It doesn't matter if it's just $2.50. He's required to pay it. You don't think kids nickel & dime you half to death? Those nickels and dimes add up. Quit your whining and let your husband be the father he should be. Pay the friggen bills!

He always paid the bills (she has stopped asking now that she is remarried). It just always seemed ridiculous and punitive, and unfair that he had to pay money for something he had no say in.

Further, he wanted and tried to be more of a Dad, but wasn't allowed. There were times he was scheduled for a visit, and the ex changed her mind and wouldn't allow the visit. In these cases, the procedure is for him to have to file a complaint with the court, get lawyers involved, spend hundreds (maybe thousands) of dollars, and then get another weekend visit allowed at a later date. He asked for progress reports, school pictures and such, but was never given them until his daughter was old enough to send them herself. He would try to call, and his ex's mother would not put his daughter on the phone to talk, or would hang up the phone after a short time. The gifts he sent frequently "didn't arrive" and there is no way the USPS was failing that frequently.

Not to mention the wonderful things this ex did in the time she was planning for the divorce, but that has no bearing on this subject in particular, so I'll spare the details.

But, as usual, non-custodial parents are painted as the bad guys who complain about being nickel and dimed to death. I'm almost positive it cost the ex at least $2.50 to stamp the envelope, drive to the post office, and then drive to her bank to cash the reimbursement check.

If it has went through court then they ex's are responsible for telling you about all issues including medical and school related. Also, if htey do not allow the scheduled visit then you are by law allowed to call the police, show the visitation order and get the child while the other parent gets arrested for violating a court order. Get off yoru whiny butts adn help yourselves instead of complaining about it all JUDY!!!

GET REAL. IT SETS A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR ALL TO FOLLOW ,BEING MORE CHILDISH THAN YOUR KIDS . ADULTS NEED TO LEAD BY EXAMPLE , PERSONEL FEELINGS SET ASIDE . I KNOW THAT SEEMS INPOSSIBLE BUT WE ALL MUST TRY. SHOWING THE WAY FOR KIDS ALL SETS GOOD STEPS TO FOLLOW WHEN THEY TO BECOME ADULTS. PLEASE FORGIVE ME BUT HOLLYWOOD HAS LITTLE IN ROLE MODEL S . AND CHARLIE BEHAVES LIKE A 2 YR OLD . A TRAIT PAST ON FROM HIS DISFUNCTIAL DAD .

Great! Their children get to learn that Mom and Dad hate each other MORE than they LOVE them. Denise and Charlie should be proud of themselves....if they ever get their heads out of their @##.

They book act like 3 year olds. I feel very sorry for their children.

Doesn't matter what you, me, joe blow, charlie schmuck sheen thinks...it's a court ordered support payment. But of course, if one chooses to disagree, they could always go to jail for "contempt of court". Does that term seem familiar?

I love this. The non-custodial parent is always made out to be the bad guy. Well, there's a reason that they're the non-custodial parent. It's something that you can never grasp until you've done it, but try being the single parent. You paint your husband's ex as such a horrible person but it is my experience that the custodial parent gets pushed to the limit before they start playing hard ball. Another thing, you said about her ex wouldn't send progress reports, medical stuff, etc. Did you know that even a parent who has had their rights terminated still have the right to know about the anything medical and school related? Unfortunately it's not the custodial parent's responsibility to disclose the information. You should've told your husband to try to be a parent and go get the information himself. No hospital, doctor's office, school, etc. will deny him the information. They're not allowed to by law. You seem to be looking for a pity party for you and your husband but like I said before, there's a reason you are non-custodial parents. And now your complaining about having to do any of your duties as a parent.

Your husband's ex must be related to my husband's ex. The exact same thing has happened to us. I think the worst thing his ex has done is send both (their two) boys over to my house with staff infection (confirmed by their doctor by an appt she took them to the day before) with my newborn that was less than a week old. She didn't even warn us....the kids let it slip. My husband tries to do the right thing, but she always turns everything against him. It's unbelieveable! Parents should try and get along for the kids sake....although it's hard to get along with someone that just wants to hurt you.

Judy, I can identify with you! My fiance of nine years has a ruthless exwife who makes Denise Richards look classy. But after reading your story, it made me wonder if you are in Florida?? It's got to be the worse state for the noncustodial parent. We can't even get married because then the ex would get part of my salary too - though her new husband's salary will never be taken into account! My daughters are always asking me why we put up with his ex and crap from the step-kids (she puts them up to things), and all I can say is we have to for now, and don't choose a man with a past! Good luck to the both of you.

If daddy wants to know what he is paying for...simple...pick up the phone...call the doctor, dentist, etc...and say "Hi, I am Mr. so and my daughter is so, I would like a complete breakdown of this bill please and while you are at it, a copy of her medical records for my review. Thank you.". Very simple, done deal.

You seem a bit of a hypocrit when it comes to your daughters bills verses your step daughters. The amout for a medical bill nor the reason for seeing a doctor matters. It any child needs to see a physician for any reason, $2.50 or $2, 500, both parents need to it up and not be petty about the care of the child. Would you rather your husbands ex skip a doctors visit and wait until the condition worsen's? Your complaining about paying $2.50, I can't believe this will make or break you financially so is it just a hassle for you and your husband to take care of this childs needs?

Sheesh, where to begin? Let me preface this with my husbands ex had his kids, I have mine, and then we have one that is ours. So I know this stuff from all the angles.

One, please stop being so petty. Whether you talk about it in front of the kids or not, I am SURE they are hearing or at least feeling it. Grow up and be parents, stop thinking as EXes and start thinking as parents that love your children.

If ya'll REALLY wanted to know what was going on with your children you would have called their doctor. I'm sure the ex knows the bitshin and whining they will hear from you if they were to call and tell you about every little band aid the child needed. As the parent of the children you have every right to get info from the doctor and I'm sure you know that. Just gives you another reason to complain about the ex. Get over it and start acting more responsibly.

Who cares how much the bill is? These are your children and they required something whether it cost 2,500 or 2.50. Pay your share and stop whining about the cost of a stamp!

Secondly, if parents were able to not pay for something because they didn't agree that their child should have it, that would lead to a lot of mess. (life what it sounds like to be a kid in your house) Then the parent could get out of hundreds of thousands of dollars of bills IF their child were ever to require life saving treatment (ie: surgery, chemo, etc). They'd just have to say "I don't think my child should have it and let God's will be done. Now don't send me a bill."

I am sure the kids in your home can feel the animosity and I will pray for their peace of mind and that they are able to grow up with their sense of self confidence and self worth intact.

D 8-12-2008 @ 4:17PM
If it has went through court then they ex's are responsible for telling you about all issues including medical and school related. Also, if htey do not allow the scheduled visit then you are by law allowed to call the police, show the visitation order and get the child while the other parent gets arrested for violating a court order. Get off yoru whiny butts adn help yourselves instead of complaining about it all JUDY!!!

This post here is obviously from someone who has never had to deal with. Police have no jurisdiction. It is a civil matter. Believe me my husband and I have been there done that countless times. There isn't a damn thing the police can do. All you can do is either suck it up or call a lawyer and then go through all the court issues which cost you thousands of dollars and you've still lost all that time regardless. Yes you may get more ordered time but again your ex can deny you and go through the process all over again. So before you start telling people to stop complainning may be you should do your own legal research before you sound like an idiot talking about something you obviously have no experience in.

Charlie has every reason to be weary of childhood immunizations. Taking them is like playing russian roulette. Tell me why it is necessary to use a mercury based preservative in immunizations? Tell me why FDA regulates the amount of immunization, but NOT the amount of the preservative? Tell me why autism has jumped from 1:2200 to 1:150?? Gee wonder why Charlie is concerned?? Because Charlie is smart!!

nadine, do you know him personally??? if you don't & you are going by what the media reports, then you are the one who is shallow & misinformed, what he does with his life is his business, same goes for his ex, but she doesn't see the damage it will do in the long run
by doing what she feels is right, parenting is a equal opportunity job
both should come to a common ground when deciding what is right & wrong for the kids. AMEN !!!

Sure doesn't seem that way from what I have read... Didn't Denise have an affair with her best friend's husband? So she didn't just screw over her own husband, she screwed over her own best friend by screwing her husband.

I don't care how you spin it, Charlie Sheen may, in fact, be a class-A jerk, but she 'ain't no class act neither!' Nickels aside, its the children that pay.

How is Charlie a horrible person just because he has been with a multitude of women? When does the female take responsibilty for themselves ? If Charlie is such a horrible person why is it females keep navigating themselves towards him?...I'm tired of you weak females that call men DOGS...well it must take a stupid female to be involved with Dog...Because it takes 2 and the other woman is considered a what?????