Biting - When Toddlers Attack!
Filed under: Opinions
Recently, my child was bitten at daycare. Actually, it happened twice in as many weeks. A little detective work uncovered that it was, in fact, the same child who bit my son on both occasions. At first I was mad--that it happened in the first place, that my son was hurt, and then that it was allowed to happen again. Then I felt sorry for the other parent, as I could imagine what it would be like if it were my son doing the biting. Honestly, if this doesn't stop my son might start biting back--and I can't say I would blame him.
I spoke to the staff members who were working at the time of both incidents. They noted that my son, having recently moved from the infant room to the toddler room, was still using his hands to communicate rather than his words; he'd taken something from the biter's plate at snack time, which prompted the other child to bite him. I can see why a little kid might bite in order to protect his food, but that's not acceptable. Even less OK is that my son was allowed to sit next to him again, thereby allowing the action to occur again.
The staff, who were very apologetic and who wrote up incident reports, said that the only repercussion was that they would speak to the parent of the biting child. After polling my colleagues at ParentDish, it was noted that most daycares have a three-strikes (in this case bites) and you're out rule. I don't know it that's fair or not. All I know is that my son continues to be bitten and there is nothing I can do about it. Or is there? I don't want to see anyone get kicked out of daycare, but I don't want my son to get bitten anymore. He's already nervous about being left there now--and I can see why. I wouldn't want to get left somewhere that I could be bitten either.