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When Matt Lauer and Meredith Vieira started a segment on marriage this morning, Meredith quickly got herself in a sticky situation. The question was: What is the right age to get married? Meredith shared her own experience, then asked Matt how old he was when he first took that big step.
Matt stammered, Meredith blushed, and a cameraman yelled, "Niiice!" Matt's been divorced once, and he and his second wife separated in 2006. The couple has now reconciled. (See the video here.)
While this was clearly an embarrassing, yet forgivable, faux pas between two friends, I'm wondering, what is the proper etiquette when someone has been married before? I have several friends who had early, short marriages that ended in divorce and are happily remarried now. It rarely comes up in conversation, but what do you do when you accidentally bring it up? Or unwittingly make them admit to it in mixed company?
In the case of my friends, it depends on the situation. Some still have hard, painful feelings, while others can joke about their impulsive youth. So while Matt laughed off Meredith's mistake, some friends might not be able to see the humor in the situation.
How do you handle things when married friends have been divorced before?













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11-11-2008 @ 9:50PM
Sue Dee said...Married before?!? LOL!
At the ripe old age of 60, at least 1/2 of all of my friends/acquaintances (young and old) have been married before, at least once, and some even more than once.
Awkward?
Not in my lifetime! It makes for some of the funniest stories I can tell! And it puts everyone at ease. So, if that's a problem... get over it!
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11-11-2008 @ 9:52PM
LOU said...We were married at age 18 and celebrated our 65th anniversary in May--but I don't know how long this is gonna last===
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11-11-2008 @ 9:52PM
LOU said...We were married at age 18 and celebrated our 65th anniversary in May--but I don't know how long this is gonna last===
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11-11-2008 @ 9:52PM
BrianIsRight said...If 50% of marriages end in divorce, I am guessing the other 50% end by death. It won't take your kids long to realize divorces happen when half their friends deal with it! All joking aside, divorce at a young age is better than a lifetime of unhappy marriage. The problem with most divorces is that adults are immature about the process, and the kids become another pawn in the divorce.
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11-11-2008 @ 10:00PM
Don said...Who cares what he thinks. Or how he might feel about it. Does anyone think he would think twice abour bringing it up to someone he would be interviewing? Or maybe even cramming it down the throat of his viewers? Trying to put someone on the spot? He wouldn't think twice. He would relish the opportunity. Of course depending on who the interviewee might be.
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11-11-2008 @ 10:14PM
cndy said...i don't think she meant anything by it. these people tend to get married, divorce then married again then divorce. its hard to keep up. im sure she did not mean anything by it. he should not be so sensitive. if you are keep out of segments that could embarrse you.
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11-11-2008 @ 10:22PM
A. Mancin said...Who gives a damn about Matt's divorce or anything else in his private life. The guy is a jerk, anyhow.
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11-11-2008 @ 10:24PM
Tory D said...I have been married 27 times in 30 years. When someone asks me when I got married, I say 1981, 1983, 1984, 1985 all the way up to 2008. Then I say the divorces were ALL their faults.
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11-11-2008 @ 10:48PM
Vincent said...Like the song says, Everything counts in large amounts, but in view of the new standards of billions & trillions, pusha!
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11-11-2008 @ 11:58PM
Emmy said...I tried to find anything in Meredith's question that would call for her or Matt to be embarassed. I see I'm not the only one who missed it. Lighten up people, so many have been married, divorced, remarried or not, all for various reasons. What's the shame?
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11-11-2008 @ 10:54PM
Patty said...I see nothing wrong with her question. It was a segment on marriage, where that is a normal everyday kind of question to be asked. Who's making this an issue....Matt lauer....OR YOU??!!
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11-11-2008 @ 10:54PM
DAH said...Ok, so Meredith ventured into territory that was 'uncomfortable' - so what. I have been married & divorced twice... and was fortunate to leave on amicable terms both times. In fact, I'm still in regular contact with my 2nd and I'm that much better for it. Guess I'm just fortunate.
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11-11-2008 @ 11:03PM
JW Fry said...ARE YOU ALL KIDDINGG ME? She was castigated because she has Conservative leanings. She is not allowed to ask a personal question of the Chosen Bald One
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11-16-2008 @ 11:06PM
Anne said...Divorce~it is what it is. It's not a bad thing if you can come out on the other side of it with your dignity still in tact, if you can breathe better and walk with your head level. Those days of being label "divorced" with a capital "D" are gone. It's better to come from a stressful amd miserable marriage than to keep on living in one. If you are sensitive to your divorce than you could be carrying a big helpiing of guilt or you haven't adjusted to it, yet.
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11-11-2008 @ 11:05PM
Owen said...Geez, what a mountain out of a molehill! Everybody gets hit upside the head with an unintentional faux pas once in a while. The trick is to just let it slide by. Kind of like when you're in a crowd and you fart, give the guy next to you the stink eye and keep on truckin'!
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11-11-2008 @ 11:10PM
janet said...REALLY - WHO CARES ABOUT MATTLAUER AND HIS STUPID DIVORCE. MAYBE SHE HAS GOOD REASON TO DIVORCE HIM. HE'S AJERK!!
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11-11-2008 @ 11:17PM
clarissat2001 said...I got married at age 16, we just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary this year. We have a son who is 23, a daughter who is 21, and another daughter who is 18 and the mother of my grandbaby who turned 5 months old today.
I could not imagine my life without him. He has been a great father, husband and best friend. He is the reason that we have been able to keep it together all these years. We have had so many ups and downs but we pulled together and made it through.
I am proud that we stuck together even though everyone said we would not last a year because we were too young.
I knew in my heart that it would work out.
It doesn't always work out like that and that is what I tell my kids.
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11-11-2008 @ 11:18PM
Mike G said...There`s a war going on our troops are in harms way what the hell do I care if a fucking liberal is offended by some bitch liberal there are more important things in life get a life!!!!!!!!!
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11-11-2008 @ 11:27PM
Dan G. said...I avoid the situation when ever possible. I don't want to cause any one embersement for my friends or myself.
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11-11-2008 @ 11:44PM
Monica C. said...I don't get it...why was this such a big deal? Who gives a s***? Damn, is the whole world so sensitive that you worry about every little thing you say to everybody? Whatever happened to thick skin...rolling with the punches....letting it roll off your back???? WTF!
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