Tickle monster banned from park
Categories: Fun & activities, Weird but true
I thought I had invented the tickle monster, but apparently there are others out there roaming the streets and parks of America. Well, not so much in parks anymore, after a judge issued an order barring lawyer Charles R. Douglas from entering Miner Park in Glen Carbon, Illinois. He was charged with four misdemeanor counts of disorderly conduct for asking parents in the park if he could tickle their children.
The fifty-eight-year-old says that he has played the "tickle monster" game with children for years and enjoys hearing them laugh. It's "a joking thing that I do," he said of the game, adding that he never touches a child without the parent's permission. Douglas is understandably upset about the matter and calls the charges "the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen."
As I said, I play the tickle monster game with my kids and they always enjoy it. I suppose I do to, even though I get tuckered out long before the kids tire of the game. And while I wouldn't think of asking a parent I didn't know for permission to tickle their child, I can also believe that Douglas' intentions were perfectly honorable and that he was simply a middle-aged gentleman looking to have some childish fun.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 4)
Misty 9-07-2008 @ 7:44PM
The man was probably innocent, but these days one can never tell. Many years ago, when my son was only four months old, we went on a week-long trip to the beach. They had covered gazebos on the beach, so I spent most of the time sitting there, and other hotel guests would come by and coo at my new baby. No big deal...until one older man asked if he could take my baby for a walk down the beach. Of course I said no, and he became indignant that I apparently thought he was up to no good. He was just a lonely grandpa, he insisted, who missed his own grandkids. I stood firm, and eventually he left us alone.
I reported him to the hotel management, because if something had happened to some child because I kept silent, I could never have forgiven myself.
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Joe 9-08-2008 @ 10:51PM
Arrrggghhhh ----- have we become so cold when it comes towards our older folk that we deny a simple holding of a child (baby). Hey use your common sense ( by the way MOTHERS have always had that better than DADS --- and I am a DAD ). Why did you not accompany him with your 4 month old ( hello). You never mentioned how long ago this took place, but I would think, if YOU were in his shoes, you might be indignant as well. WE ARE ALL A COMMUNITY where we share OUR love ones either by conversation or whatever reaches out to be known to others.
Cavemen passed stories down for generations depicting how others would be shared in moments of anothers life , even if they were not related. Please view all people first with respect and then judge by the control you have to observe and react.
Brian 9-08-2008 @ 9:49PM
I guess once in jail he can tickle "Bubba" all day long.
Chuck 9-07-2008 @ 10:37PM
In the linked article, it says: "He said he's considering lawsuits against the police and against the people who made reports to police."
What the hell could he sue the people for? The right to tickle their children? What a creep.
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Serena 9-08-2008 @ 7:20AM
Um, wow. "Creep" is a polite way of putting it. I'm stunned anyone would assume innocence here. This man should be monitored.
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Nicola 9-08-2008 @ 1:57PM
Exactly. I'm sorry, but there are other ways to make a child laugh. Tickling involves very close physical contact and touching in a very personal way. There is NO WAY that a stranger should be allowed to tickle a child. Would it be ok if a stranger walked up and started poking at your ticklish bits? NO! It is creepy and way over the line of acceptable behaviour. Also makes me wonder about a man who asks permission to touch a child in such a personal way -- can't get in trouble for it because the parents said "ok". Very weird.
julie 9-08-2008 @ 8:26AM
Asking strangers if he can tickle their kids. This guy is a FREAK!!!
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Rosie 9-08-2008 @ 10:17AM
No, you may not tickle my kid middle-aged male stranger.
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LS 9-08-2008 @ 11:39AM
Sorry to rain on everybody's parade here, but this story horrified me. And not for the same reason that it offended everyone else.
Yes, it's creepy that this guy is going around asking to tickle little kids. And if he asked me to tickle my son, I'd run him off, baring my teeth like an Alpha Bitch protecting her pack.
But.
Is it just me? Am I the ONLY one that is shocked that this guy was ARRESTED for ASKING to tickle? He never touched the kids. As far as I know (and granted, I've only read Roger's write-up, and the linked article), he has never touched ANY child without a parent's permission, and without the parent being there.
Have we simply decided, as a society, that the Constitution is just so much toilet paper that should be ignored? This man has as much right to be vocally offensive as I have to be horrified. But he should not have been arrested.
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Glen 9-08-2008 @ 2:46PM
I too was wondering what the exact charge was that he was arrested on, then I read the article; "disorderly conduct" the catch-all charge for when police don't have anything specific but still want to give you "the ride".
Having said that; this guy obviously has some emotional need that isn't being met, and he's definately screwed up his chances of signing up with "Big Brothers".
lw 9-08-2008 @ 2:48PM
This man does NOT have the inalienable right to loiter in a park and harass parents and children. The "disorderly conduct" charge is an appropriate one is this case. Douglas' behavior is disruptive to others at the park, even though it may not present an actual public danger.
From The Telegraph news story, Douglas asked, if a mom would allow the children to "tickle the fuzzy bunny." "The suspect did not have a fuzzy bunny that was visible to (the victim)," the charge states.
It took 4 complaints over the past two months before the police acted to stop him. Now that the story has come out, who knows how many other parents or children will come forward?
Atina 9-08-2008 @ 3:20PM
I have to say, I agree. I think people should be able to ask for anything they want--freedom of speech is protected by our constitution. We certainly don't have to give people everything they ask for, particularly if it's that creepy and weird, but it scares me that a man can be arrested for asking.
John Leamer 9-08-2008 @ 3:26PM
Are you so surprised? All you have to do is read some of these responses to see that we no longer live by the Constitution in this country...we have been trained to live by judgement...there are no longer two sides to every story, fairness, compassion, objective thinking or discernment...there is opnionated, one sided, narrow minded judgement based on negative possibility...many people are SO focused on the negative actions of the few that the actions of ALL are judged by that standard, and that negative possibility is ACCEPTED as the ONLY possibility. People have forgotten goodness, good heartedness, innocence and good nature because they fear their opposites. And because they "heard" about or"read" about the travesties (few have actually experienced them) they are willing to sacrifice the "good stuff" so that they can maintain some semblance of control in life.
I remember playing tickle monster with my kids, my neices and nephews and neighbor children...they loved it. And so did I ! It made me laugh to hear them giggling and laughing and enjoying the experience of laughing. Many parents today would rather sacrifice that experience, that laughter, that fun...because they can't control their own vicious thoughts...their own "dirty minds"...their own judgemental attitudes toward thier fellow man...these are the people who can take an innocent older man whose only goal is to experience childhood laughter and turn him into somthing evil, ugly and sick...without knowing him, without knowing facts, without knowing circumstances...with one ugly thought of their own! HE is judged...not the one who created the insidious "possibility" in a fearful mind!
And MANY people ACT on these insidious thoughts, the fears are SO real in their heads they MAKE them real in their lives....and it starts with something as simple as typing a few judfemental words here...I was once ridiculed in a grocery store line for SMILING at a woman's child!!!! Imagine it people!!!! A society where YOU could be ARRESTED, taken to jail, fingerprinted, locked up and made to spend THOUSANDS of your own dollars to defend your actions, and possibly BANNED from grocery stores because you SMILED at a child in line....THAT'S what many of the people posting here today are creating....for themselves, their children and for us...courtesy works both ways. Politely decline if someone if someone suggests something that stirs up a dirty thought in your own mind, or if fear controls your reactions, or your instincts kick in to help you discern danger, by all means...but don't nail an innocent man to a cross verbally or with the written word because you yourself have lost the ability to recognize simple joy when you're presented with it and find the need to CONVINCE EVERYONE that you're RIGHT and everyone should agree with you and join you in perpetuating paranoia, angst and the very malicious acts of which so many of you apparently fear the most! USE your MINDS...child molestors don't ASK permission to molest your child. Kidnappers don't ASK parents' permission to steal their children. Rapists and thieves don't ASK permission to perform abominible acts! What this man had taken away was NOT his "right" to do those things...he was denied his right to ASK permission to play Tickle Monster with children...I don't want to live in a world where prisons are filled with Grandpas who miss the days when that simple childhood game is all the interaction they have with kids but it's judged by the paranoid, blogging, masses as perverse...because it ISN'T...or at least it WASN'T at one point in time, until you all created a society that now thinks otherwise...
I don't fell sorry for the gentleman in this article whose freedoms are at risk here...I feel sorry for those of you who are innocently creating a world where smiling is punishable by public denouncement and prosecution because some day, sooner or later, YOU will be at the receiving end to experience the frustration of what little joy you have left being taken away!
Kitty 9-08-2008 @ 2:38PM
My question is, what were the parents thinking when they said "yes" to this man tickling their kids?!!! I have no sympathy for him...he should be arrested for propositioning the parents so he can cop a feel on their kids. If he wants to tickle something, he should adopt a pet!
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crys 9-08-2008 @ 2:38PM
If I had a kid and some middle aged guy came up to me asking to tickle my child, I probably would be charged with assault. I'd punch the pervert out right there in order to protect the child from him. How dare this blogger assume that this man is innocent? It is not right and normal for a nearly 60 year old man to be walking around parks asking to tickle strangers' children. I'm glad the judge had more common sense than this blogger and stood up to the man. It is creepy and gross that some old man wants to put his hands on any child he doesn't know. EEEW!
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Vickie 9-08-2008 @ 7:11PM
Ummmmm.........last time I checked you were innocent until proven guilty in this country. Or have we changed that right as well ? Personally, I think if someone is offended by his asking to tickle their child, they should just SAY NO!!! What a concept. How do we leap from there, to "arrest the pervert"!! I do not think it is illegal to ask permission to do something. If he continues to harass after they've said no, then ok....that is something else entirely, but the article does not state that he did anything to harass people.
Wendy 9-08-2008 @ 2:40PM
I cannot believe some guy had the nerve to tickle a strange child! Even asking is reprehensible! Totally rude and inappropriate! The nerve of some people.
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deanna 9-08-2008 @ 2:48PM
In this day and age, unless you live under a rock, you should know better than to even THINK about going near someone else's child. It's just creepy and weird. And people get upset when I bring my five-year-old son into the women's bathroom with me...THIS IS WHY!!!! If we must now worry about "tickle monsters" in public parks, the men's restroom has just gotten even more scary. What is wrong with people these days???? I think he should be punished, if only to deter any other old creepy men. The gentle old grandpa defense doesn't work anymore, not in my mind. I don't care how old you are, or how lonely-if you need physical contact or something to make you smile, get a lapdog-but keep your hands off our kids.
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TookiToo 9-08-2008 @ 2:57PM
Not every body likes to be tickled let alone by some creepy man.
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Scott 9-08-2008 @ 3:02PM
WOW I had a Catholic Priest that used to try and play "tickle monster" with me, but of course I was 13 at the time. LOL
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