Kate Gosselin - Her Side
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Kate Gosselin of Jon and Kate Plus 8
Do you ever wonder what life would be like if you had one more child? How about two more? How about SIX more?
Four years ago, Jon and Kate Gosselin went from being parents of two to parents of eight, and their lives have never been the same.
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Today we all have a window into that life on TLC's Jon and Kate Plus 8. And of course, part of peeking into someone else's life is hypothesizing how we might do things differently or better, because it's always easy to imagine what you would do in someone else's shoes.
What is harder to imagine is what it would really be like to walk in those other shoes -- what's it like to wake up every morning and be Kate Gosselin? ParentDish had a chance to ask her just that recently.
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In a normal week, the Gosselins have a television crew in their house about half the time, which is a lot, if you think about it. And while they will occasionally opt out of filming specific moments with their kids, the Gosselins have no editorial control over the show -- what you see is what you get, packaged by a team of folks at Discovery and TLC. But, Kate says, this is reality TV, and it accurately reflects life at the Gosselin house; nothing is pre-planned or made up. "We don't have time to memorize scripts," she jokes.
I believe that.
"We set out to show the truth," Kate says, "I couldn't watch it if it weren't true." What you see, in every televised moment, is precisely what is happening -- no stage directions or do-overs. This is life at the Gosselin house.
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Kate Gosselin has gotten quite a bit of flak, both from the media and from viewers, for the way she treats her husband; the two are often shown bickering during the show. Kate says the criticisms don't bother her; she doesn't Google herself or make a practice of reading about herself on or off line. "Everyone has an opinion," she says, "and I'm only paying attention to my own." But she does admit that the way the show is edited affects how people see her family and her marriage. "If Jon and I have three spats over a two day period, they're going to edit it to make it look like those happened in the 22 minute period." The show is just a small slice of her family's life, after all.
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Kate is clearly focused not on what goes on outside her family but on her children. Her goal, she says, is to treat each child like an only child -- a hard thing to do when you're the mom of eight. "I hold myself to a very high standard," she says. At the same time, though, she's not trying to be perfect, or even to appear perfect to viewers of the show. She's just living her life.
And yes, she's living it with television cameras in her house, but it's still her real life. Kate says that while the experience of being on television has changed her life, it hasn't changed who she is. She says the same about having eight children -- "It's hard to live through what we have lived through and not change. We are the same -- it's how people treat us" that is different.
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One of the hardest things about her family, Kate says, is the noise; there are days when the older girls, Cara and Mady, come home from school and their reports about what they have done are drowned out by the noise of the sextuplets. More than anything, she says, she longs for peace and quiet -- otherwise, she would not change a thing about her life.
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Kate finds the humor in her life -- recently, she partnered with P&G to help promote some of their brands, including Bounty paper towels, which she refers to as "my weapon of choice." She also laughs about the end of nap time at the Gosselin house; the sextuplets are four now and no one, Kate says, naps any more. But it's a rare night that the family gets through dinner without someone dozing off at the table. Recently, Jon said, "I think we can kiss goodbye ever having a family dinner again." A good night, Kate said, is when the kids push their plates out of the way before they fall asleep.
You have to laugh about that, and Kate Gosselin does.
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The Gosselins have a strong faith in God; they are often seen on the show wearing t-shirts with scripture on them and attending church. But despite the fact that the show doesn't highlight their faith, the Gosselins see it as an opportunity to share what they believe. Their website, The Gosselin 10, includes prayers and devotionals, and Jon and Kate travel around speaking to various churches and groups about their life and faith. The show, Kate says, has given them this opportunity to share what they believe.
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And for the Gosselins, being on television is about opportunity, not fame. The show has opened a variety of doors for them; Kate and Jon both work from home, which makes their life as parnents of eight more manageable. But it's not easy by any means -- there are days, Kate says, when she and Jon work until midnight.
Kate has three pieces of advice for other parents. "Every morning, before my feet hit the floor," she says, "I pray for strength, just enough to get through that day." She reminds parents that a sense of humor can get you through nearly everything -- laugh, she says, don't cry. And finally, the most important lesson of all: "Always remember that bedtime comes, every single day."
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ReaderComments (Page 4 of 49)
12-11-2008 @ 8:28AM
Jeanne said...I am extremely impressed with the children. They are well-behaved and their parents are doing a wonderful job with them. However, if I spoke to my husband the way Kate speaks to Jon, I would expect him to put up with it for about ten minutes. She treats him like another one of the children at best, like a dog at worst.
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12-11-2008 @ 7:43AM
Lee said...I have enjoyed the show, but this is the first week I turned it off in the middle. I was tired of the tirades coming from Mady. The producers need to know that her whining and breakdowns are grating to the viewers. Who needs an hour of that? Most people teach their children that whining gets you nowhere. It is just going to get worse as she gets older. Hopefully it won't affect the younger children. Cara is a sweetheart.
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12-12-2008 @ 2:01PM
calicus27 said...Seriously... You had to turn the show off?? Why don't you complain a little bit more. Mady isn't that bad. I'm sure you were probably a whiny kid when you were around her age. And whining to the producers isn't getting you anywhere.. I happen to love the show and think Kate and Jon do an awesome job. Keep up the good work. Peace
12-11-2008 @ 5:12PM
lasaund said...I agree that Maddie is awful-I think she acts that way for attention-even negative attention is attention-kate says it's her blood sugar levels ect.which could be a little true-but she is too much most of the time-I stopped watching becaause of her bratty ways-it drives me nuts.Why doesn't someone bring it to the producers attention that they are losing viewers because of that kid.She is going to be quite a handful when she hits the teenage years-Good thing they have money now-they will need it for thearpy.
12-11-2008 @ 7:46AM
Donna said...It seems that almost everything I ever read about the Gosselin's is negative in regard to Kate. If you ask me, that's a bit unfair. Of course she has melt-downs (even public ones), but who wouldn't? I only raised 2 children (5 years and 1 day apart in age) and even I had melt-downs. Imagine raising 8 kids....a set of twins and a set of sextuplets only 3 years younger. I'll bet if anyone out there throwing out the criticism were to be placed in the same scenario as Kate, wouldn't react any differently. Give the lady a break. She's doing a wonderful job raising these 8 little angels that God gave her.
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12-11-2008 @ 8:50AM
DebbieC03 said...I agree with Donna. I absolutely cannot believe the venom people have toward Kate. With the exception of Mady...who...WOW...what can I say?....those kids are lovable, happy & beautiful. There is obviously a lot of love in this house. I had 3 kids and I can just be grateful I didn't have cameras watching my every move. She is REAL and guess what...moms have meltdowns. Re: free vacations and stuff....Jon & Kate have REPEATEDLY said how blessed they are. That if not for this show, they would never be able to afford to do the things they do. It's obvious the crew is part of their family and love those kids to pieces. At least they are not living off the system. Why can't people give them a break?
12-11-2008 @ 9:03AM
Ermzie said...The "cameras watching their every move" is done by their own choice. What I don't understand is how this became a TV series in the first place. So somebody has a large family....I don't care to watch every little thing they do all day long. However they raise their children is their business and it doesn't belong on TV as though it is entertainment.
12-11-2008 @ 10:50AM
Kathie said...Oh gosh, you're right, I had only one, but I had meltdowns, and they got less frequent as my son got older, which is exactly what happens with Kate. When they're younger and crying and you have to guess what's wrong it's just frustrating. They get older and can tell you what's wrong and the meltdowns fade into the back. My son's 25 now and works for homeland security, has a home and family, so I think he survived and did well. I like Kate, she seems like she'd be fun to hang out with at the zoo or the beach, and her kids seem like they'd be totally fun to hang out with too, they're at the perfect age where they'll say something funny and not realize it and just be fun and cute. I think they're all adorable, Mady included, and Kate seems to not feed into it, eventually she'll stop with the meltdowns too, she'll outgrow them. These are just kids, and like Kate says, they are going through all the developmental stages at the same time so they're not going to be perfect angels 24/7. You gotta take the good with the bad and treat them kindly and they'll be fine.
12-11-2008 @ 2:55PM
Liz said...oh i completely agree...i love the show and think she's doing a wonderful job. i know i sure as hell couldnt handle that many kids, and shes doing the best she can. their kids are beautiful and pretty well behaved i think. except mady, yes. she was just definetly meant to be an only child. i just hope that she gets over it soon lol.
in reaction to the comment about the Duggers..those kids are so sheltered. they are going to crash and burn in the real world. who doesnt kiss their "fiance" before marriage?! thats just insane. i actually feel sorry for them. and you know that the older kids are totally raising the younger ones. they're just strange and arnt normal.
12-29-2008 @ 6:01PM
Theresa said...We have eight kids I had 4 kids 1 month - 5 years old. When we got 4 more due to a death in the family. Yes I dont have 6 the same age but the oldest was 12 years old and the younest was 1 month old. I thank God for the help that was given to me. We lived in a Rural Housing home but that was the only help we recieved. I thank God for the struggles we had My kids learned to work hard, share and give without recieving. I believe that hard times builds character. We now have 17 grandchildren. By the way Kate times your family by 4 that is how much your family multiplies by when they grow up. Good luck but there are people that do raise a large family without any outside help and are sucessfull.
12-11-2008 @ 7:53AM
DJ said...These children are very very unhappy, always crying. Never smiling. What a childhood.
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12-11-2008 @ 11:06AM
C Smith said...What show are you watching? Those children are very happy and LOVED!!!! It's very evident that they are a typical family. I had five children and I can relate to some of the melt downs, the sibling rivilary and the hitting and shoving that goes on. If anyone tells me their children don't act like that sometimes, then they are not very observant parents. In other words you don't know what's going on in your own home.
12-11-2008 @ 12:37PM
Lori PItas said...DJ - You are nuts. Those are normal kids. Kids fall down and cry, its part of growing up. I see them laughing all the time. What show are you watching?
12-11-2008 @ 8:07AM
MsEllie said...I enjoy the show and often wonder how Kate and Jon cope when the cameras aren't going. All in all they have a wonderful group of kids. I read an article about them and although it looks like they are always getting free stuff the truth is they struggle like everyone else. If I'm not mistaken Jon got laid off not long after the sextuplits were born. Jon does work, he started his own company and often works from home now so he can help out with the kids. As if often the case with multiple births companies are good about donating the necessities. The trips and vacations are an added perk for them because their situations is so unique.
However, I have to agree with some of the other postings about Kate and Maddie. Kate definitely has some control and anger issues. Her massive meltdowns can be down right embarrassing. I've noticed she can be very rude and condesending to Jon during their interview sessions too. I don't believe she's never noticed how she comes across since they've often talked about how they watch the episodes of the show. How could she not know how she comes across.
Don't get me wrong, Jon has his moments too just not as often as Kate. The way they speak to each other, especially during their interviews is shocking at times. There are defintely cracks in their relationship. Their life has to be demanding and chaotic as it is, why they add to the choas and invite all those camera's into their home for 3 days a week is beyond me. As for Maddie, she's a lot like her Mom....way too much drama. She's way too angry and controlling for a six year old. Jon and Kate would be well advised to give Maddie a reality check before it's too late and she's completely out of control.
Unfortunately, as with most reality show there is always that one person (usually a female) who plays the villian b&*%# and in this show it is Kate. It's sad but this is the type of behavior that draws viewers and higher ratings.
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12-11-2008 @ 8:00AM
Tracey said...I think they are both doing a great job. I can't even imagine having 8 kids so young ,a camera crew and extras in your house all the time. What I see is Kate and Jon are the ones taking care of their children.
Not nannies or helpers, they don't seem to have much alone time. Everyone has melt downs, we just don't have a camera crew around to catch it. They are also supporting their family and letting us see what it would be like to have a wonderful, busy and exhausting family like they have. Opening up your home and family to the public brings the good, bad and the ugly. Not everyone would like this. I would like to say, THANKS FOR THE LAUGHS.
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12-17-2008 @ 8:02AM
gloria said...right no nannies or helper on CAMERA that is!!!
12-11-2008 @ 8:26AM
Linda said...I agree with DJ .. there does not seem to be the spontaneous joy that children exhibit; they seem tense and ready to cry at a moment's notice. As a couple, I beleive they are a mismatched duo. Now for the good news. At the end of the day, when all is said and one, the children live in a clean home with an abundance of proper foods and good clothing. And in this day and age, those things are almost a rarity.
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12-11-2008 @ 8:28AM
evilgreen said...Of course she is a bitch. They have 8 kids. lol. I go nuts with my 3 boys(9, 6, and 1). John does have a job. i believe it is some sort of IT work. I love the show, and they do have their lovey moments, but like I said with 8 kids, its gotta be hard. No one is perfect. Why dont you got take theor place for one day. Let's see who has a melt down then. LOL
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12-11-2008 @ 3:03PM
UniStudent said...Jon does not have a job!! If he did, what kind of job lets you take 6 vacations a year? The Gosselins make all of their money off of the show, and all the other oppourtunities that have come from the show. They got the show because of their children, so they are making money off of their children.
Do a little research.
12-11-2008 @ 7:45PM
evilgreen said...Although Jon became unemployed while Kate was expecting the sextuplets, he did become gainfully employed after their birth. We learned that he was an IT Analyst, employed by the State of Pennsylvania. Reportedly, Kate begged a local politician to find her husband a job. A government job is a great thing to latch onto! Granted, these jobs aren't always high paying, but the benefits are great. Most of these jobs provide health care, life insurance, paid vacations, paid holidays, and most importantly a Pension Plan. In these days of uncertainty a planned retirement is like gold. No worrying about if you can retire when you reach the retirement age. A monthly check will be there for the taking.
Apparently Jon quit this job to sit home and ride the Gravy Train that his children created. Yes, we've heard he was working for family friend, Bob Carson. Then we heard he's working for himself. The bottom line is this topic really isn't discussed on the show, so we really aren't privy to know what he's really doing. It appears to be nothing, unless you count staying home to help Kate manage the house and children. We've seen other helpers so it's questionable if Jon is needed at home on a daily basis. We don't really see Kate over-exert herself, but we do hear her complain about how exhausted she is most of the time.