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With my first pregnancy, everything was done by the book. My OBGYNs were staunchly against inducing until a full two weeks after my due date. They were also against scheduling a C-section barring there was no medical reason to do so. In other words, they viewed pregnancy and birth as a natural thing that should happen when good and ready, not something that needed to be scheduled in time for a tennis match or dinner plans (theirs or mine).
This time around, nearly twenty months later, I received a slightly different tune. My child is due relatively near Halloween (my father's birthday and my favorite day of the year). I'd inquired if the two-week rule still applied as I thought there would be a slight possibility my child could be born on Halloween. My OBGYN wanted to know if I wanted to schedule an induction. She noted that a woman had recently done so because of childcare issues--she had to have the baby at a certain time in order to find someone to watch her other child.
So the message was a little different this time around. Have we gotten so busy and our lives so scheduled that we need to induce our labors in order to fit into them? Sure, no one likes the thought of not knowing when the baby will arrive--you could be in the middle of a subway ride or something--but isn't that half the fun and excitement, too? Some would say that fun and excitement have their place, but not when it comes to having a baby. They want to know exactly when and where (usually they've got the why and how figured out).
What about you? Would you or did you schedule an induction for something other than medical reasons or that it was two weeks past your due date? If so, why?
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9-01-2008 @ 10:41AM
Jenni said...What a sad testament to our time. Not only do we have to have babies on our own schedules; but now we have to have them in order to abandon them on our schedule as well!
So sad.
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9-01-2008 @ 11:02AM
Pam said...My daughter (1st) was born via c-section (breech/sunny side up) and was not a planed birth. It was so frightening to have it all going on at the last minute. Blood pressure went up, just pure craziness. My son (2nd) was also going to be a c-section, again breech and sunny side up, but planned and I was much easier going. Not sure if it was the 2nd time or the planning that made it easier on me, but if I had it to do all over again, I would probably plan it.
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9-01-2008 @ 12:49PM
Heather said...Childcare is not abandoning your child. For many families it is a reality. If both parents don't work they don't eat or have shelter. Telling people that if they can't afford to stay home then they shouldn't have kids ( which is what I hear soemtimes) would mean only the rich get to have kids.
As to having a child so as to secure a spot in child care I can see why a prent would have to do it. My son was recently kicked out of daycare because they need space for other kids. He was suppose to have 1 more year. He was kicked out because he doesn't have a sibling in the daycare. They gave 2 weeks notice. They were suppose to give 2 months. Finding a good daycare spot for a 5 yr old in our city is like finding a needle in a haystack. I was able to find one Thank God. If we didn't find this daycare one of us would have had to quit working, which means for us no food or shelter.
The economy is changing and no one can say "if you can't afford kids don't have them". Well what if your finances change for the much worse after you have kids. Should you give them up for adoption? What if the sole financial provider dies? What do those parents do with thier kids? What if she was pregnant when he died ( A friend of mine had this happen) and she needs that daycare spot now.
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9-01-2008 @ 1:00PM
Lindsey said...They said childcare for her OTHER child. As in, she wanted to make sure her firstborn was in safe care while she gave birth to their baby brother or sister. Totally understandable in my mind, particularly if someone didn't have friends or family nearby who could react to natural childbirth.
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9-01-2008 @ 4:51PM
Jamie said...My second child was scheduled due to the birth experience of the first. I enjoyed having my birth scheduled because it was easier for Grandma to watch my first born. She was in a new job and did not have vacation time. It was also easier on my Husband who was able to schedule some time off of work (2 weeks). If given a choice, I would have wanted it scheduled (assuming it would cause no harm to the unborn baby). It is easier for immediate and extended family.
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9-01-2008 @ 5:45PM
Katrina said...My first was scheduled but he was well over 2 weeks past due...over 20 days past due actually. But due to illness with myself and my doctor we did finally schedule and induction because he said it wasn't good to keep my son in so far past my due date.
My second was also scheduled (somewhat) They waited until she was a week over due and gave me the choice of between Friday or Saturday. I called my mom to see when she could watch my son without it interfering with her schedule.
Now with my third (due on Halloween) I was told by my new doctor who I love that since I have bigger babies and because I have a habit of going past my due date she will let me choose if I want to be induced prior to my actual due date (up to two weeks prior) or after my due date (no later than two weeks). I'd be happy to go into labor naturally but I know if I need to schedule an induction I can.
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9-02-2008 @ 2:21AM
ninainindia said...I am completely against scheduling a birth. Can't anything be natural anymore? If you can't even deal with the birth being unscheduled how are you going to deal with all the other unscheduled things children do?
I honestly don't understand why you'd have children if you go back to work the day after birth and pick your child up from daycare every day just to tuck them in at home, which means you basically spend no time with them on a daily basis.
If you choose to have children you have to adjust your schedule, work less hours or different hours but there is no excuse for only seeing your children in the weekends. Im sure a child rather has a parent than a two cars, vacations, disneyland etc.
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9-02-2008 @ 10:13AM
Lisa said...If the only way a person will have someone available to take care of their other children is to induce labor, there is no room for criticism. Yes, they could have a home birth, with all of their other children locked in the room and forced to watch so that the mom and dad can also keep an eye on those kids, but let's be reasonable. It's not a horrible thing to have a hospital birth and to have someone watching your kids while you do so.
Find something reasonable to complain about, people.
9-02-2008 @ 10:22AM
ninainindia said...I'm not complaining I'm just saying I don't agree. And if there is really a need there will be someone to watch your child. What if the mother got into an accident? The point is you can't plan life, there will always be unexpected things and I believe birth is one of the things where nature should take it's course (if medically possible).
9-02-2008 @ 4:56AM
Lori said...I had to be induced when the baby was 10 days late because my doctors were concerned abotu low fluid levels. With the next baby, if at all possible, I would like to wait until the baby is ready. I think labor/delivery would have been easier for me if my body and the baby were ready. I'd like to give my body the chance to labor naturally when it is prepared to do so.
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9-03-2008 @ 8:12PM
kw 980 said...being induced to make sure your child has proper care is not something to berate someone about. what are parents supposed to do if they live by no other relatives nearby? have the husband stay home while the mother drives herself to the hospital? it's a pratical solution. maybe not for everyone...but to each his or her own.
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9-03-2008 @ 8:15PM
J Jordan said...kw 980--who is berating here? Certainly not me. I just think it's interesting how the tune changed at the OBGYN. I am in the exact same boat you mentioned--it's just me and the husband and the kiddo up here, no family around. I think that's just the modern world we live in, hence why the OBGYNs are making such offers when they weren't before.
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