Dad not welcome in mom's club

Filed under: Just For Moms, Toddlers Preschoolers, Just For Dads

A father pushing a stroller at sunsetIf we had the financial wherewithal to allow it, I would love to be a stay-at-home dad. I would spend my days helping out at the kids' schools, taking them on all kinds of adventures, and, yes, getting together with other parents and kids for copious playdates. Luckily, where I live, stay-at-home dads are not unusual and I know that I would be welcome in pretty much any group of parents. That's not the case, however, everywhere.

Rick Kaselj moved to Surrey, British Columbia recently and found a local Mommy & Me club online. He joined the group and began receiving e-mails about their activities. As a part-time stay-at-home dad, it was a couple of months before he was able to attend one. When he finally found one that fit his schedule, he was told that the group was for mothers only. "I hate to discriminate," the e-mail he got read, "but hope you can understand when it comes to the security of our children and especially since you have not been able to attend a meetup."

"We talk about the things we went through during our pregnancies, our postpartum bodies and minds among various other things," wrote one of the group's members. "Unless this dad physically gave birth to his son, he would have little to talk about in that department." I guess educating guys about this sort of thing is out of the question because, after all, who wants an enlightened, understanding guy around?

The original founder of the group was horrified that the current organizer had decided to ban Kaselj. The two have since gotten together to start another, all-inclusive parenting group. I have to say, I'd rather join a group that doesn't discriminate based on gender, no matter how good the rationalization.

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AdviceMama Says:
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.