having you continuosly rant at the rest of us.