Julia Hudson speaks about son via MySpace

by Jennifer Jordan (Subscribe to Jennifer Jordan's posts) Nov 2nd 2008 1:05PM

Categories: Kids 5-7, In The News, Media, Religion & Spirituality

Jennifer Hudson

As we all know too well by now, actress and singer Jennifer Hudson's mother, brother and nephew were taken from her and her sister, Julia, in what is sure to be one of the biggest tragedies in Hollywood and America. Even more alarming than the murders themselves, it seems, is the media's way of capitalizing on the tragic events and bringing the public any and every detail possible while the family does what it can to simply get through the day. Their grief is played out on the front pages of rags, tabloids and respected journals alike, right next to the likes of who would win the world series. Rather than being a private matter, grief has become quite the opposite. So it should be no surprise that Julia Hudson, mother to the seven-year-old Julian, would choose to respond to the events over which she had no control, by taking to the ether herself. (Her sister, Jennifer, had previously used MySpace to post a reward for the return of her nephew.)

Julia recently posted a note to all the public who'd been praying for her and the return of her son. She thanked everyone for their kind words, their thoughts and prayers. At that point, Julian's body had been found. Julia further posted that her son was with his uncle and grandmother, and that there was some comfort in that.In essence, Julia shared all her grief with the world at large, strangers with access to every aspect of her life whether or not she wanted them to have it. Rather than resist it, Julia went with it, and used the media to perhaps help her through this awful, awful thing a tiny bit (if that's even possible). And that's the modern world for you. The days of reading obituaries in the papers over the weekend are over. I just hope Julia was able to take some little piece of comfort from knowing that the world was grieving with her, that they were on her side.

Was taking her pain to the Internet appropriate? Some would say it was uncouth, or disrespectful. I would counter that grief knows no rules, no logic. However Julia and her family choose to deal with the tragedy that has befallen them is up to them. I can't even begin to fully understand the devastation that comes from losing a loved one in cold blood, let alone a child. It seems to me to be the most horrible thing that could happen to a parent. And living through that, however it's possible, means there is no right or wrong. I doubt Julia Hudson got much solace from posting on MySpace, but that's what she chose to do. Jennifer, Julia and we at ParentDish are connected only by the Internet; thus, let us use it to express to them our sympathy, condolences and sadness. Our thoughts are with you, even if only through the ether.

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Kirstie 11-02-2008 @ 2:18PM

I don't think it's disrespectful or "uncouth" to have posted on her myspace about it. She's in terrible, devastating pain, and any way of releasing that pain and trying to work through it she's entitled to. I had a post on my myspace the day after my best friend died, my senior year of high school - I had to get out my feelings, and in writing on myspace I was not only speaking to the person I had lost but to everyone else who had lost her and was suffering the same way I did.

Being in the public eye the was Julia Hudson is, it's even more so understandable. This tragedy's become a media frenzy, and so many people have followed the story. Many of them have honestly prayed for her family and for her to want to reach out and thank them for their prayers and good thoughts in her time of need is understandable, as well.

Don't slam the poor woman for needing to reach out to someone, anyone, with everything else she's going through.

Joy 11-02-2008 @ 3:23PM

I agree with Kristie. However this family wants to handle this I feel is up to them. There is no right or wrong way to handle our grief.

LOVE& HAPPINESS 11-03-2008 @ 11:35AM

OUT OF RESPECT FOR HER SISTER AND SELF, SHE SHOULD HAVE SIMPLY REMOVED HER MY SPACE PAGE, I READ IT, IT WAS AWFUL, SHE USED THE P' WORD SEVERAL TIMES, ALL SHE TALKED ABOUT WAS SEX, HOME GIRL WAS CLOWNING TO SAY THE LEAST, I FEEL FOR HER IN MY SOUL, SORRY FOR ALL OF HER LOSS, I HOPE THAT SHE FINDS GOD, HER MYSPACE SAID A LOT ABOUT HER.

Kristy 11-03-2008 @ 6:31PM

I don't think the problem is her going onto MySpace to thank people for their kind words, prayers, etc. The problem is, in my opinion, is that she took the time to log onto MySpace to write the Thank You message , yet, she could not take the 2 seconds to delete "Flex" or better yet, just make her page private. I understand that she was or is married to the guy, but , COME ON!!! I just think it's a little strange...

elle 1-22-2009 @ 4:21PM

Priorities in the wrong place and poor choices have led us to where we are today with this tragedy. The only one who had no choice in this was Julian and the real tragedy is that his young life was snuffed out before he ever had a chance to make a difference in a neighborhood plagued with poor choices. This is a sad day in Chicago. Jennifer was fortunate enough to climb out of the cesspool. When this is over, I pray that she leaves this all behind her and continues to move forward.

nicole 11-09-2008 @ 11:06AM

yes it is a sad sitation, but it is so common now a days to see family taken part in murdering their family that it is on a lot of minds that Julia could have played a part in it. How often does she stay away from home, that she was not there that night? In one press conference she did say she handed her son (God rest his soul) off to her mother (God rest her soul) and went to bed. Did a birdie tell her to get out early the next morning because that is when the tragedies took place. If William Balfour had a hand in it, when and if they charge him with the murders, you can best believe he will emplicate someone else. We all have an opinion in the matter and obviously are following it closely to know when she made her page private and the things she said. If she wanted to be the famous one or jealous because she wa not she is surely in the spotlight now. She may have had love for her brother, but reading the captions to some of the pictures and on her profile, she didn't care for him too much either. An article stated that all the men in her life were in the same gang. The husband, the father of her son and the brother. What's the truth to that? Was the world shocked when Susan Smith killed her kids, what about Andrea Yates and the guy from England who killed his wife and shot his 9 month old daughter. Yeah the list goes on, and what makes Julia any different; nothingm but the color of her skin. Let's just pray that the right people will be punished for this horrible crime. Who knows because she was the oldest did she stand to get a heap of life insurance money? The truth will hoepfully be revealed soon, William goes to court on Monday, but you can best believe if they release him because of his parole, someone will be going in. If he is innocent pray for his safety.

fournana 11-10-2008 @ 11:43AM

The loss of a mother is hard, worse for the lost of a child. However, I just don't understand how in the midst of it all you find time as soon as you receive the news that your only child has been found murdered, you are on myspace. Not to mention updating your entire myspace. Yes, everyone handles grief in their own way, but I think she could have at least waited until after he (Julian) was laid to rest. Jennifer felt to respond to her fans because of her fame, that was the least she could do. Jennifer has stayed out of the public eye. The comments that Julia has made on myspace really says a lot about what type of person, sister, daughter and mother she is. There's a lot more to this we have yet to hear.

mimi 11-14-2008 @ 1:24PM

I lost my first child many years ago long before the internet was so widely available. I told every stranger i met about my baby death..... it helped me to talk about it... it eased my pain....more often than not i was composed but cried myself to sleep every night for ever....who are we to judge... no two human being are the same.....Please just pray for the family and let the authorities do their job.

PoeticTonez 12-01-2008 @ 11:48PM

I can't tell if she is grieving or what..... very strange person, she is. A few cans short of a six pack.

Latia 12-04-2008 @ 10:38AM

I don't see anything wrong with her blogging on myspace. When my grandmother died i wrote in my journal that was pre-intenet of course but I think that I would write anywhere that I think will help me get over my grief. There is no comparison between her and Susan Smith or anyone else mentioned. She dropped her child off that night because she had to work the next morning and he had the day off from school. She did not kill her child like those women did. BAD COMPARISON

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