Surrogate baby trapped in legal limbo
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For one thirteen-day-old baby, life is turning out to be no cake walk. A newborn brought into the world nearly two weeks ago by native Indian Priti Patel, who served as a surrogate mother, is stuck in India. Her would-be parents, Ikufumi Yamada and Yuki Yamada, divorced right before she was born.
Yuki no longer wants to adopt the child, but Ikufumi does. According to Indian law, however, children may not be adopted by single men. As a result, the newborn is living in India with Ikufumi 's mother, who is staying on to care for the newborn. The baby has yet to be adopted. Since she has no adoption papers, she cannot be issued a passport. And, because she can't get a passport, she can't leave the country.
Patel has also left the scene after serving as the surrogate. She is part of a process known as commercial surrogacy wherein couples who cannot have a child on their own provide the sperm and eggs to a surrogate mother, who carries the child to term and then is paid a fee for her services. The couple then generally adopt their child and are on their merry way. Not so much for the twelve-day-old, who at this point I don't think even has a name! What a sad state things are in when a little technical legality keeps a man from legitimately adopting his own child!
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 2)
Mihir 8-07-2008 @ 11:55AM
what does the picture have to do with the article?
in response to the article, does Indian law allow for adoption by single women?
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kathy 8-08-2008 @ 2:09PM
has brad pitt an angelina seen this article??????
Rose 8-08-2008 @ 2:22PM
The children suffer when people and doctor's play with mother nature and God's creation. Besides, isn't that baby related to the woman who carried the child, as well, since she is connected physically to that person and came from that woman's womb? What a mess for a child to grow up and not know who they really are because of people for hire to carry babies and give them away.
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XSemperIdem5 8-08-2008 @ 2:46PM
It's sad that it takes something like this for lawmakers to realize mistakes. It's the man's child, just let him take the baby. How is this even an issue of adoption when it involves the man's DNA?
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Kaylee 8-08-2008 @ 7:51PM
A mans AND WOMANS DNA, it takes 2
Angiebaby 8-08-2008 @ 2:54PM
I am guessing Ikufumi is the male donor for the baby. If so, I'm not exactly clear why he would have to "adopt" his own child. But anyway, why doesn't Ikufumi Yamada's mother, or parents, adopt the baby and bring her to their home? Surrogacy could be a viable option for parents who cannot conceive or carry a child, but in the US, the "mother", even if she is merely the carrier of another couple's embryo, has too many rights, I'm not sure it would be worth the risk of losing "my" child to a surrogate. Although this is not an option at this phase of my, if the embryo was "conceived" with my eggs and my husbands sperm, I might have consider another woman carrying our baby to term. But honestly, I'm not open to my baby being conceived between my husband's sperm another woman's eggs while we are married. Naturally, this is not the same as step-children who are a part of my husband's life before me, and would be welcomed. And this is not meant to pass any judgement on any other woman's choice... simply what I would prefer.
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TC 8-08-2008 @ 2:56PM
If the child was concieved with the father's sperm,then isn't it his child and if so, why would she need to be adopted by him? I would think it would be more of an issue with the mother, no longer married to the father. Couldn't the father go after the mother for support? All the had to do was stay together until the child was born then go their merry ways if thats what the wanted. Seems selfish & thoughtless, for the baby, to end things just before the birth.
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joanne wine 8-08-2008 @ 2:59PM
While I may not understand why a person feels the need to have a child of their own genes as I have had five children, I just don't understand why adoption is not considered. There are so many children who need a good home...a child is a child is a child....regardless of who the sperm/egg donor is.
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tc 8-08-2008 @ 3:02PM
i agree that surrogates, who are only carry the baby and do not donate eggs for the porceedure, can really stick it to someone. Wasn't that the issue with MaryBth Whitehead? I may bewrong, but I thought she had carried the child to term that was concieved, not with MaryBeth's eggs or her husbands sperm, but solely from the married couple who she agreed and was paid by to have the child.Again, I want to stress I may be wrong that the baby was nto concieved with her eggs.
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Tina 8-08-2008 @ 3:30PM
If it is the guy's child produced from HIS sperm--how is it being "adopted"? Let him take his kid home. The government of India needs to fix this mess...
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Paul Harris 8-08-2008 @ 3:31PM
The real problem here is our utter lack of understanding or appreciation for different cultures! How conceited of us to believe that we, (Americans) are the only people who know how to conduct our society. Remember my friends, The United States of America is among the youngest of the worlds nations. How dare us to presume to know how the rest of the world should or shouldn't live! And, although I know he won't, perhaps someone needs to inform our president that he and his cronies were not "ANNOINTED" AS THE saviors of the known world!
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Jill Nudo 8-08-2008 @ 5:39PM
Thank you, Paul. It is always a pleasure to read an intelligent post. Jill
ohduckydoodoo 8-08-2008 @ 3:48PM
Ok, so I look at this as the dumbest thing ever!!! Get a surrogate then divorce??? How friggin stupid are these people???? This doesn't even have anything to do with the laws!!!! This is pure stupidity!!!!!!!! Think before you act!!!!!
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jazzyazaliah 8-08-2008 @ 4:01PM
I have a good knowledge of other cultures, and I've had quite a bit of experience with Indian culture inparticular. The issue here is definitely cultural. The Indian culture is one of caste and status. The surrogate mother probably had little choice in becoming a surrogate. It was likely her families decision, a decision based on the desire to improve their caste. She has likely moved on to surrogate another child for another couple, whether she wanted to or not. That's how it works. Women, and in many cases young men, do what is decided for them, not what they decide to do. That's one of the reasons the rich are rich and the rest are dirt poor in India. The divide there is not only enormous, but it is entrenched deeper than the ocean.
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jazzyazaliah 8-08-2008 @ 4:01PM
As for the legality of the matter, even the people in India will tell you that the laws there are backward and archaic. Why? Because they are made by those protecting their caste and status. Graft, nepotism, and the all-important "keeping face" are integral parts of Indian politics. Everywhere in the world people care for themselves and their families (and many times just themselves) above everyone else, and nowhere is this more true than in India. Granted, I've met some wonderful Indian people, but I've met many, I mean MANY, who are absolutely self-absorbed verging on evil. People who would slit your throat to get what they want without thinking twice, as long as they could be sure they wouldn't suffer any consequences. Not to say that I haven't met those types in pretty much every race I've observed, but Indian people, men in particular, can be especially vicious, and frighteningly duplicitous. At least, that's been my experience with them.
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Truthteller 8-08-2008 @ 4:04PM
There are good reasons why some people can't have babies.
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Bill West 8-08-2008 @ 5:04PM
Surrogacy is not the kind of thing you can back out of once started. The legal problems alone can be overwhelming, no matter what country you are in. Adoption is a much better option, and there are unwanted babies born every day.
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poopchutes 8-08-2008 @ 5:06PM
Why doesnt the grandmother just adopt her just so she can leave
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karen 8-08-2008 @ 7:58PM
The grandmother is probably past the age limit to adopt in India. Only China allows older people to adopt, and I believe they recently changed that. After age 40, most countries won't allow foreigners to adopt their babies.
As it wasn't my issue, I don't know what the Indian laws are about a foreigner impregnating an Indian the old-fashioned way, then wanting to take the baby to his country. There may be a snag there. But it is still absurd that the govt. can't make an exception for this baby!
onediva 8-08-2008 @ 5:26PM
This story is so incredulous. I don't understand why a father would have to adopt his own child. The surrogate mother is not staking claim, as she should not. All she did was "bake the cake". She did not provide any ingredients. Would Indian law allow the biological mother to adopt if the situation was reverse? If so, that is prejudice. Why one and not the other? Too bad they didn't stay married until after everything was legal. Hopefully it will be rectified in the near future and the father gets his daughter.
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