Teacher texts, talks to teen

Teltech54 --- I LOVE IT --- "DADS LAW"!!! We need more parents like you!!! Amen to that!

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Jeanne...that's what I read too....CREEPY!!! Or maybe he was saying he didn't want another female student to know about them (her best friend perhaps). It concerns me that he's also calling her and staying on the phone for 30 min. That means there are multiple attempts to communicate with her --- not just this texting. I'd home school her at this point AND get him kicked out of school before he targets any other girls.

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I would have been at the school and taken my daughter out of the school until something was done and it was proven to me something was done. What a sad tale that the media had to become invovled before the school did anything. Personally I would call for an investigation of the entire hirearchy at the school, Principal, Vice Principal even the District supervisor!!!

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Yah right!!! "I don't want her to find out, I don't want her to get hurt, I NEED to meet with you" could mean the guy was throwing a birthday party for her mom OR he really was trying to help her with her homework and needed to see her to do it!!! Yah, okay --- and fairytales really are real and there are unicorns around every corner!!! It must be real dark with your head up your arse for some people believing this is all innocent! I wonder what would happen if any of the naysayers here were to type that message to, oh let's see, your wife's best friend or a buddy's teenage daughter --- what would happen!!! Hmmmm....let me think on that!!! PLEASE!!!

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What will happen to this teacher?

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CEE64E - I'm not a guy --- but I can see where you are absolutely right. You put a new spin on it and I think you've got it. I agree with you wholeheartedly -- if he is doing something his new job should be a "baseball bat target"!!! You're so right!!!

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For all the GR8 teachers out there --- thank you! For all the opportunists (AKA predators/pedophiles) who prey on children and take positions like teachers to take advantage of them --- you are SCUM and should be maimed for life! For all the people who are justifying this jerks actions talking about "relationships" with their students and "bonding" and being "friends" --- GET OVER YOURSELVES!!! There is NO personal relationship in the word TEACHER, PARENT, COUNSELOR, ADULT, etc., with a child. A teacher is there to teach --- not be a student's "friend"....a parent is there to parent....ETC. Get the picture!!!??? Once the boundaries are recognized by adults and young people alike --- we'll have less of these creepy situations to deal with in our schools.

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Male teacher has sex with underage female student: Sentenced to 15-20 years in prison. Female teacher seduces underage boy student: Sentence suspended or maybe 30 days in jail. One judge told a female defendent that she was "too pretty to go to jail!"

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Forgetaboutit 8-20-2008 @ 2:10AM
With all those degrees and education, you misuse the English language so badly? Who are you kidding? Yourself no doubt...LOL

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I came from a really bad family situation, and the nly thing I enjoyed was my art classes at school. I could just forget what the heck was going on at home for a handful of minutes in the day when drawing, painting, et cetera. I had some wonderful teachers who kinda detected that I had a troubled situation and saw how at peace I was when being creative during class and reached out to me. They let me have complete control of what I did in class and they reached out to me on a personal note too. They invited me to participate in summer art programs and EVEN took me to the Museum of Modern Art and the Art Institute of Chicago, they paid for it totally. They really got me inspired and as a result, I have made plenty of money doing artsy fartsy stuff professionally, and I also had an art class held at a school in that district that cut art all together, and I did it for free for grades 1-6. I also donated a custom design for that school district for a middle school they're re-opening. So yeah, there are a few bad apples, but the rest of them are all heart and mean well.

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As Dennis Miller said: Wow! When I was in school they would'nt even allow me to bang the erasers!

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I find it a bit funny how many people are ready to kill me over letting a kid come and talk to me, in a school environment, with the permission of parents, to resolve an issue between other students.

I`m sure these are the same people who can`t understand why no teachers provided attention or support to school shooters.

What exactly do you imagine I am doing to this kid? I`d love to know. What is it all of you picture me saying to him?

If he has a crush on me, sure, good for him. That doesn`t mean I`m going to respond to it or do anything other than give him advice (within reason, obviously) if he asks for it. I`m not interested in high school kids, thank you very much. Nor am I interested in meeting with them privately in a situation that could be misinterpreted.

If I ever do teach any of your children, I`ll be sure not to tell them that it`s a bad idea if they ever come to me saying "I`m thinking about trying drugs because friend 1, 2, and 3 are going to. But I`m not sure, and my mom would freak out if I even mention it. Is there a way I can keep myself away from them at school without turning this into a huge issue?" - I`ll be sure to say "Talk to your mom about it - it`s none of my business and not my responsibility to discourage you from doing anything. Someone may think I`m trying to have a *gasp* relationship with you. Sorry, it`s just not my job." (Not what happened in this situation, but I`m not going to just give out private information.)

I never said I understood him better than his mother, and I never said I was his friend or that I was "bonding" with him. I said that if he called me in the middle of the night freaking out about something, I would give him advice because he has confided in me before. If he were in a serious situation I would contact those who need to be contacted, but I`m not going to call a mother EVERY time a student comes to me about being afraid to use a tampon (a real situation that I`ve had 3 different female students come to talk to me about) or asking what I thought female student #10 in my class would like as a birthday present. Nor am I going to call a parent if a student asks me for advice on how to break some bit of news to their parent in a good way, unless the news is something SERIOUS that needs parental attention immediately.

As for warping children, yes, feel free to go on raising them to believe that any adult who is willing to listen to what they have to say is out to get them. That the only people who aren`t predators are their parents. I`m sure that gives them a wonderful image of the world.

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Bravo for the parent on being aware of a warning sign of potential abuse by the teacher towards the student. (Negative change in the child's behavior)

While the change of behavior on the student's part does indicate that the child is uncomfortalbe with the teacher's action, it does not necessarily indicate the teacher is involved in an inappropriate relationship with the stident. I would hope the educational administrators supervising the teacher investigate to discover if the teacher involved exhibits other warning signs which indicate the potential of abuse before it happens. I hope the parent, student and school communicate openly and honestly to resolve this situation and set appropriate boundries for all parties involved.

There is concern if the teacher involved displays other warning signs of inappropriate relationships with a child. There may be a problem if the teacher also:

Discourages other adults from participating or monitoring their interactions with children.
Always wants to be alone with children.
More excited to be with children than adults.
Gives inappropriate gifts to children, often without permission.
Goes overboard touching.
Always wants to wrestle or tickle.
Thinks the rules don not apply to them.
Allows children to engage in activies their parents would not allow.
Uses bad language or tells dirty jokes to children.
Shows children pornography.

Parents please make it a point not only to talk to you child, but to listen to them as well. So much of what they say is not held in the words they use but in the way they say it. Sometimes they say more when they say nothing at all. (Body language) Give them an out. Let them know that they can tell you anything. Give them a signal or phrase to use when they have to tell you something they know will make you mad. When you see or hear the signal, you'll know your temper will be tested, but you have to hold on and listen before you react. Then react as a responsible adult.

Being a parent is a tough job. Growing up isn't easy.

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There is absolutely NO good reason for this teacher to be texting or calling this CHILD! His text literally drips with inuendo, and if he NEEDS to see this child and is on the up and up, it can wait until the next school day. Those of you who say there is nothing wrong with this situation must be very young, or just extremely naive and immature. Were this my daughter, she would not step foot in the school again, let alone the class, until that teacher was gone and I would go as far as I needed to see that this was accomplished.

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After 28 years in the classroom, I now teach education classes in a college. There is no justification for a teacher to call a student after normal hours when you would also call the parent. Regardless of the reason, it is NEVER appropriate to agree to keep secrets from parents. You do not need or want students as friends. You can be friendly and helpful without becoming a friend. Even if it doesn't lead to a relationship, students have learned that the appearance of inappropriate behavior is often enough to leverage a better grade. If they really have a problem, there are 24/7 services with professional help. Teachers are generally not given enough training in this area to deal with really complicated situations.

I tell students about 2 teachers who killed themselves when the girls threatened to go public. Another teacher was accused of inappropriate contact in class, and it took 4 years to clear his name. (the girls admitted the lied because they were mad about a test score) He then had to sue the school for back pay, and the State for his pension. He did nothing wrong and still lost his reputation.
It takes only one time in a career to lose everything. Then you are not there for other students who need you.

As a teacher, you are not a professional counselor. This is why the schools have a support system. Jill is right. CYA. Otherwise only the lawyers win.

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The story doesnt even tell you if they asked the teacher why he was talking to her on the phone. Just that he admitted to it. Why would they even let him still teach there? I know alot of girls who secretly talk to teachers. They all deserve to get caught and fired.

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